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Topic: Can someone offer some insight into Virgo male?
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Koda1969
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From: Fairfax, VA, USA
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 11, 2012 07:19 AM
  
Hi everyone!
Well, after the somewhat painful dumping I endured at the hands of the Scorpio, I got back on the proverbial horse and put myself out there again.
I have an interesting first date prospect, that seems promising, but it's with a Virgo male (August 30) and I will confess that the only Virgo male I know is my younger brother! LOL (not a good frame of reference hehe)
So far, he seems very nice. He's polite in his communication with me, and the past few days, he's elevated it to early morning "good morning" texts, etc.
But, never having dated a Virgo I'm hoping to get insight into whether this is a good match? (I'm Libra, October 21st). Using my brother as reference, he is a charmer... goes all out and is a gentlemen. But, my brother also can be cruel at times, and very very critical and my brother doesn't seem capable of "deep" love (he over thinks, but he's very critical in regards to love, almost a pessimist). Being that he's my brother, obviously, I don't know that I can gauge just based on him (and he's had a lot he's been dealing with), so I'd like to get a general idea if Virgo/Libra works? Thanks in advance!IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted April 11, 2012 07:20 PM
Depends really on what the guy's chart consists of, and what kind of placements you have too.
I'm a Virgo, and I know sometimes we seem detached and 'cold', but it's just cos we're really soft inside and don't want to get taken advantage of. If you don't play games and you show who you are, the guy will slowly slowlyyyyy open himself up (if he thinks you're worth it). In terms of love, Virgo's are very giving and IF they do fall in love with you (which is frankly going to take a while/ more rare cos we're selective and we don't fall in love with just anyone) he's going to be everything you've always wanted. Virgos are very passionate and loving to the one they love. And imo, they're more loyal than Scorpios. The critical side varies depending on his placements, and usually the perfectionist tendencies is due to their desire to improve you. Which is usually done with good intentions. Only advice is to be yourself and don't play games. We hate games and superficiality. We want what's real.
And if we like what we see (not in the surface sense...More if we like what we see in your heart) then we will slowly show you the side not alot of people ever gets to see.
Good luck! Lol don't worry so much.
Post his placements though! What I have said depends on his placements alittle too.
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Randall
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posted April 12, 2012 11:25 AM
In my opinion, that is a great combination.------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Koda1969
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posted April 12, 2012 04:33 PM
Thanks to both of you for your thoughts. I don't want to over think it. I'm at the point in my life, where things are good, so I'm not looking for a relationship to "complete" me, I would honestly just like friendship and intimacy.
I'll confess that what made me nervous, is that we do not live close. My area is very urban, and traffic stinks. Before even meeting me, he made it a point to say how much he hated my area and driving here. I have epilepsy, and right now, due to a switch in medication, I cannot drive far. Plus, I prefer first dates at least be where I'm comfortable. So, him making such an issue of hating my area and the drive, I felt a bit deflated. He saw my city in my online profile, so why even contact me? I mean, if he can't just suck it up once to at least MEET me (and be polite about it), I'm worried that it won't bode well down the road?IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 12, 2012 05:17 PM
He will love to take care of you, do things for you, if need be.I am in a troubled relationship with a Virgo male, I am a Pisces female. Keep a tough skin, their criticisms (was raised by one, former mother in law and sis in law are them) can hurt so deep. But they are really criticising themselves,, they have a horrible knack for turning their issues of themselves onto others and make it your bad. They can sure dish it out but cant take it, even gentle, kind criticisms, they just cant deal. If you can keep this in mind and blow him off, there are possibilities. My relationship is in the shitter now, may not make it, due to the above mentioned issues. Luck to ya!!! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted April 13, 2012 01:14 PM
^ Good luck hippichick, I didn't know you two were on the rocks!Koda, you might find this guy a little boring...first decan Virgo is very much into stability, predictability, routine...more than Libra-Scorpio. But for friends? It could be nice!  IP: Logged |
Koda1969
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posted April 13, 2012 02:20 PM
Well, something interesting happened. Last night, when we were talking via email, I told him he could call me if he wanted the next day (I was heading to bed). This morning, I get a text saying that when he gets done and is in the truck, he'll call me. Well, he did..and I realize...he's not really a game player. He is simple..and I don't mean that in a bad way, it was almost cute because I don't think he really knew what to say..and at one point, he said "I'm not good on the phone and honestly don't like it" and when I said I hated talking on the phone, he was over the moon LOL So, I may have mis-judged what I thought was "player" tendencies..I think he's just not all that socially adept, which isn't so bad. So, I'm thinking I might just tell him tonight, look..if you want to take a chance, come out and meet me...with no expectations. I don't know..you never know!IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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posted April 25, 2012 01:36 AM
I like Virgos! Seriously adore them. Surrounded by them. I dun know if it is cos I have Virgo in Jupiter, Saturn, Juno, Wisdom etc... Besides being critical, scrutinising details n routine loving, they also like taking care of things, taking care of you, being responsible for you, if you are someone dear to them.  IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted April 28, 2012 03:29 AM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
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If you can keep this in mind and blow him off, there are possibilities.
