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Topic: Aqua men
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onFire
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 16, 2011 04:16 PM
  
Hey guys, I'm new here, but I've read quite a few posts, especially about aquarius men. First I'll post parts of mine and his chart.
Mine:
Aries Sun
Capricorn Moon
Pisces Venus
Gemini Mars His:
Aquarius Sun
Pisces Moon
Capricorn Venus
Scorpio Mars I've been friends with this guy for about 7 months now, and he followed the general pattern people describe here: talking every day the first couple of months, then some distance, then close again. Officially we are friends, although we did get intimate recently. During the first few months, I started a couple of fights regarding the fact that I don't know what's going on between us, but I learned very fast that I will get no answers by pushing him. I can tell that our relationship became a lot more comfortable, and he tends to tell me more things voluntarily. Being an Aries, I do like my independence, so going a few days without talking is perfectly fine with me now that I understand him better..and know that he's not upset with me or something when he goes off. I guess my main concern is that I don't know how to take it from here because I'm fairly certain that pressing the relationship issue will not get me anywhere, but at the same time I want to know that he actually cares for me and wants this to go somewhere. The fact that he is an Aqua and has quite a bit of capricorn in the remainder of his chart as well scares me a little bit...will it take me years to be fully in the circle of trust? Most of the time I can tell that there's something there, but I just want to know how to make it more. What do you guys think of both of our charts? Side note: i've gotten soo much more patient while knowing him, which is surprising being an Aries. Although the explosions still do happen lol. Thanks for any feedback  IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 10623
From: The Goober Galaxy
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posted July 16, 2011 08:29 PM
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love being Aries
Knowflake Posts: 370
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Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 17, 2011 09:33 AM
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Originally posted by onFire:
Hey guys, I'm new here, but I've read quite a few posts, especially about aquarius men. First I'll post parts of mine and his chart.
Mine:
Aries Sun
Capricorn Moon
Pisces Venus
Gemini Mars His:
Aquarius Sun
Pisces Moon
Capricorn Venus
Scorpio Mars I've been friends with this guy for about 7 months now, and he followed the general pattern people describe here: talking every day the first couple of months, then some distance, then close again. Officially we are friends, although we did get intimate recently. During the first few months, I started a couple of fights regarding the fact that I don't know what's going on between us, but I learned very fast that I will get no answers by pushing him. I can tell that our relationship became a lot more comfortable, and he tends to tell me more things voluntarily. Being an Aries, I do like my independence, so going a few days without talking is perfectly fine with me now that I understand him better..and know that he's not upset with me or something when he goes off. I guess my main concern is that I don't know how to take it from here because I'm fairly certain that pressing the relationship issue will not get me anywhere, but at the same time I want to know that he actually cares for me and wants this to go somewhere. The fact that he is an Aqua and has quite a bit of capricorn in the remainder of his chart as well scares me a little bit...will it take me years to be fully in the circle of trust? Most of the time I can tell that there's something there, but I just want to know how to make it more. What do you guys think of both of our charts? Side note: i've gotten soo much more patient while knowing him, which is surprising being an Aries. Although the explosions still do happen lol. Thanks for any feedback
exactly my story that happened this feb and that guy actually took me to edge of my nerves, although i have cultivated lots of patience inside me and m very proud of it, but he really really ****** me with his dangling behavior. and finally i got rid of him. it went on for about 4 months and i had my limits. actually aquarius are so insecure and thus they try to hide things by acting exactly opposite of what they feel. which is totally intolerable for Aries, who like things being crystal clear and no games involved. get rid of him, m telling you from experience. I know complicated stuff excites you, but it will waste your time and emotions. IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 178
From: California
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted July 17, 2011 02:53 PM
I had something of a very similar experience to yours, and it might even be helpful that the dude was an Aqua with a Cap moon, and a few piscean influences.
I have a Scorpio Moon, so I pressed him too hard regarding my "feelings." He didn't understand of course and said we seem to be imcompatible and we shouldn't see each other anymore.
But I said we should be friends and I'm not ready for a relationship, which is true.
