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posted June 02, 2012 07:04 PM            

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Ok, here is the thing - I have been in a long distance relationship almost a year long with a Taurus guy, whom I got to know very well, his qualities but also his faults. But, one thing quite puzzled me from the start, and now I am afraid that I really have no patience, no matter how sweet, thoughtful and nice he is. From the beginning it has been a serious relationship, but from my side full of trust and belief in his goodness. We see eachother every two weeks and that's quite ok, we send sms messages all day long, hear by phone or skype also few times per day...But, he flirts with other girls on FB, at least I think it is a serious flirting when he tells them that they are beautiful or invites then to coffie. What puzzles me is that when I confronted him, but on a very calm manner and told him that I am confused because on one hand he tells me that he loves me and I guess that he doesn't see other girls because through the day and every night (it's our custom) we speak deep into the night on Skype, but on the other side he is verbal in mentioned way with other, unknown girls. He told me that he doesn't do anything and that he only thinks of me, bla, bla...But, when I told him that his behavior is immature and that he is disrespectful to me and if he wants us to break up, it's quite ok with me, he gets nervous and asks me why do I always talk about the end of our relationship. He is Taurus/Pisces, born 09.05. 1979 at 02.30 AM at 43N19 and 21E54. Please, is there any aspect in his chart for infidelity or cheating, because I am at the end of my wits and patience. Thanks so much for your opinions in advance!

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posted June 02, 2012 08:24 PM            

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Welcome!

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posted June 03, 2012 05:05 AM            

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Thank You deeply Randall! If You have any insight, I'd be more than glad to hear it. Astrology is not "terra incognita" to me and I studied his and mine charts very carefully but in his chart I can't see anything disturbing and yet his behavior on FB is...Anyway, I am more than eager to hear any comment

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posted June 03, 2012 06:05 AM            

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To be honest, he really does sound like a player.

It's one thing if he's been friends with someone and does coffee with them. Female friends are fine and normal. However, if he's picking up women and using coffee as a date, then that's not fine.

He shouldn't be flirting seriously with other girls, either, if he's really into you.

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posted June 03, 2012 07:01 AM            

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Thank You so much for Your opinion! Well, what You mentioned is exactly the thing that is bugging me - I am very open minded, not jealous type or person who mostly appreciate direct and honest relations (Leo/Aries, so You can understand the directness ). And that is exactly what I told him - please, if You want to be with someone else or do something else, just go ahead. I'll wish you all the best and go away for good from your life. But don't expect me to be around and waste time on you. I don't understand why he can't be just honest about it - as though he really means that these kinds of flirting are harmless??

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posted June 05, 2012 02:24 PM            

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I also want to know about these Taurus men. Very curious!

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posted June 07, 2012 07:05 PM            

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Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.

When you agreed to date eachother exclusively did you agree on what that meant? i.e. being monogamous both sexually and socially?

I'm guessing no. It sounds like while he may be sexually monogamous he still thinks it's ok to act like a single man outside of that.

I think you need to ask him when would be a good time to talk and share your feelings... say how his flirting and asking out other girls makes you feel. Focus on you and your feelings instead of accusing him. If he's not willing to fix it then are you willing to walk away? Because tolerating it is not healthy.

I have no idea about Taurus men really - although my first bf was Taurus. He was very slow and steady though... doesn't sound like your guy.

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posted June 08, 2012 03:57 PM            

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You might want to look more into the Piscean side of him...not so much the Taurus...Taurus guys are very steady...

I don't know your situation but I can tell you from my own dealings with a Sagittarius/Aquarius/Pisces man...it was wonderful in the beginning, then he started cheating, lying and being very deceitful... He doesn't believe he did anything wrong...fun times...lol.

I think that Venus and Mars in Aquarius in 12th and having Pisces Ascendant was the death of us...

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posted June 16, 2012 04:04 AM            

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I know some Taurus men fairly well....my son is one! Heres the thing....they really do like that one girl....and she,...meaning YOU has to be soooo super confident of herself, that you don't care who he talks to. Infact you have to give him the feeling....that you are doing him a favor by being with him....just a wee bit. Taureans love the chase....love the unattainable. You are being really sweet and nice to him....and when you ask him all these questions....it doesn't go down well. If you really like this guy, and are into him....just be a little more unavailable...make him chase you. Hope it helps!!

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posted June 16, 2012 08:38 AM            

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Can you give the place name instead of the latitude/longitude? Astro.com asks for the city or town.

But it might not matter...a guy who insists on being free to flatter other women over facebook and ask them out for coffee, even when he's in a committed relationship, is going to have problems settling down.

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posted June 27, 2012 12:35 PM            

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What happened with this

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posted June 28, 2012 12:11 PM            

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How did it turn out?

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posted June 29, 2012 10:38 AM            

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posted June 30, 2012 07:05 AM            

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Dear Randall and all, so sorry for not responding for some time - I have been in his town (on bussiness though) and spent half of that time with him. As I couldn't pretend that everything is great between us, I told him that it would be good for us to talk, completely gently and friendly and asked him why does he need to flirt with other girls in FB. At first he said that I am making too big deal about it, but when I told him to change our places and how would he feel if I was the one who tells him that I am in love with him and that everything is great, but flirt with other guys on the net, he finally understood. I must admit that while my stay in his town (two weeks) he really changed his behavior in the sense that he became more committed and upon my arrival home I don't see his comments anymore even the slightest interest for the net. On the one hand, I know that he endures the distance (and our long distance relationship) much worse than I do - when we are together everything is great and he is completely satisfied and calm, but once we separate he becomes more insecure. I am aware that everyone's behavior is the result of one's maturity, so he'll either have to mature a little if we are to endure the distance or we won't be together.
Dear Faith, the place is Belgrade, Serbia (latitude and longitude 20E30, 44N49) so it would be great if You could take a brief look at his chart and discuss it a little with me (because I already know it by heart, but maybe I am missing something). Dear Randall and all the others who were so kind to give me their opinion and advice - Your input upon his chart would also be much appreciated ! Thank you all in advance

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posted June 30, 2012 07:07 AM            

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Dear Randall and all, so sorry for not responding for some time - I have been in his town (on bussiness though) and spent half of that time with him. As I couldn't pretend that everything is great between us, I told him that it would be good for us to talk, completely gently and friendly and asked him why does he need to flirt with other girls in FB. At first he said that I am making too big deal about it, but when I told him to change our places and how would he feel if I was the one who tells him that I am in love with him and that everything is great, but flirt with other guys on the net, he finally understood. I must admit that while my stay in his town (two weeks) he really changed his behavior in the sense that he became more committed and upon my arrival home I don't see his comments anymore even the slightest interest for the net. On the one hand, I know that he endures the distance (and our long distance relationship) much worse than I do - when we are together everything is great and he is completely satisfied and calm, but once we separate he becomes more insecure. I am aware that everyone's behavior is the result of one's maturity, so he'll either have to mature a little if we are to endure the distance or we won't be together.
Dear Faith, the place is Belgrade, Serbia (latitude and longitude 20E30, 44N49) so it would be great if You could take a brief look at his chart and discuss it a little with me (because I already know it by heart, but maybe I am missing something). Dear Randall and all the others who were so kind to give me their opinion and advice - Your input upon his chart would also be much appreciated ! Thank you all in advance

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