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Topic: Will Libra Lover eventually come back to relationship?
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tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 25, 2011 09:19 PM
  
Long Libra Story Short:
I'm a Cappy lady with Leo Moon and Scorpio rising. All I know about Libra gent is that he is near but not at cusp in October.
After almost nine months of being together/dating, he needs “to get out of this situation to decide if he wants to be in it.” Assures me that there was nothing I did or didn't do,could or couldn’t have done. It's Just Him. One minute everything was absolutely blissful, and then suddenly he is avoiding me.
I know he's really into me and I think he needs time to himself. He says his feelings have not progressed. I'm hurting, but will not sit at home and waste away. Yet, I hate that he is wasting such a wonderful relationship. We have such potential! Should I keep this man in my heart and wait for him to find himself (even though I honestly can’t understand his sudden pulling away from what has been a relationship with no drama or discontent in any kind of way)? Okay people, give me your thoughts about this. Thanks.IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares
Knowflake Posts: 954
From: I am where I am and it's enough.
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 26, 2011 03:12 AM
My suggestion would be for you to move on. Nine months is more than enough for a person to know whether the relationship has a real future or not. I think that in 3 months (or even shorter) you can determine with certainty if a person is a blessing or a curse.Don't hold on to him just because you see "potential". Potential does not always turn into reality (I'm speaking from experience here). Sometimes it can even harm you because it can keep you stuck in what-could-be land. When not truly smitten, a Libra man does not need a reason to pull away. He is just being true to his nature. It's very likely that he will come back. Usually the Libra man does if he can't find a new one or not satisfied with the new one. In general, men come back when they unconsciously sense that you have moved on or when your energy is focused on someone new. Ok, let's say he comes back. But then is there any guarantee that he won't leave again? So be wary of men who return from their "space walks". Don't welcome them with open arms. Double-lock your heart's door and throw away the key.  If you decide to take him back, make him jump through hoops and prove that he is worthy of your time. Don't waste your energy on a POTENTIAL lifetime problem. I think you need someone more consistent, because you're a Capricorn plus your Moon and Ascendant are in fixed signs. The reason why majority of women are unhappy is because they let the man make 100% of the decisions about the relationship. Why is it that he gets to decide whether to continue the relationship? Why is it that the woman does all the waiting? IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 154
From: California
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 26, 2011 10:14 AM
I agree with the above post that you should move on. He gave you the there's nothing wrong with you, it's me, statement. Honestly, coming from a guy it usually means he has his interest else where. I'm sorry. I feel you because I've been in a similar position and my chart is heavily fixed like yours and influenced by Capricorn.
You can have many wonderful relationships with many other potential mates. There are some great people out there. *Hugs*Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 431
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 26, 2011 10:22 AM
True Taurus is right.
Every time a man says "I need time" or "It's not you it's me" it's because he has his eye elsewhere and he's waiting to see if it pans out.
Trust me, he is not at home musing over the why's and wherefore's of your relationship but keeping you in abeyance in case the other fancy doesn't come to anything.
Sorry to be blunt but that will be what's going on NO MATTER what he says.
If it doesn't come to anything he will be back...if that's what you want.IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 289
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 26, 2011 11:43 AM
HiI agree too. I have cappie asc and libra venus/mars and leo moon. I re-entered to a relationship with my ex aries, he too had a kind of "space walk". 3 months later we ended it again. When a guy is interested, they show it with actions. I rarely believe words but look at a man's actions.
I am sorry to be blunt but wish for you to avoid the hurt I encountered. Sparkling IP: Logged |
tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 27, 2011 01:23 AM
Thank you Everyone (Knowflakes). It is hard to believe that someone who "play" with another person like this, but I don't want to do this again or go through it like a cycle or anything. The idea of him coming back has a different light on it now. My first and my last libra. Greatly appreciate the wisdom and insight... clearly, I needed it  IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 431
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 27, 2011 04:16 AM
No tenny, I would suggest it is you that is the wise one.
So many people spend so many years "waiting"
Waiting for somebody to make up their mind, to change, to become the person you want them to be.
And before you know it, years of your life have gone by and you did nothing for yourself. Just waited.
Here is the key to a happy life.
Live your own life, always.
Regardless whether you are in love or not. If they love you they will come along with you for the ride.
If they don't....fine.
It's not done in a selfish way. Just carry on with your dreams and plans, your hobbies and other outside relationships.
Don't shelve anything you want to do.
You sound like a fabulous person who instead of tearing your hair out and crying "Why me??
Will just shrug your shoulders and carry on.
Much success will come to you  IP: Logged |
tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 28, 2011 09:28 AM
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Originally posted by bunnies:
No tenny, I would suggest it is you that is the wise one.
So many people spend so many years "waiting"
Waiting for somebody to make up their mind, to change, to become the person you want them to be.
And before you know it, years of your life have gone by and you did nothing for yourself. Just waited.
Here is the key to a happy life.
Live your own life, always.
Regardless whether you are in love or not. If they love you they will come along with you for the ride.
If they don't....fine.
It's not done in a selfish way. Just carry on with your dreams and plans, your hobbies and other outside relationships.
Don't shelve anything you want to do.
You sound like a fabulous person who instead of tearing your hair out and crying "Why me??
Will just shrug your shoulders and carry on.
