posted November 08, 2011 07:10 AM            

However he's now admitted (to himself aswell as to me) that he is in love with me and we spent much of the weekend in floods of tears at the prospect of this being 'goodbye.'

To make matters yet more complicated, (because you can never have enough complications!) I couldn't just up-sticks and move closer to him because I have a 3yr old son who I would feel selfish about moving away from his dad who he sees very regularly at the moment.

He kept telling me that he couldn't bear the thought of not seeing me/speaking to me (I'd suggested we maybe stop contacting to try and get used to being parted) and kept asking "What if I'm making a mistake by going?!" I told him I thought he'd probably only find that out if he goes and tries it. I don't want to hold him back and I don't want him to be miserable day after day in his work.

Just completely sucks that now we've realised how we feel about each other it looks like we can't be together.

Just wondering (not in desperation but more in curiosity/selfish hope) how Taurean men usually approach such a choice? Do your hearts rule your head once you've found someone you're in love with or do you go with practicality? I know we're all different and there's no blue print that all Taurean men will follow of course - just wondering what the trend is. I'd guess at practicality but would be interested to hear from anyone who's experienced this or who has any insight.

posted November 08, 2011 11:46 PM            

I moved away from him to another city for an opportunity and he was not pleased with that. He even planned on transferring to a graduate school in the same city as me. He was incredibly picky when it came to choosing women and I think finding stability with me meant he didn't have to be on the hunt again. He wanted me more for convenience and appeal rather than genuine desire. I'm no coat hanger and I don't want to be taken "care of" by anyone.