posted October 14, 2011 12:18 AM            

I know the two Sun signs are not supposed to be compatible, and relationships are supposed to be highly challenging. However, we were married 18+ years ago and the marriage has been happy and strong. We have three children.

I'm also confused by astrology reports on my personality. I don't seem to fit the mold of a Capricorn male when it comes to relationships. For example, I'm anything but aloof, and I'm a emotional and passionate guy. I don't withdraw. Therefore, any light you can shed would be most appreciated.

Like to hear your thoughts about this marriage.

posted October 14, 2011 11:27 PM            

Thanks for the confirmation, but its obvious I have a lot to learn about astrology because I have no idea what you said But you are spot on about the person I am! I live for my family. They are the soul of my existence.

posted October 15, 2011 12:21 AM            

Here is some info on Pisces Rising:

Pisces Rising / Ascendant

Like their symbol, the fishes, Pisces Rising likes to go with the flow. They appear at first glance to be gentle, peace-loving artistic types, but the way they keep their hearts and minds open keeps them changeable and unpredictable. The typical Pisces Ascendant can seem to be a different person today than they were yesterday. Usually shy and quiet, tomorrow they may be passionate and exuberant. This allows them to blend in with many types of people. Pisces Rising is very impressionable, like the sand in the water. They are dreamy and soft-hearted. They are irresistibly charming and intriguing.

Pisces Ascendant sees the world through glasses tinted by their opinion, so they have a difficult time being objective. Decision making is difficult for them as well. They are so flexible that they don't want to make plans for anything in the future. They don't want to face any harsh realities. Organization is not their strong point.

Pisces Ascendant wants a stable, reliable partner. They need someone who is realistic and practical; who will help keep them grounded a bit. They are very emotional and compassionate… so much so that they can become their own victims due to their massive vulnerability. They can become their own worst enemy. They dislike confrontation, but are not above using manipulative game playing to get what they desire. A true romantic, the right pairing with a Pisces Ascendant can result in a creative romance worthy of a novel.

Pisces Rising is imaginative and creative. They may have artistic talents and psychic abilities to share. They may turn to spiritual matters or philosophy, and they have a great admiration for education, no matter what level they did or did not attain. Pisces Ascendant likes travel, sports and dancing. They can be very capable when they build up confidence in themselves.

Physically, they may be sensitive to anesthesia and other medications. Pisces Rising does not want to stand out in the crowd, and dislikes attracting attention to themselves. They are generous, sensitive and sentimental. On the other hand, they can manipulate others to feel sorry for them so they can benefit.

Some may see Pisces Rising as someone to take advantage of because they are so open and compassionate. They are sensitive to negative energy and criticism. It is difficult for them to shield themselves from either one. Pisces Ascendant may feel a deep lonesomeness that they can't do anything about. If they can utilize this alone time for meditation or other introspection, they may be able to use their talents to their benefit. They may do well in a career helping others, or a creative endeavor. Pisces Ascendant likes secrets. They use subtlety in life to ease their way. Their lesson in life is to learn to live their life rather than to dream it away. Pisces Rising may have many pets because they like having others to care for. Some may excel as animal communicators if they can develop their gifts to the point of being a reliable skill.

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Your North Node is what you aspire to be.
What you are working toward, i.e. your lessons in this life.
Yours is in Cancer, again, another water sign.
Here is info for that as well:

North Node Cancer, South Node Capricorn

When you work a long day, its good to come home and rest, and when you feel the need for help, its good to feel comfortable enough to ask for it. But for you, there can be a resistance to these very natural things. Somewhere in your past, either earlier in this life or in a previous one, you've worked hard pursuing your goals and doing what needed to be done. You’ve come into this life with an attitude that knows how to survive by being practical and by adapting to the harsh realities of life and making a living. (Some of you have even allowed an almost pathological sense of caution or reserve to develop in response to having to keep a stiff upper lip.) Now it’s time to soften, relax, and heal from being in a competitive and sometimes pressured environment.

Now it's time to shift focus from “them to you”, and to take the emphasis off the goal and onto the process of life unfolding. How do you feel about what's happening? That's the question to consider. Part of your soul purpose is to heal from the limitations of your past, so there’s a necessity at times, to cry a few tears…to simply feel. It’s not giving into self—pity though, and you won’t linger long in that place, for the balanced attitude of your Capricorn/Cancer axis is one that innately knows how to hold the tension of the opposites.

After your first Saturn return around the age of 29 the emphasis will turn even more towards nurturing yourself, your family, and your friends. Home, heart, and hearth become a priority. There's a desire to feel secure and at home with those you love. You may want to feel a kind of “heart security” you may never have experienced before. In the past you may have had times when you’ve had to shut yourself down emotionally, and now you realize you've missed something in the focusing on the goal rather than the process. Some of the sweetness and joy of life won't happen if you're focused on goals and ambition rather than taking the time to tend to your inner life.

