posted April 25, 2011 11:28 PM            

Are you meeting new people and doing new things or too focused on how bad the break-up hurts? With time and new adventures, this might not be so tough, honestly and might even realize the break-up was for the best.

posted April 26, 2011 11:34 AM            

Sunday night he wanted to have "one last night" with me and said that we both needed this. He then told me that he does not love me and only that night proved it.

He was the one to initiate the breakup. We have broken up many times in the past, he always initiated it, i guess it was some kind of power control issue he has. We did fight ALOT, but that never got in the way of my love for him. He would get into his silent mode and i'd have to wait it out, then he'd come back and act like nothing happened. I endured alot and had patience like no other. His own mother was like i don't know how you do it. I am a strong believer in working through problems, if you truly love someone.

I don't know alot about charts and stuff. But my birthday is Feb 27th 1986 and his is October 24th 1985.

I have been thinking about this situation. I am trying to figure out if it's because he found someone new or if its because he wants to give this girl(that he BARELY knows) what he talked so much about with me which is eventually marriage and a family. We were planning to move in together too. I have put alot into building a strong relationship with him. Im not getting any younger you know, my biological clock as they say is tick ticking. So it's like for him to now tell NO to what hes talked about for years with me and just pull it from under me to now want to give it to a stranger just really took a toll on me. He said he doesn't want anything serious with anyone right now and that in the next two years he wants to settle down and have kids and then He basically threw it in my face and said "Well im planning on marrying "Florida" and having kids with her, I love her." And i asked him if what he said about not wanting anything serious with anyone is a lie and he responded yes it was. I am in shock disbelief and i dont know what other words to describe how i feel. He's been so cruel and cold about it. It's just beyond me how he could treat me this way.

He told me that last night i saw him that we are on different paths and there is no way he can go back to continue what we had. He said our foundation is too broken, together with my past and his past, he just can't do it. To me i dont care about all that, because everyone in every relationship has problems and fight. He also worries alot about what people think. He also said who knows maybe in the future if our paths were to cross again, we'll deal with it then.

He is going through a hard time right now. The day after he got back from Miami, his dear uncle passed away and now he might be getting laid off from his job and its been a horrible month for him.

posted April 28, 2011 08:52 PM            

But that sounds like a really rough ride and I am truly sad to hear it. Even sounds a little similar to what I went through. So many deep, beautiful promises made, only to be totally reneged, abolished. Mine was with a pisces/aries girl, ha.

Honestly though, you deserve better. Ya, being patient is good, but at some point, is the hurt worth it? I mean, what if he just plays these power games when he has you "trapped" (in marriage or with children). I say trapped because it is so much harder to end things when children are involved, and he might feel like he can get away with even more once you are more "set".

I would be very strong and move on, as slowly as you need to if need be, but always moving away, don't look back.

posted May 02, 2011 08:53 PM            

She's a Taurus, and I've read about Scorpio men and Taurus women, either love each other or hate each other, no inbetween. I guess they really hit it off when they first met. He said it just felt right, that they just clicked. I don't know if its just lust, and illusion or if he's desperately trying to move on. He has talked to few other girls before he met her, but they were all short lived unions. I mean is this normal for scorpio men to just jump from one person to another and juggle alot of girls at once?

I have been putting things into perspective and the fact that he's been talking to this girl, and telling me that he's not serious about her because she lives in Florida, then telling me hes planning to marry her, meanwhile he spent one night with me and a week later goes to see her? I mean that is just disgusting if you ask me. I am disappointed in myself that I gave him that "one last night" he wanted. Because its like he got what he wanted and im just left here. I know with a scorpio, you dont say goodbye to them, they say goodbye to you, that whole power, control issue, and that's exactly what he did before he walked out the door. He said a very cold "Goodbye." I don't know if he was trying to prove to himself that hes done for good or what it could be. Even though this hurts me a tremendous amount, i wish him well.

posted May 05, 2011 10:31 AM            

Don't have any immediate words of wisdom that spring to mind, but I do feel for you. What a difficult situation to be in... ((((hugs))))

Perhaps this is happening for a reason, and this isn't your destiny, but will prepare you to be stronger so when your destiny rolls along, you are ready?

