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posted June 06, 2012 05:38 PM            

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What is Venus retrograde? And when did it just start?

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posted June 06, 2012 08:48 PM            

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Venus Retrograde 
* reconsiders before expressing love or affection 
* relates awkwardly to others
* doubts the love others offer 
* can become obsessed in relationships 
* feels let down by the commitment level of others 

Venus involves pleasure, love, romance, relaxation, aesthetics, peaceful feelings, harmony, money, and values. Venus tends to work by attraction. Approximately every eighteen months or so, Venus slips into retrograde for about six weeks. While Venus is retrograde, you are more likely to find your ability to attract what you want restricted or inhibited. You could find yourself much more concerned with achieving or maintaining external beauty, your flow of ready cash, questioning your ideas of pleasure, aesthetics, or even revaluating your feelings about romantic relationships.
Do you find yourself inhibited about seeking what you really want from your romantic partner? Does your ability to attract the money and attention you feel that you need seem to cause you problems? Is your natal Venus retrograde?
A natal Venus retrograde can cause you difficulty achieving fulfillment or finding your right romantic partner. You may be more in love with your ideas about love than you are with any real person you know. In karmic terms, you need to complete a life lesson about giving and receiving love and affection. You are here to determine what is truly of value to you and learn about creating a balance of give and take in your romantic life. Your romantic dialogue has a tendency to be far too internal at times, causing you to inhibit the flow of good things into your life. You will have to be willing to experience loving and being loved in order to attract what you desire into your life and create the feelings of security you need.
This is from my notes... If you know the link please feel free to post it coz I can't remember

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posted June 06, 2012 08:59 PM            

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Oh & Venus is Rx from May 15- June 27

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posted June 07, 2012 01:18 AM            

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I cannot stand venus rx transit. I dont want to think about my ex. It's not so much I want him back, because I'd never take him back. I do find myself rethinking how everything went down, and overanalyzing it like crazy. I like the idea of missing him, because I dont see myself trusting anyone anytime soon, so theres a comfort to missing someone I dont want to be with anymore.(does that make sense? no? yeah.)

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posted June 07, 2012 05:00 PM            

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ariesdragon:
Thank you so much that was very helpful. I wanted to know because everytime I went on soul unions and read about the relationship problems they kept mentioning Venus Retrograde.

I think from your discription my natal venus is retrograde in my chart.

birdy:
Yes what you said makes sense. I totally understand.

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posted June 07, 2012 06:16 PM            

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This is from Molly's Astrology on Venus Rx:

We may be called upon to reevaluate our existing close relationships. Venus retrograde is a good time to think and talk about issues, review and discuss what has worked well for you before and what has not. This is not the time to finalize either commitments or separations, as the value or lack thereof in the relationship might not be apparent to you now. There’s a strange kind of intensity and longing that tends not to go anywhere.
A lot of folks feel the need to pull back from relationships and rethink things, especially those in the “hot and heavy” or “I don’t know what we are yet” stage, or those that are “on again off again.” It’s very normal, sometimes you need to come down to earth, pull back from the swirling intensity. Problems happen when the other person takes it personally, becomes fearful of losing the relationship, and refuses to let it happen. Getting upset about it sends the message, “I care about my feelings more than I care about yours.” Wouldn’t you rather send the message, “I respect your feelings and care about you enough to give you your space, and I will be here for you when you are ready to reach out.”
The real focus now is your relationship with yourself, and this time is especially good for acts of kindness and love toward yourself. So many times when the people close to us are aggravating or frustrating, the problem is with us, not them. It’s important during Venus retrograde to take some time and space for yourself, to understand and manage your feelings. Especially if there is anxiety or anger, just recognize and honor the fears and hurt feelings that are underneath. Just by recognizing and honoring them, you create inner peace. From there, you can decide what to do (or not to do) next.
In a relationship that begins or ends during this time, you could think you are dealing with Luke Skywalker, but he turns out to be Darth Vader— or Pee Wee Herman. Or vice versa. Just tune into your instincts for guidance. If you feel anxious and unhappy, give yourself some time and space to breathe and think before taking action. Get in touch with yourself. Don’t let your fears and insecurities drive your actions.

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posted June 07, 2012 06:22 PM            

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I am DEFINITELY feeling it and funnily enough it started right on May 16. That was before I even knew things were getting weird in my relationship... it was just a feeling I had. Ugh! I feel so needy and obsessive right now.

Anyway, I have read conflicting things from astrologers - some say a relationship that breaks up or becomes distant during Venus Rx does not ever get back on track. Others say Venus Rx breakups don't always stick.

I know what you mean Birdy, there is a comfort in what you knew even if it's sad... the unknown is scary.

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posted June 07, 2012 06:54 PM            

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carlie:

some say a relationship that breaks up or becomes distant during Venus Rx does not ever get back on track
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That is my feeling also for me this rings true, I just sense that.

I also feel that just before venus retrograde, say starting in March the universe did everything to get me together with someone (literally had a 100 emails from men) and what venus retrograde means for me is, well now you should have been in a relationship, (for me it also started exactly on the 15th) now it's too late. And that's why the part where there is no attraction anymore with other men is gone.