I'm going to see him soon and try to build a friend ship. Maybe he will see the real me and like me. If the feelings are mutual it can go from there.
Just give it some time, unless you are realling looking for a relationship "now." Patience is virtue.Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer IP: Logged |
onFire
Newflake Posts: 4
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 17, 2011 08:00 PM
I've heard a lot of "Get rid of him", but I don't think I'm there yet. Since I'm not getting a definite No, I keep seeing potential. That might hurt me big time in the future, but I guess I'm going to find out.As for the advice just to keep waiting - it's so hard. Although that's probably what I'll be doing anyway. I did ask him if he was hooking up with anyone else and he said No, so that makes me feel way better. Whenever we do get together, it's almost as if he needs a week after to get himself back together. He replies, but becomes very distant,almost rude sometime, but I don't think he means it that way. And when I call him out on it, he just goes completely silent. It's a cycle, I swear. I've gotten to the point where I can predict his behaviour, and he absolutely hated it when I said that to him haha. Any advice as to how to handle the silent angry times would be appreciated. As of now, I just give it a few days breather. And he refuses to be the bigger person after fights...I guess it's the ego thing.
I'm sure you guys all know what I'm talking about here IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 10623
From: The Goober Galaxy
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posted July 18, 2011 09:41 AM
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Mama Mia
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posted July 18, 2011 10:58 AM
Goodluck..Your gonna need to be very patient until he begins to feel as if he can trust you. Then he will start to show his true feelings, if then. Just pray that he can, considering he is not carrying on baggage from another relationship. (i.e Damaged) And also Aqua men tend to be selfish mostly everything will be done on their terms.. Something else to know going forward on this..Whats meant to be will be, thats the kind of attitude you have to have when dealing with them, Otherwise you will go crazy with thoughts and worry.. IP: Logged |
onFire
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 19, 2011 09:36 PM
Thanks for the advice. Is there an approximate timeline as to how long it takes them to trust people? I guess this is a pretty vague question.Just a side comment: There's such a difference between the way they treat girls who they have platonic relationship with vs romantically involved. It's like night and day. I'm talking "cute, warm and bubbly" vs watching everything they say. A slight slip of the tongue, and they freak out. I remember one day he called me a cute pet name for the first time and pretty much went silent right after (this was over text). It's pretty amazing to observe. Out of curiosity, have most of you guys had bad experiences with them? IP: Logged |
Nine
Knowflake Posts: 790
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 20, 2011 09:59 AM
Get rid of him!!! quote:
Out of curiosity, have most of you guys had bad experiences with them?
Yes. Aquarians are so contrary, it's rare to find an Aqua who's single and not in a long term relationship. Yet, no one builds a relationship with his kind of attitude. One thing is for sure, once they start behaving like your Aqua the writing is on the wall. It's very hard for them to change course being fixed sign and all. IP: Logged |
1306hunting
Newflake Posts: 7
From: bryn mawr, pa usa
Registered: Jul 2010
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posted August 09, 2011 12:21 AM
i met an aquarius and i dont have time for the wishy washy, strange non emotional not into that booey stuff attitdue. im not feeling aquarisu men, and im a taurus girl. he likes too much space. this was last year. i ask what he was thinking oneday he said im thinking who he can borrow money from. that was the last strawIP: Logged |
onFire
Newflake Posts: 4
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 09, 2011 01:15 PM
So I've been experiencing quite a turn around in his behaviour since the last post. All of a sudden, he wants to talk every day, so if I don't initiate, he will. Not sure what triggered this, but I like it. Also it's as if he stopped hiding things and seems to tell me anything and everything. I finally get to hear about all his friends with names attached to them. Although there's no talk of relationship, he did tell me that he's not just looking for a booty call. I'm not going to pressure him and just keep doing what I'm doing, which is pretty much just being there. Even if it seems like there's no progress happening, apparently there is in his head lol. Not losing hope yet. Patience is definitely a huge factor when dealing with these people. I agree with that more and more every day. IP: Logged | |
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