Be strong, you'll get through this. And if anything, pity the poor girl in Florida - the same thing is going to happen to her soon enough, and it won't take nearly as long as it did with you now he's practised his childish ways.

(((hugs)))

Rachel

posted May 05, 2011 10:56 AM            

I have been focusing more on myself and doing what i need to do for me. I had become so consumed in that relationship and i completely lost myself. But i have put that all behind me now and i have come to the point where enough is enough!

posted May 05, 2011 01:48 PM            

LindaLand is a really great place, full of words of wisdom and love - hope you'll stick around and continue to post?

Rachel x

posted May 05, 2011 10:22 PM            

Rachel, I do pity the girl, for she has not a clue, that he was with me just a week before he went to see her. Maybe she will be the one to teach him a lesson. I was too much of a saint with him, but it's just in my nature, i guess being to nice comes back to bite you in the ass. But hey, GOOD RIDDANCE!

p.s.- i will definitely continue to post on here, it's a great site. Always learn something new!

posted May 06, 2011 04:51 AM            

Think of yourself like a healthy beautiful flowery shrub - being cut back might hurt at the time, but you will grow back stronger and brighter than ever!

Rachel x

posted May 09, 2011 02:04 PM            

I said the same thing to myself, if he really was so in love with this girl, he wouldn't want a "one last" anything with me. He kept saying that he wanted to see if there was still "something" there for me and needing to see me would verify it or not. He told me that he does not love me and that "one last night" proved it. I just can't get out of my head the fact that he went to see her, i mean a guy really has to be serious about a girl if he goes the distance after only knowing her for a few days? or maybe it's just me. But it's whatever.

posted May 09, 2011 06:26 PM            

You don't want him back. Amputate my love. Amputate him like a useless limb. It hurts like hell but it heals quicker. Do not cut him off using a nail file. An axe is better.

posted May 09, 2011 08:59 PM            

He was always calling and telling me about his day, asking about mines, when his uncle died, when he got a promotion at his job, then they took it away from him, he was eager to call me and tell me about his vaca in miami. The girl he met, lives in Fort Lauderdale. I wasn't the one to text or call him first. But I didn't care that he was seeing other people or talking to other people, what crushed me was the fact that he threw all those things in my face and i told him that. And you are probably right about the whole just wanting sex cuz the other girl lives in florida, i do regret that. I have given him that ultimatum and he would be back and forth with i can't live my life without you, i can't lose you and when i eventually give in, he turns cold and distant etc and back and forth it continues. I've endured alot. He loves attention and he is all about females, he just can't ignore their calling, i highly doubt he will ever settle down, he juggles too many girls at once.

and i quote Kanye West " you never know enough until it's over"

I have realized so many things that I was either blind to or knew and didn't want to face the truth.

its been 2 wks since we last spoke to each other, i always contacts me sooner or later, he always always does. I have him blocked via everything and i dont pick up blocked calls. Like i said before, GOOD RIDDANCE.

posted December 11, 2011 04:08 PM            

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Originally posted by RMChex:
Hi,

Don't have any immediate words of wisdom that spring to mind, but I do feel for you. What a difficult situation to be in... ((((hugs))))

Perhaps this is happening for a reason, and this isn't your destiny, but will prepare you to be stronger so when your destiny rolls along, you are ready?

Be strong, you'll get through this. And if anything, pity the poor girl in Florida - the same thing is going to happen to her soon enough, and it won't take nearly as long as it did with you now he's practised his childish ways.

(((hugs)))

Rachel

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Great advice. I Like this post..

Also, I can add that as a Scorpio (Sun+Venus) you dont feel like you've never loved the person even after you've broken up.. I guess that where Pisces and Scorp's differ. Good luck x