Cancer North Nodes are nurtured by being by the ocean (or any bodies of water) by delving into their family history, and by honoring the good part of traditions. The family karmic inheritance is usually strong, and it would be good for you to sift through the positive and negative inheritance you've received and to see what part of it you may be unaware of. Cancer, being ruled by the moon, fluctuates in its moods and has a wild and loony side as well. No other sign can be so content cleaning out its closets one moment and dancing on the beach by the light of the moon later the same day. With your North Node here you’ll want to honor this intuitive and lunar side of yourself because it’s the fertile soil of your Soul. Take time to slow down and feel whatever comes up for you, and when you feel you’ve outgrown your current life, dare to let go of the past and open a new chapter of your life. Cancers, like the crab, periodically outgrow their shells and need to bravely release their fears and defenses to bring new dreams into reality. The pull of continued growth and evolution through regeneration and resurrection is strong in this Cancer/Capricorn axis.

Soul Purpose: In this life it’s important for you to heal from duty and necessity—you may need to cry a few tears to unblock your emotions and express your true feelings. You may also want to make it a priority to give and receive love, and to watch what happens when you tend to the process of life rather than the goal. Dare to risk new beginnings that lead to metaphorical death, re-birth and resurrection, taking calculated risks. Use your sense of humor to repair, entertain, and mend bridges between family and friends.

Shadow: Honoring of the demands of “sheer practicality” can be an excuse to not be in touch with your feelings of sorrow or joy. By not allowing the feminine and “lunar or looney” side of your personality out, it can make you appear to be a bit of a glum “Eeyore” at times. Another defense mechanism you might be tempted to use could simply be an appearance of pride—the kind of “hubris than cometh before a fall.”

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English blues rock guitarist, singer/songwriter Eric Clapton has these Cancer/Capricorn Nodes. Often viewed today by critics as the greatest guitarist of all time, his music—and life—has always been grounded in the blues. When Eric was 9 years old he discovered that he and his brother had been deserted by his real parents, and that they’d been raised by his grandparents. When his brother died unexpectedly, Clapton became, in his own words, “a lonely and nasty kid.” (Maybe just an Eeyore?) He tried playing the guitar but found it so difficult to learn that he almost gave up, but the connection to his emotions through the “blues” pulled him through and kept him at it. So instead of shutting down his feelings or being out of touch with them, as South Node Capricorns can do at times, he reached for them—through ‘the blues.” One of his more famous songs in his later life was called: “Tears in Heaven,” that came out of the unexpected tragic death of his son.

posted October 17, 2011 02:39 AM            

Your mercury and mars are in an earth sign, and so are hers so they trine by sign.

Your asc goes well with her cancer asc as they're both water signs.

posted October 17, 2011 09:19 AM            

Thank you so much. You are spot on with your analysis, and you now have given me some more pointers on what to look for.

As for being "affectionate and loving," that is true as well. I did some research on "Venus Trine Moon" and I must admit that my personality is much more in touch with the softer side, and I have been described as being sensitive and emotional.

It gets to a ridiculous extent where I have no true close male friends and most of my friends are women, simply because its easier for me to connect with women than men.

It doesn't mean that I'm a softie because I'm a true alpha male Capricorn at work. I am ambitious, driven and often a bit bossy lol I am a highly aggressive individiual and have no fear of competition. My signature characteristic is that I am a "provider" for the family.

posted October 24, 2011 11:07 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I know absolutely nothing about astrology, so perhaps you can tell me something about my wife and myself.

I know the two Sun signs are not supposed to be compatible, and relationships are supposed to be highly challenging. However, we were married 18+ years ago and the marriage has been happy and strong. We have three children.

I'm also confused by astrology reports on my personality. I don't seem to fit the mold of a Capricorn male when it comes to relationships. For example, I'm anything but aloof, and I'm a emotional and passionate guy. I don't withdraw. Therefore, any light you can shed would be most appreciated.

Like to hear your thoughts about this marriage.

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First.. Im really glad to see your happily married for 18+ years... BRAVO!!

You have Uranus/Pluto in H7 (as I do also)
Which also "says" you wont last in a committed relationship.
Which I know for myself is not true...
So glad its not true for you either..

posted October 27, 2011 04:00 PM            

Thank you very much.

Apparently, my House 7 is also my wife's Venus sign of Virgo. My wife's House 7 is my Mars and Sun sign of Capricorn.

As has been pointed out, our Moons are both in Gemini. We also share some of the other minor planets like Uranus and Pluto.

