posted May 31, 2012 01:40 PM            

10/17/87
7:24 a.m. New Orleans, La

So, I'm a libra/libra asc with Merc and Venus in Scorpio and a moon in Leo. I've recently fallen into one of those ridiculously intoxicating relationships where everything is uncertain in the beginning. Criticize me now, but we've only been seeing each other for a month. He's an Aries, which is probably a terrible idea for me. Our relationship is great, though. We have fun together and there seems to be a genuine love and chemistry between us. He's so affectionate and hasn't really given me any reason to not trust him.

posted June 01, 2012 05:09 PM            

That said, I am by no means an expert in how to get rid of this sickening jealousy (which I still feel over someone I'm trying to rid myself of... long story) but let's try and find a path through this together shall we and maybe we can help each other?

Ok so what I try to do in these moments is to kind of 'fact' my way through it. I ask myself what are the 'facts' of the situation and I cling to those like a drowining man haha! So...

FACT #1: he's given you no other reason to doubt his fidelity.

FACT #2: he's loving and affectionate, there's huge chemistry between you and you have fun.

FACT #3: He is 'always friends' with his exes so there isn't anything particularly special about her. This is the norm for him.

So far so good? I think from what you've said that there's nothing to worry about - arguably he's being adorably Aries in so far as he's not really thinking about it from your perspective (might have been polite for him to arrange an outing with all 3 of you... a little awkward but polite all the same) but the GOOD thing is, he's also being incredibly honest and up-front with you (definitely not trying to hide meeting up with her from you) so I'd say there's really nothing in it but friendship. Why did his other ex have a problem with this particular girl - do you know? Probably just insecurity.

I think the only way to help yourself in this situation is to resolve to be the best of yourself - by that I mean, behave in the best way you possibly can. Be the absolute highest and greatest of yourself. Don't allow the jealousy to win and overshadow what he's fallen in love with in you. It's a part of you but it's not the sum total. That way, you won't have anything to regret - jealousy can often make us re-act instead of act. The Scorp Venus/Merc is a very analytical, investigative vibe I often think... consequently we ferret out meaning and what we perceive to be truth from tiny scraps of 'evidence.' If we feel betrayed or that we're not being treated like 'the Goddess' (come on now, don't deny it haha!) we want to 'sting' those who hurt us and this can sometimes mean we let that hurt and the need to retaliate get the better of us. I've done it a million times and only now am I learning the benefit of stepping back and doing the positive thing rather than stinging. If you can, try to fill yourself up with the positive feeling that loving him gives you. Resolve to believe the best of him. If he then proves you wrong (highly unlikely from what you've described) then you have free reign to 'sting' haha! But try to step back from the jealousy itself - it's such a black cloud that descends and I dread it because it means I become obsessive and devisive and just plain crazed! Step out from underneath it, stand back and take a good long look at it, understand yourself for it rather than condemn yourself... and then put it in the filing cabinet of your emotions in the draw marked 'unproductive'