^^This^^ IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 28, 2012 11:40 AM
Well I am done with mine, as of this morning.I am tired of the criticisms, the negativity, the lack of support, the blaming, and really tired of him not being able to take it after dishing it out. Nothing is ever his fault. One of those men who switch all things up on the woman to make it their fault cause their false sense of perfectionism and their innerknowing that they are far from perfect cant handle being un-perfect. NO more Virgos for me... What was I thinking anyway? IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
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posted April 28, 2012 02:52 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, hippichick.
It's actually sad that they criticize so much and see the flaws yet they do not see the flaws in themselves. They're so busy criticizing others that they have no time to see that the very act of criticizing is a flaw.
And the sad thing is, who likes to criticized? There are many different ways to approah someone about their flaws.6th house stellium here, complemented by a 12th house stellium.
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LetsDance
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posted April 28, 2012 02:59 PM
I'm sorry that this wasn't working out for you, hippi. It sounds like he is very insecure if he has to put you down. Nobody wants to be around someone who doesn't mutually value your being together. I'm curious, what was the attraction to him? I ask because now with the knowledge you have of how he is, you are more empowered to manage yourself and how he treats you. You may not need to break up because of this awareness of the bugaboos. It can help you change the way you respond to his issues and counteract how they have affected your relationship. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 28, 2012 03:58 PM
Thank you LadiesLetsdance, I really dont know, other than the opposite thing, me being a Pisces, the attraction was terrible fascinating, horribly mutual and him now at 45 and me at 50 one would think we both had our crap together. However I have quite the knack for attracting and be-ing in relationship with these type of men, emotional abusers. Insecure, yes. I have tried and tried many ways, with complete love responding to his issues. But all in all, it is my issue and why I keep giving and giving, to the point of little left in me. The curse of the Pisces female, I suppose. terri~ IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 28, 2012 03:59 PM
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Originally posted by TrueTaurus:
I'm sorry to hear that, hippichick.
It's actually sad that they criticize so much and see the flaws yet they do not see the flaws in themselves. They're so busy criticizing others that they have no time to see that the very act of criticizing is a flaw.
And the sad thing is, who likes to criticized? There are many different ways to approah someone about their flaws.6th house stellium here, complemented by a 12th house stellium.
Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer
well said, absolutley! IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted April 28, 2012 05:36 PM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
But all in all, it is my issue and why I keep giving and giving, to the point of little left in me.The curse of the Pisces female, I suppose. terri~
Hippichick, I've read alot of your posts and you are a very wise woman. Question: Is it you or him that is most insecure? It sounds like you are always trying to please these men in your life instead of getting what pleases you and makes you happy. I think once you start valuing yourself more, you won't become involved in these emotionally abusive relationships. It's not that you attract these men, they show up and somewhere along the line you get involved with them knowing it's not good for you but hoping they will change. I'm sure you are a beautiful woman, inside and out, but you have to value that in yourself before anyone else will. I guess by breaking up with him will end some extent of the pain, but will you repeat this if you don't change how you feel about yourself? It's not that he is a Virgo. You're not compatible with men with his personality and vice versa. It doesn't make you or him anything less. Just different. I'm not saying stay with him, just understand what you have learned by being around this personality so you will know how to manage yourself when they show up again. Male or female. If you handle it right, it won't stop them from showing up, but the result will be different. They will see that you are woman who doesn't seek or need their approval which will make them either stay and change to become more compatible with you, or leave rather quickly. In the case of the former, you will feel great about yourself and the relationship. In the latter case, good riddance. But in either case, you will have your self-respect and their respect as well. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 29, 2012 10:10 AM
LetsDanceThat is a very wise statement yourself. Thank you!!! I dont think it is so much that I am insecure, heavens I like being on my own, like being single, when I am, like doing for mysel, but I just love to give of me too much. And in that is some sort of indication of dysfunctionality on my part. You are correct, tho in all you say. I am now not going to give to much to a man ever and I know you are absolutely right in saying that until I learn I will repeat the pattern over and over. He wants to talk, but I can not take him seriously again, are very wary of him, relationships in general, kind of gun shy, I suppose you could say and will just mind myself. Starting a new job tomorrow, will have something to concentrate on. Thanks and blessings!! terri~ IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted April 29, 2012 11:00 AM
Koda didnt mean to jack your thread But I think my issues may have something to do with being a Pisces, opposite Virgo. Sure I give too much, emotionally in relationships, but Virgos dont give enough, from my mother, to my mother in law to the man. With opposites there is this imbalance that is created, like the heavy or the strongest one holding down the other on a teeter toter. Imbalance... IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted May 01, 2012 05:12 AM
My brother is a Virgo. He can be a real smartass sometimes (which is often very funny); his sense of humor is sarcastic, critical, and biting, which is something that I've noticed even in the more humble Virgos. He's good with insults and has a very sharp wit, but much of the time, he's teasing. It's when he just says something very biting and to the point that you know that he's REALLY mad, or else when he refuses to speak to you. He's really big on neatness and order and likes things a certain way; he is particular about a few things. He has a good heart. He's very respectful of superiors and is very polite in situations that require it. His snappy, funny side comes out at the appropriate time, so he doesn't usually embarrass me when my family does something together, which as a Libra I like. He's very highly intelligent, and can get annoyed with stupidity (something I notice is true of a lot of Virgos), but he's a patient teacher if you ask him to help you with something or explain something to you. He does a lot for the family and without complaint; whenever I've offered to pay/compensate him for helping me with something, he refuses. His Leo side (he has a Leo moon) makes him good at making you laugh if you're around him while in a bad mood or feeling sad. He's the sort of person who's there for you when the chips are down. He's pretty loyal. As for the infamous Virgo criticism, in healthy Virgos, I've noticed that it's good to say "thank you", when they are honestly trying to help and approach the issue fairly and reasonably. When I feel like a Virgo, be it my brother or another Virgo, is being too nitpicky or driving me nuts, I listen but kind of laugh at the criticism/humor the Virgo and then laugh later. Now, that's for emotionally/spiritually healthy Virgos. An abusive Virgo, no one should put up with that (or any sign abuser, for that matter). IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted May 01, 2012 06:29 PM
Regards,, thank you for your post.Helps me understand them a bit more! Maybe being my opposite, the teasing, joking thing offsets, opposes my over serious nature~ terri~ IP: Logged |
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posted May 01, 2012 09:02 PM
Your brother sounds like me, RP. Except I'm a Virgo Moon with heavy Leo placements.Only certain people get our sense of humor. We can't hang with over sensitive pansies. I'm sorry I have no advice for the OP, but that might help anyway. Grow a thick skin and make sure you have a killer sense of humor. IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted May 04, 2012 01:32 AM
Koda, yes, didn't mean to hijack your thread.Congrats on the new job, hippi! In my experience, Virgos use sarcasm to keep people at a distance -- so you don't see how sensitive they are. Look beyond that and I don't think you will have a problem. Also, opposites usually see something in the other that they lack, and depending on the sign, can bring out the competition or the jealousy. In the case of Pisces, you guys are very accepting and can go with the flow. When you've had enough, you disappear and return rejuvenated. It could breed resentment from more earth-bound souls that you seem to slip through their fingers just when they think they have you where they want you! lol IP: Logged |
LetsDance
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posted May 04, 2012 01:47 AM
The virgo men I've met remind me of the little boys who, when they like a girl, they pull her hair. It's harmless, but annoying. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted May 05, 2012 09:42 AM
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Originally posted by LetsDance:
The virgo men I've met remind me of the little boys who, when they like a girl, they pull her hair. It's harmless, but annoying.
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