There are many things I've heard that assume I won't last in a relationship. A palm reader once told me that I would have at least three wives and about 12 major relationships, many simultaneously! lol

My Venus in Aquarius is supposed to make me commitment phobic and to withdraw. My wife and I finalized marriage plans within 25 days and got married within 11 weeks. How's that for fear of commitment? Hahaha

I plan to stay married forever, and at least celebrate my 50th anniversary before I kick the bucket first. I don't think I can survive being a widower, so my wife has been told that she needs to survive me.

posted October 27, 2011 07:53 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Lioness,

Thank you very much.

Apparently, my House 7 is also my wife's Venus sign of Virgo. My wife's House 7 is my Mars and Sun sign of Capricorn.

As has been pointed out, our Moons are both in Gemini. We also share some of the other minor planets like Uranus and Pluto.

There are many things I've heard that assume I won't last in a relationship. A palm reader once told me that I would have at least three wives and about 12 major relationships, many simultaneously! lol

My Venus in Aquarius is supposed to make me commitment phobic and to withdraw. My wife and I finalized marriage plans within 25 days and got married within 11 weeks. How's that for fear of commitment? Hahaha

I plan to stay married forever, and at least celebrate my 50th anniversary before I kick the bucket first. I don't think I can survive being a widower, so my wife has been told that she needs to survive me.

Glad you are in a great committed relationship yourself! Congrats

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Welllllll Im not but have been
LOL...
Fate stepped in for me, and took my husband away..
(not death.. its a long story)
But I was married for 12 years...

But I do have to admit your palm reader must of looked at my hand.. hahhahaha

Im sooooo glad to see SOMEONE with Uranus in H7 not have these crazy things happen with the L depart like it with me..

posted October 28, 2011 02:16 PM            

For the benefit of everyone who is unfamiliar, this is some text I found about Uranus in House 7.

We have twelve houses in our chart, the houses being a way to divide time and space. They relate to areas of our lives, and the Seventh House concerns marriage and other significant partnerships. The Seventh House is the “dusk” part of our chart. If the Sun were in your Seventh House, that means that our star was soon to set at the time of your birth.

There’s about a 1-in-12 chance that anyone you meet has Uranus in their Seventh House. Woe be unto the poor soul who falls in love with such a person! The U7 (let’s call them), somewhat like someone with Venus in Aquarius, needs independence in his marriage or significant partnership. He won’t be tied down in any type of traditional relationship. U7 may be attracted to eccentric, brilliant or off-beat types as partners. Or he needs an unconventional arrangement — maybe an open marriage, or at least freedom from the constraints of being at his spouse’s side at all times. He may also feel that significant others are forcing change upon him, or that his spouse undergoes personal revolutions on a regular basis.

Uranus in the Seventh is a more powerful placement than Venus in Aquarius. U7 must continually break down the rigid structures of partnership. He will be compelled to shake things up when they become stagnant. Hence, U7 is not the ideal man if you want anything resembling a stable partnership. This does not mean that you can’t maintain longevity — but to make it work, you have to be flexible enough to withstand periodic upheavals in your love life. I guarantee it won’t be boring, but if you can’t tolerate the relationship equivalent of the Storming of the Bastille, turn away now.

posted October 28, 2011 10:08 PM            

I agree it may take me awhile to commit, but when I do, I do...

For me, YES I have had many short term relationships, that suddenly ended, but doesnt mean I cant stay in a relationship...
Things just dont work out...
shruggg...

I do like variety, I do like to be kept on my toes.... I can get bored, but I still remain faithful...

Pluto in H7 has been my torture...
All my relationships are very very intense, and when I was younger the power struggles were awful...
I do feel a need to have control.. but not in the sense, do as I say... More so I want to be able to handle the outcome...
Not sure if that makes sense.. Not sure how to explain it..

HEY do you witness car accidents????

posted October 28, 2011 11:43 PM            

It doesn't mean that I would want to take on such activity if the opportunities are available. Be sure that such opportunities do avail themselves, and sometimes frighteningly frequently. I even have had personal friends, single and married, who have outight propositioned me explicitly.

Its just that I like to believe that I have my head screwed on right. Do I feel guilty with the mental cheating? Sure. But I still do the right thing anyway.

As long as its sub-conscious, I assure myself that I cannot help it. I don't intentionally oogle and fantasize about some other woman. Then again, I am still a guy with a healthy libido. Just that I exercise my libido on my wife, and no one else. Not to get too personal, but I'm pushing 50, and I do ask for it everyday but I end up compromising with 5 to 6 days a week lol Hopefully that is the way it will be for the rest of my life.

posted October 29, 2011 01:00 AM            

As far as fantasizing about non-partners, it really is natural as noted by Lioness I mean we're human. I could be defined as a free spirit and I don't know if we as humans are meant to be monogamous, I have Aquarius Rising. I'm not saying have four wives and be polygamous, I'm just saying living unconventionally and having atypical relationships. Non-traditional relationships, because I think conventional relationships are restrictive and repressive, but I'm a philosophical rebel born in the 80s, maybe my mentality is a generational thing.