posted July 19, 2011 09:18 PM            

Me:

Sun Pisces 2.03
Moon Sagittarius 8.18
Mercury Aquarius 19.47 R
Venus Aquarius 1.45
Mars Aries 3.26
Jupiter Virgo 0.43 R
Saturn Aries 10.09
Uranus Virgo 28.13 R
Neptune Scorpio 26.32
Pluto Virgo 22.04 R
Lilith Taurus 16.58
Asc node Aries 19.46

Him:

Sun Cancer 4.10
Moon Sagittarius 21.30
Mercury Cancer 25.17
Venus Gemini 21.47 R
Mars Cancer 28.06
Jupiter Capricorn 3.20 R
Saturn Gemini 13.12
Uranus Libra 14.11
Neptune Sagittarius 3.05 R
Pluto Scorpio 13.39
Asc node Capricorn 26.10

It started off really slow and I would catch him watching me when he didn't know I could see. We then began talking more and more. There have been a few strong indicators in particular for instance when this young pup I wanted to date me and I told a couple of my female co-workers about it, the next day one of them asked me (without knowing that he had just come through a doorway and was standing there) "so are you officially a cougar?" His reaction was a very loud "WHAT?" And the look on his face was priceless. He then got his composure and started questioning me about it. I was not interested in the other guy, as I truly only have eyes for my Cancer man.

Another time we were talking and I ended up telling him about the child abuse I survived. His reaction was quite strong and he was clearly very upset that I had to go through that. He was really hypersensitive about it for lack of a better word.

Last month I discreetly gave him a birthday card and carefully thought out gift that showed I really knew him. I was a bit nervous about giving it to him, not knowing how he would react or possibly pull back (he can really do that at times--that dang crab dance of his). He was deeply touched and it resulted in a hug.

At times when he walks by me he intentionally brushes his arm into me etc... Always giving me glances when he doesn't know I can see etc... And about a month ago he began to tease me quite a bit.

The problem is that he won't ask me out and also at other times he is very quit and seems like he'll talk to everyone else but me. I am learning to ignore that and him when he does that and act like it doesn't bother me.

My question is this: does this sound like this cancer man likes me and is there any chance his wall will come down enough to ask me out.

posted August 22, 2011 11:23 AM            

First thing I noted was that his Mars is in Cancer.

Water Mars signs are perhaps the most indirect and mysterious in pursuing the object of their affection.

His emotions are strongly tied to his desires and so it may be best that you remain passive and feminine and let him take the first move.

Cancer Mars is extremely sensitive to rejection (or indiffrence)as well as criticism. So, its best that you let him feel confident(mars) and at ease(Cancer) with you.

But don't make yourself too available to his whims, you must retain a certain level of unavailability so that he thinks that you are worthy to pursue( all men, regardless of sign, love the chase).

Mars in Cancer is often very shy and timid in expressing their affection, but they like to feel that they are in charge. So let him do all the pursuing whilst gently encouraging him on. He is likely to grow bolder and less evasive, once he feels that you see him as masculine(in his own right).

You, however, have your venus (the way you attract men) in Aquarius and so you do't follow traditional rules as to whom does the pursuing and when. When you like something, you don't undersatnd the politics that are involved in courtships.

You also have your Mars in Aries and this means that you do appreciate courage, boldness, and "call a spade a spade" from a man. It makes life generally quite easy for someone to just come out and say what they want to say.

However, it is likely that if you push or seem "uncoventional" in your approach to your Cancerian man, he may respond by being evasive and overly shy(even if he really isn't).

Cancer energy is a refelction of what it sorrounds and so when you are unpredicayble and roudy, he'll get confused and suspicious.But if you remain calm and consistant, he'll respond by being supprisingly assertive and decisive.

Let him think that he is in charge, well atleast for now. But be warned that Water Mars and Fire Mars can clash in their approach to things...