But what I say is---
well the universe doesn't seem to realize we are dealing with men!!!!!

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posted June 07, 2012 08:22 PM            

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Well isn't that the whole thing with Venus Rx, that it makes you have all these feelings that are a bit crazy and you can't see the forest for the trees. I am sure it will all be more clear in a few weeks.

I feel the same way now - like there is no hope and it's very depressing.

Also yes I had so many more dating options before this thing started. And now it's all pretty much dried up - which is why I'm focusing on my Cancer waaaay too much.

What happened in your situation?

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posted June 08, 2012 10:55 AM            

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I was born during Venus Rx, and so I really don't feel it when it happens.

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posted June 08, 2012 11:47 AM            

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You're welcome fairy 22
& Carlie u got a good interpretation there too...

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posted June 09, 2012 12:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
I was born during Venus Rx, and so I really don't feel it when it happens.

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You're one luck son-of-a-gun, Randall, to have that natal placement...chaos avoided, so to speak

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posted June 09, 2012 12:17 AM            

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I can't wait for this Venus Rx to be done and *over with* (though I just accidentally typed "lover with", LOL)...

It's been a lot of soul searching and wound healing...WAY, WAY uncomfortable...just the way I like it Darn natal Chiron in Gemini!

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posted June 09, 2012 08:47 AM            

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Originally posted by carlie:
This is from Molly's Astrology on Venus Rx:

We may be called upon to reevaluate our existing close relationships. Venus retrograde is a good time to think and talk about issues, review and discuss what has worked well for you before and what has not. This is not the time to finalize either commitments or separations, as the value or lack thereof in the relationship might not be apparent to you now. There’s a strange kind of intensity and longing that tends not to go anywhere.
A lot of folks feel the need to pull back from relationships and rethink things, especially those in the “hot and heavy” or “I don’t know what we are yet” stage, or those that are “on again off again.” It’s very normal, sometimes you need to come down to earth, pull back from the swirling intensity. Problems happen when the other person takes it personally, becomes fearful of losing the relationship, and refuses to let it happen. Getting upset about it sends the message, “I care about my feelings more than I care about yours.” Wouldn’t you rather send the message, “I respect your feelings and care about you enough to give you your space, and I will be here for you when you are ready to reach out.”
The real focus now is your relationship with yourself, and this time is especially good for acts of kindness and love toward yourself. So many times when the people close to us are aggravating or frustrating, the problem is with us, not them. It’s important during Venus retrograde to take some time and space for yourself, to understand and manage your feelings. Especially if there is anxiety or anger, just recognize and honor the fears and hurt feelings that are underneath. Just by recognizing and honoring them, you create inner peace. From there, you can decide what to do (or not to do) next.
In a relationship that begins or ends during this time, you could think you are dealing with Luke Skywalker, but he turns out to be Darth Vader— or Pee Wee Herman. Or vice versa. Just tune into your instincts for guidance. If you feel anxious and unhappy, give yourself some time and space to breathe and think before taking action. Get in touch with yourself. Don’t let your fears and insecurities drive your actions.

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does this mean that if you think that someone has a problem with you, it's a good time to gently ask about it and possibly resolve it?

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posted June 21, 2012 04:23 PM            

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Any changes yet in your love lives?

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posted June 23, 2012 11:41 AM            

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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Venus Retrograde 
* reconsiders before expressing love or affection 
* relates awkwardly to others
* doubts the love others offer 
* can become obsessed in relationships 
* feels let down by the commitment level of others 

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^ THIS THIS THIS.

I've been feeling in friendships/other social relationships, and not in romance, but it's been just as frustrating.

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posted June 27, 2012 12:29 PM            

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Originally posted by ariesdragon:
Venus Retrograde
* reconsiders before expressing love or affection
* relates awkwardly to others
* doubts the love others offer
* can become obsessed in relationships
* feels let down by the commitment level of others
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WOW is that accurate!

Thanks RegardesPlatero
I know exactly how you feel.

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posted June 29, 2012 08:24 PM            

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Its over! kind of....truly after July 5th. I feel such a sense of relief and definitely wiser. And strangely, I feel absolutely powerless and lack a sense of control regarding my romantic future. I have emerged from this retro very humble and accepting. I let go and understand that ultimately my destiny, fate, and lot in life is not in my control. The only thing I can do is make an effort to make wise choices based on what I learned over the past few months.

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I thought the Venus Rx shadow period was til July 27th?

Anyway here is my love life update -

The Cancer guy who went MIA on me as soon as Venus Rx started (we spoke a few times but we went the full 6 weeks without seeing eachother) has now started blowing up my phone again with messages. This started about a week before the end of the Rx and continues to this day... although we still haven't seen eachother.

As for how I'm feeling - I suppose the Rx helped me to "let go" in a way but I'm still down in the dumps and feeling blah about my love life. I assume that's because we are still in the shadow period.

I guess one thing Venus Rx helped me with was to get clear on what I will and won't accept... I figure I've already gone through the pain of withdrawing from him so I may as well just continue along here and stay strong rather than have to repeat this process all over again if I "give in" and accept less than what I want from him.

But I haven't had any lightning bolt of clarity or feeling different/better etc.

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