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Topic: Please HELP! pisces weakness for the messed up?
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Neverland
Knowflake Posts: 28
From: UK
Registered: Aug 2010
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posted April 09, 2011 01:13 AM
  
So I am a Piscean, Scorpio ascending.
I am in a long term relationship with a Gemini man who is amazing, we currently live in different cities, we used to see each other pretty much every week, at the moment we only see each other about once every three weeks as were going through an extremely busy period which will be over next month!So I work with a guy who is a Taurus-Gemini cusp (21 May) and recently we started getting talking, we really get on and decided to hang out as friends. One night out we ended up kissing but obviously im in a relationship and nothing can happen. The thing is, as we've started to get to know each other he one of the most messed up people I’ve ever come across...The problem is he doesn't open up to anyone but as usual people always open up to me and he has, and he is such a damaged soul, out of the 6-7 times we've hung out hes ended up in tears about 3-4 of them. Hes been hurt is scared and hurt, but puts on a persona like he doesnt care about anything and has no intention so settling down. The problem is I know he really likes me, and everytime I talk to him I have this overwhelming feeling that I can save him, in the week weve been hanging out together weve turned his life around completely! after we kissed I knew i should stop hanging out with him for his sake and mine, but every time he calls me asking if he can please see me (even if its us sitting for hours just talking) I cant say no, I know I should but I physically cant, I love my bf, were moving in together in a few months and i know hes the man i want to be with without a single bit of doubt in me, but im scared this obsession with saving people is going to tempt me to give up my happiness and my choice to save him. What can i do to stop this? I don’t want to, cant, hurt him, but I cant stop him falling in love with me as I feel like i have to save him..... Pleas help!
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lunatic
Knowflake Posts: 162
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 09, 2011 02:01 PM
You are a sensitive woman but at the same time you have to admit, you enjoy to be the savior. I will tell you what I do. I wanna live with the TRUTH. It's a great opportunity if you can help this guy feel better, stronger.. but what else honestly can you offer him? Even if he needs your love, are you able, honestly give it to him?
Try with words and actions to draw the line. Be clear with what you offer to him and what kind of relationship you can have with him. You should be honest with your boyfriend, too. You don't want to end up hurting him for no real reason, I mean you are not in love with someone else?
Well, if your new friend doesn't accept the kind of help you can give him, you should move on.. Be strong.
Good luck 
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 620
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 04, 2011 02:35 PM
I am a Pisces female with a Scorp asc, Taurus moon and a hell of alot of Aqua~I have seen the martyr complex in some of those attuned to Neptune/Pisces, but not usually from a Pisces sun. Yes we do have feelings and empathy for the messed up, but one has to draw the line at that. Maybe it is my Neptune in the 12th, but I tend to love people for the paths that they are on and respect them for their choices. Even when people come to me for help, I tend to advise them to follow their hearts and do what they feel they need to do. I cant save anybody, not even myself, all I can do is muddle my way through life. blessings t~~ IP: Logged | |
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