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Topic: I don't understand this Cancer man. HELP
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MsLeoSun
Newflake Posts: 4
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Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 02, 2011 06:12 PM
  
I have the biggest crush on our fed ex guy at my work. he comes in every saturday and we are incredibly awkward and shy with each other. Mostly small talk and LOTS of eye contact and smiling. He never talks to anyone else in the store or even looks at anyone else. I am a Leo woman and pretty much the epitome of that. I am especially VERY straight forward (as a rule.) And I NEVER get flustered or nervous around I a guy I am into. But with him, I can barely remember my own name.
Last Saturday I FINALLY got the courage to invite him to a Brewers Festival with me and some friends. I can't think of anything less threatening than a large event where he can drink a ton of different types of beer (Which I know he likes) After some back and forth and him asking lots of questions, he finally got my number. He texted me before he got out of the parking lot. I told him I would let him know when I knew what the plan was. And we ended the conversation. 10 minutes later he texted me again saying that he wasn't sure what he was doing that night but he would let me know if he heard of anything going on.... I told him that sounded great. Later on I found out the plans for the next day at and texted him to let him know. He never responded. I decided to try one more time the next morning to see if he was going, and again. No response.
This is obviously a VERY shortened version of the situation, and may not portray this completely accurately. But at first I was SO sure he was into me, and now I am confused... I will more than likely see him again on saturday since he has to come into my work.... What's going on? Any insight?IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: The Goober Galaxy
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posted August 03, 2011 01:40 PM
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GypseeWind
Moderator Posts: 5429
From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 04, 2011 01:00 AM
Maybe he's shy? Or suddenly felt panic when it was down to the wire, b/c he was afraid he'd blow it or that he wouldn't know what to say??? IDK, really.
I am married to a cancer moon/asc, so that's the extent of my experience.
What's the rest of his chart like, do you know?IP: Logged |
annaf
Knowflake Posts: 48
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted August 05, 2011 08:45 PM
I think if he is a grown man, straight and available, I can't really think of many other explanations than he is probably not really interested. You approached him with a wonderfully easy opportunity for him to get to know you, no effort required by him,....and he's just ignoring it. In the past I always had these drawn out arguments with more experienced female friends, who were telling me (or other friends) in such a situation point blank a man isn't interested if you have made it clear you are interested in getting to know him better and he doesnt react. I always, always resented their point of view and argued the shy option, but unfortunately in every single case they turned out to be right. Don't get me wrong I really don't believe in those stupid, dogmatic 'He's just not into you' rules. I do think men can be shy and need a little bit of nudging and friendly encouragement and if the woman fails to give him the right signals, there is indeed the danger in some shy 'cases' that the man will not make a move. However, if she is giving off the right signals and he just ignores, I'm afraid it's just not a great indication he's attracted/available. Of course there's always the faint chance he encountered some disaster in his life. So for me I'd see how he reacts when he sees you next time. If I had the faintedst impression that he is avoiding the question/doesn't seem sincere etc., I would unfortunately take this as a clear sign that the attraction is just not mutual or he is already in a relationship. What are his other planet. placements? IP: Logged | |
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