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posted April 18, 2012 07:36 PM            

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The man I loved and lost has Venus (in Cancer) square Saturn (in Libra).
I'd say the main problem we had was I felt like he couldn't open himself up to me emotionally. It was painful and confusing. He had a really detached, almost hard quality. But I loved him, loved him madly.
We broke up a couple of months ago. He had not cried in probably 20 years, since he was a boy. But when he broke up with me, he sobbed and sobbed. Still, he left. I have tried for 2 months to get him back, but he wont come back. There was no big trouble leading to our breakup, no lying or cheating or anything like that. He just said, and says, he can't "give me what I need." I think he means real emotional intimacy.
Anybody have insights into the Venus-square-Saturn thing? I know a little about it, but would like to learn more. Do you have any suggestions for wooing back a man with this aspect in his natal chart? Or is it hopeless? He's 29. I'm 33.

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posted April 19, 2012 10:44 AM            

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Linda-Land, for me, has always been the spiritual realm... a place where prayers are answered and I can hear the voice of God. It's a yin/yang deal so it can be crummy, but it can also be so deeply deeply touching. I read your words and it is a message from The Universe. I feel it deeply, and understand. Saturn can be so...... hard. Like a slow moving steel ship the size of the Titanic with all the love and stories therein. It's true there might be a romantic sacrifice (especially if Pluto has a hand in it) and it's true your heart will go achingly on...

but what if the slow moving steel is really those walls that are closing in on Luke and Han and Chewy and Leia and your soul friend has been pulled down by the grasping tendril of something that lurks below? What if (even though it seems all hope is lost) at the last minute some sort of sudden Uranus turn around saves the day? Pull him up from the muck. Be cheerful. Be friends with him, keep it light... find out why you are in each other's lives and what you have to share and thank him, thank him, THANK HIM REPEATEDLY for being in your life and for the things he DOES do to bring you peace and joy in this sometimes dark and lonely world.
Remember. Be grateful. Think of all he has already given and send him the grateful joy in your heart from those things and keep a grateful spirit. <3

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posted April 19, 2012 06:35 PM            

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Oh my goodness, I'm sure you are right, Mystic Melody, that I should try to be a friend to him. Your words are beautiful, and true, and touched me. I just told him last weekend that I didn't think we could be friends, even though he wants to be. It is just so painful for me. I feel so rejected. To be with him as a friend just hurts my heart so much, because I love him as a woman loves a man. He says (now) that I feel more for him than he feels for me. That wounds me. Maybe in time I will be able to be his riend. I hope so because, like I said, I'm sure you are right.

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posted April 28, 2012 03:57 AM            

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Originally posted by StellaRose:
He just said, and says, he can't "give me what I need."

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Yeah, men will run when they start to feel this way. It's all about making you happy. And if they don't feel like they are making you happy, they feel like failures and badly about themselves. Then they start to lose their freaking minds --

start doing crazy stuff -- leaving, picking a fight, cheating, drinking, anything except ask for directions...

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posted May 26, 2012 01:57 PM            

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LetsDance

On to the next prettier, younger girl!

or

should I say dating sites.

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