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anongrl10
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posted February 06, 2012 09:29 AM
  
I'm not sure if this will resonate with anyone but here goes.
I am blessed with a Taurus Moon that gives me persistence where others would have just quit.
I recently had this weird misunderstanding with the guy I'm interested in and it was thanks to my Moon (ok, and its trine to his, very important) that we persisted until we resolved it.
I have so many examples in my life where I see people quit too early too easy before they even try to communicate or work things out. Or, by taking things for granted. Or, by assuming things (that are wrong!) etc.
In relationships (and that includes friendships) I think the biggest challenge for most people is to persevere long enough to know when something is good or completely rotten and not worthy of your attention.
I'm kind of spooked that it worked with this guy given that we don't know each other that well yet (it's early days).
And I know that I could have reacted with frustration (like he could do the same) and quit too soon and potentially losing a good thing. I think it's important to notice this point.
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Doux Rêve
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posted February 06, 2012 03:52 PM
Earth signs are usually good at fixing things, and they try their best to solve any problem that arises. That is why they are usually loyal and devoted, they want to make things work.IP: Logged |
makesthebest
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posted February 06, 2012 10:47 PM
You go lady! Thanks for the advice-will take it to heart next go round!IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted February 07, 2012 12:43 AM
For me if the two people didnt stick it out and work it out, its because its not worth it... Its not meant to be..
The relationship just isnt "it" Its just time to move on...
I think deep inside we all know if its even worth it to work it out.. If its not love, like if the relationship was based on sex,lust, good times.. Then the 2 people wont even try to work it out, because the good times have ended..
NOWIf the 2 people really want to work it out, they will not matter the problem or the situation.
If they are both in love, and dont want to loose the person they will do what they can to work it out. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 08, 2012 06:58 PM
Thank you, guys.
My fixed t-sq is giving me trouble oftentimes but this is one instance where I excel by persistence. It also applies to work. I just keep on while everyone else has quit and lo and behold I'm closer to the solution when everyone else have barely touched the problem.
In any case, my fixed planets are also making me hard to move on with change. I feel the winds changing in my life once again -hopefully for the best this time around but I'm so reluctant to ride the wave.
In my defense, I am sore from the wounds of the last big life change that brought me to this stuck situation.
Let's hope the winds will be gentle yet firm enough for me to move on and let's hope the move will be to a much better place... IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted February 11, 2012 10:21 AM
I, too have a bull Moon and as a Aquarian-colored Pisces I need the stability the Moon affords me.However, I have learend through life that somethings, really at my age, most things, have to be let go of to the powers that be. I have 3 fixed tquares involving a close stellium of Mars, Mercury and Jupiter, oppo Uranus, aspecting my Taurus Moon, but I remain as mutable as I can be. I have often wondered why I am not more "persistant" with these particulat placements, but with the Pisces sun, I get so energetically and emotionally overwhelmed that I just have to let it go. Now in my Pisces/Virgo relationship, I tried for a really long time, I, clearly am the one making the most effort, emotionally anyway, but he just emotionally exhausts me so I had to let go, to what it will be. But I think, also, the younger generation gets involved and do give up too soon. I have a friend in her mid 20's that married her former husband because "we liked the way eachother looked..." Now divorced and married to another, 2 children already, from two different dads,... Good thread! t~~~ IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 11, 2012 10:28 AM
Thanks for sharing.  Pisces always seems to give more than she can afford to give. I have my NN there and boy do I know. My Virgo SN says "no I will control the situation" (is conj Pluto too) and so it's a constant inner battle. Learning to let go not from exasperation but out of respect and love for yourself and your emotional boundaries is what I aim for.
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RegardesPlatero
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posted February 13, 2012 04:53 AM
Well, as that song by The Byrds goes, "to everything, turn, turn, turn, there is a season, turn, turn, turn". ("Turn, Turn, Turn," by The Byrds; pretty much ripped from Ecclesiastes). Sometimes it's better to persevere and hang on, and sometimes hanging on holds you back or causes you harm. It's a fine line between persistence and stubbornness. My father also has a Taurus moon, as does another acquaintance of mine. I've noticed in the acquaintance that she sometimes hangs onto things when she should let go, but, at the same time, she's also very determined and strong. My father is constantly working and doing something and is one of those people who can't stand to relax, and I worry about him sometimes, but he definitely gets things done. So, it's kind of difficult: very capable and motivated people, but at a price sometimes. That's just been my experience. IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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posted February 20, 2012 08:59 AM
quote:
Originally posted by anongrl10:
I'm not sure if this will resonate with anyone but here goes.
