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Topic: True or False: Men Want to Be Heroes
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anongrl10
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posted January 22, 2012 10:41 AM
  
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[..] I believe that a woman should be kissed correctly and often.
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anongrl10
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posted January 22, 2012 10:46 AM
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Tried as i mightve....i couldnt get over it (even though especially one of them, had a great mind and heart) and i found that i couldnt be with a guy who i felt like I could beat up :O ....or if we were in a threatening situation....I wouldve been the one who had to do the protecting and fighting for us. 
I understand where you're coming from but since I used the word "strong", I wanted to clarify that to me the strength is not physical. I didn't mean that I need a body-builder or a hit man (lol), although there is nothing wrong with either. I personally meant an emotionally strong man. Who can take sh!t and knows how to deal without alienating those he loves around him when the going gets tough, who can take my sh!t and be on my side without blinking an eye. That's the kind of strength I was personally referring to.
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T
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posted January 22, 2012 05:23 PM
Anon, I was writing some thoughts that came to mind when thinking about this topic and happened to be about physical strength and body structure, not responding to anything you wrote. I didnt read through the entire thread. My post had nothing to do with anything you said, it was a random comment coming from me thinking back on somethings in my life and how I felt. I was also being kind of silly/having a laugh to myself looking back on some things.anyway....I agree that an emotionally and mentally strong man is important too. Very much so Funny, they werent that either. Learning experiences for sure.
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Yin
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posted January 22, 2012 06:01 PM
Agreed with what T said. He needs to be physically stronger than me. (mind you I'm 5'2" so it's not THAT hard) He needs to be a partner but NEVER EVER someone who can't take care of themselves or cave in if pressured by me. I like my men burly.  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted January 22, 2012 07:01 PM
T, no worries. I had indeed thought you were responding to my vague prior presentation of "strong". Thought I'd clarify what I meant anyway.
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anongrl10
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posted January 22, 2012 07:04 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
NEVER EVER someone who can't take care of themselves or cave in if pressured by me. I like my men burly.
LOL. Personally I think if I have reason to pressure them, I would love for them to "cave in" (listen and respect my point). I'm past the stage where I thought arguments are hot. They're not and for my sanity I want agreement and harmony and common goals.
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T
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posted January 22, 2012 07:06 PM
Same here. I'm 5'6 and they were only slightly taller so I had to give up wearing all the heeled shoes I had....or feel like an Amazon woman next to them. So that was a slight bummer too.
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Originally posted by Yin:
He needs to be a partner but NEVER EVER someone who can't take care of themselves or cave in if pressured by me. I like my men burly.
Agreed. Bigger and burlier is better. lol
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posted January 22, 2012 07:10 PM
She might mean 'cave' easily as in a guy who does whatever the heck you tell him to or a pushover. A little bantering or bickering back and forth can be fun. It's a fine line though...brawls never are and it's nice to be with someone who you can argue with, without it getting heated. When both can keep their sense of humor and cool. IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted January 23, 2012 09:28 AM
Before the speculations gets out of hand, I'll give you an example of what I meant.I lived with a Pisces man for a loooong time. He did everything I asked him to do. We loved each other very much but I think the reason we split up was that he was too permissive, too yielding. The relationship became boring and predictable. (Yes, I do regret being an immature b@#$@ and not working on it more... but it's been over for a while now and there is no going back.) What I've always needed is some healthy opposition. Bickering is fine, even fighting... not a fan of shouting matches though. Mutual respect is best. Of course, all of the above are examples of a healthy, normal relationship. When you've been an immigrant somewhere for years and years, things shift out of focus. I think I've made myself a prime candidate for psycho therapy, partially thanks to the bad choices I've made along the way, partially because I still feel like I don't belong anywhere. (The latter makes me desperately clingy and needy - a DEFINITE turn off for all men. Not to mention I'm getting older and starting to think more and more 'bout babies.) BUT. This is not a pity party for Yin, right? Perhaps I should start one though. I feel I need it. LOL. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted January 23, 2012 12:53 PM
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Originally posted by T:
She might mean 'cave' easily as in a guy who does whatever the heck you tell him to or a pushover.
Yeah, I got her intended meaning, that's why I put it in quotes when I re-used it in my context. FWIW, I don't like pushover's either. I call them "guys with jellybean spines". 
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anongrl10
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posted January 23, 2012 12:56 PM
Yin, I think respect is the most important ingredient. It doesn't mean you won't have disagreements; it means you will know where to focus in order to resolve them. I am an intense Venus in Scorpio; I need to draw the line to nasty because I know how nasty it can get. IP: Logged |
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