Much success will come to you
Thank you,that is a powerful concept ... much needed at this painful time! IP: Logged |
cloudynight1017
Newflake Posts: 7
From: appleton, wi, usa
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 30, 2011 01:36 AM
I wouldn't push off all libras completely. I myself am a libra and from what it sounds to me is exactly what everyone else says. This guy in particular is just a jerk. Libra is the sign of love, justice, and partnerships. We are in love with being in love and we function best as a pair rather than a single. I myself know if I really like someone in just a few short weeks, its either there or its not, and they way it sounds is because libras can't stand to be alone you were just a transitional relationship, a crutch so to speak, till something better came his way. I can only speak for myself but once I find love I never want to let it go. Love relationships are what defines a libra as a person, get rid of the jerk but I promise not all libras are like that. Good luck! ------------------
"Ask me how many times my
heart as been broken, and I
will tell you to look at the sky
and count the stars" IP: Logged |
tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 30, 2011 05:28 PM
quote:
Originally posted by cloudynight1017:
I wouldn't push off all libras completely. I myself am a libra and from what it sounds to me is exactly what everyone else says. This guy in particular is just a jerk. Libra is the sign of love, justice, and partnerships. We are in love with being in love and we function best as a pair rather than a single. I myself know if I really like someone in just a few short weeks, its either there or its not, and they way it sounds is because libras can't stand to be alone you were just a transitional relationship, a crutch so to speak, till something better came his way. I can only speak for myself but once I find love I never want to let it go. Love relationships are what defines a libra as a person, get rid of the jerk but I promise not all libras are like that. Good luck!
Thanks for the input. My best friend is Libra, and it seems to me the women are kind of different from the men. I guess it comes down to the fact that I trusted him. One of the first things he asked me early on was whether I trusted him, and I did, and have continuously trusted him. His position is that his feelings are not the same now.
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tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 11, 2011 09:59 PM
Okay, so it's been a few weeks and I'm starting to understand that I should not have trusted him as much as I did. I'm also starting to understand that the clearer I see things, the less attractive anything about him or what we had seems. It is frustrating that I wasted all that time on (what I hate to now characterize as) a flimsy person IP: Logged |
bunnies
Knowflake Posts: 431
From: u.k
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 12, 2011 04:28 AM
Nothing is ever wasted.
You have learnt a valuable lesson. Direct your energy wisely and don't be afraid to admit when you're not.
As long as you recognise that you sometimes are or will do so in the future, still means that it is YOU who is doing the choosing.
And that is always empowering to you.
No need to ever be bitter.
Trust everyone. Recognise when they begin to misuse that trust, choose whether to still continue giving energy in that direction.
But still know that it is you who is doing the choosing.But I think I'm telling you something you have already fathomed out for yourself IP: Logged |
tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 12, 2011 01:29 PM
quote:
Originally posted by bunnies:
Nothing is ever wasted.
You have learnt a valuable lesson. Direct your energy wisely and don't be afraid to admit when you're not.
As long as you recognise that you sometimes are or will do so in the future, still means that it is YOU who is doing the choosing.
And that is always empowering to you.
No need to ever be bitter.
Trust everyone. Recognise when they begin to misuse that trust, choose whether to still continue giving energy in that direction.
But still know that it is you who is doing the choosing.But I think I'm telling you something you have already fathomed out for yourself
Thanks Bunnies. Yes, there is a touch of bitterness (frustration turned bitter), but not with him... with myself. So, maybe not the whole relationship was a waste of time, because we had an awesome and beautiful time the first 4 months. And I purposely and knowingly put my trust in him. And that's a big deal for me, because my life experience has been TRUST=PAIN. So I was turning over a new leaf. But my energies were to achieve a great relationship with him. I feel that at the point he was thinking maybe the relationship part was not for him, that was the time to say something, not a few weeks or months later! And that was the wasted time, because I was being deceived. So, yes, I agree, to continue to take an open approach to trusting, but it seems I need to keep an eye out for deceptive practices. And you know, that maybe the very positive thing to have come out of this all.
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tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 12, 2011 01:45 PM
Had a reading done and was told that Mr. Libra is revisiting an old love to determine if she is truly out of his system, and that we will reunite. So I'm thinking now... having done some reading on libra men ... was this whole situation inevitable? And where in the cosmic world is it okay to bounce back and forth between relationships? His body is not lined with gold and if given some warning, I could have moved on with no prompting under those circumstances!!! So if this is what Libra men do (even though they are totally into you - or at least seem to be), were there things I should have been aware of ... signs that he was about to pull a disappearing act on me? I would read on the web about libra men and would think "not my guy." Lo and behold... here we are!! We still communicate every couple of days, but I'm tiring of the whole head game (if that is what is). I do miss what we had, but as time goes by, I consider that the whole relationship was great and fabulous due to me and my input (and my $$$$), and his inputs were significant, but small and infrequent. I was the momentum in our relationship. I also think of the things about him that started to bug me as we entered the later months of the relationship. I thought it was something to focus on going forward, but now, even considering reuniting, I find them not so attractive qualities. So maybe the capricorn-libra thing is not one to put any energy into. All this thinking and feeling is putting me through such emotional changes (I want my stability back)  IP: Logged |
sassaqua
Knowflake Posts: 44
From: Australia
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 21, 2011 04:18 AM
Hi Cappy, suns square is not such a happy place anyhow, generally speaking.. Are you able to post charts? It may help if you look at it more "practically"  . Meaning, if you see the charts and all that might've been conflict, or challenging, you may be able to grapple with it more effectively, as well as protect yourself if he does come scurrying back.
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tenny22
Knowflake Posts: 129
From: USA
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 22, 2011 01:54 AM
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Originally posted by sassaqua:
Hi Cappy, suns square is not such a happy place anyhow, generally speaking.. Are you able to post charts? It may help if you look at it more "practically" . Meaning, if you see the charts and all that might've been conflict, or challenging, you may be able to grapple with it more effectively, as well as protect yourself if he does come scurrying back.
Hi Sassaqua: We actually have asc, pluto and uranus squared.... taint pretty IP: Logged |
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