I am blessed with a Taurus Moon that gives me persistence where others would have just quit.
I recently had this weird misunderstanding with the guy I'm interested in and it was thanks to my Moon (ok, and its trine to his, very important) that we persisted until we resolved it.
I have so many examples in my life where I see people quit too early too easy before they even try to communicate or work things out. Or, by taking things for granted. Or, by assuming things (that are wrong!) etc.
In relationships (and that includes friendships) I think the biggest challenge for most people is to persevere long enough to know when something is good or completely rotten and not worthy of your attention.
I'm kind of spooked that it worked with this guy given that we don't know each other that well yet (it's early days).
And I know that I could have reacted with frustration (like he could do the same) and quit too soon and potentially losing a good thing. I think it's important to notice this point.
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Malena
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posted February 23, 2012 06:06 PM
I have the opposite problem. (Fitting, as my Sun is the opposite sign, Scorpio!) I hung onto a really toxic friendship for ages out of "loyalty." To me it was unthinkable to end a friendship - only selfish people would do that... When it finally all blew up and ended, all I could think was that I should have cut ties with this person years ago. Literally YEARS. The warning signs were all there, and I ignored them. I look back on all the BS I put up with in the name of "friends forever" and I realize that I was a real self-martyring doormat. I should have been "selfish" - what I now realize would have been simply taking care of myself. I think my own Moon (Leo pride) would not allow me to admit what was wrong. I don't mean to say this to disagree. I would have been with you 100% a couple of years ago. But I learned that life is short, and the time you give to other people is precious, and it shouldn't be wasted on people who won't appreciate it. To be honest, I still struggle with finding the right balance. It's good to have your reminder that fixity is not always a bad thing. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 24, 2012 06:24 PM
Malena, great point.
Thanks for sharing.
I'm all for balance. I agree that some times this persistence can be a big mistake.
At some point, one must realize it and quit before the damage is irreparable. IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 25, 2012 06:51 AM
Was talking to a friend the other day and she was telling me about a past experience of hers that was exactly like you were feeling Malena. She wouldn't quit on someone who basically was not worth it. I guess we can just learn from our mistakes and move on. It's a tricky business sometimes; any extreme invokes its opposite. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted March 25, 2012 12:26 PM
I can relate to not understanding why so many people quit too soon. The flip side of that is not being able to let go when you should. I have five planets in fixed signs so I definitely grapple with the same issues and perspective you do, anongirl10.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted March 25, 2012 12:28 PM
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Originally posted by Malena:
I have the opposite problem. (Fitting, as my Sun is the opposite sign, Scorpio!) I hung onto a really toxic friendship for ages out of "loyalty." To me it was unthinkable to end a friendship - only selfish people would do that... When it finally all blew up and ended, all I could think was that I should have cut ties with this person years ago. Literally YEARS. The warning signs were all there, and I ignored them. I look back on all the BS I put up with in the name of "friends forever" and I realize that I was a real self-martyring doormat. I should have been "selfish" - what I now realize would have been simply taking care of myself. I think my own Moon (Leo pride) would not allow me to admit what was wrong. I don't mean to say this to disagree. I would have been with you 100% a couple of years ago. But I learned that life is short, and the time you give to other people is precious, and it shouldn't be wasted on people who won't appreciate it. To be honest, I still struggle with finding the right balance. It's good to have your reminder that fixity is not always a bad thing.
Very powerful example, thanks for sharing that. IP: Logged |
Sashar
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posted March 26, 2012 05:14 PM
quote:
Originally posted by anongrl10:
I am blessed with a Taurus Moon that gives me persistence where others would have just quit.
Wait... I can blame that annoyance on my Taurus Moon? :P
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