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Libra Lady
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posted June 16, 2012 03:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a Libran woman.......right down to the toes, and am with an Aries for 14 years now....in a very very close relationship....I know he loves me....but he is driving me insane with him criticism....I can't take it anymore? One day he blows hot, next day cold. I am clueless.....and as a successful woman in my own right, I wonder what the hell am I doing. He is going through a difficult time in his life, he feels I am not there for him. I feel I am doing everything....obviously its not enough. Any advice???

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Faith
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posted June 16, 2012 08:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome to Lindaland!

Would you like to post your charts, or the synastry chart, in the Personal Readings forum?

It might just be planets transiting, causing temporary problems. Has he always been like this?

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Libra Lady
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posted June 17, 2012 06:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Faith,

Well I don't know his charts....he is born on april 16th 1958.....I know he is going through a really hard time personally and professionally....and he says I am as clueless as they get. I keep trying to be this super woman, who asks all the right questions....but he says I am not involved enough.......am just gossiping!! what a horrible thing to say to someone who has been with you for 14 years. Btw - we are both married to other people. I am a bit on my own trip sort of person....so I am told. But I don't know how to fix this. Or figure out what I should do to stop this, and provide the support he needs....its been over a year of this non stop criticism.

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Randall
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posted June 17, 2012 10:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome!

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fairy22
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posted July 02, 2012 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Libra Lady -

I know an Aries very well. It was a lady though. But she was in this relationship with someone and did the same thing - criticize. I knew she wasn't really in love and mentioned it to her. With my suggestion she did meet someone else a couple of months later and it was her true love.

She never criticized like she did with the previous one. And there were no ups and downs exactly like you mentioned.

Oh and this lady was born April 15

But you know the best,
good luck

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Libra Lady
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posted July 03, 2012 05:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thanks. I went for a consultation to a tarot reader.....as its been 3 weeks now, of complete silence from his end. I don't know what to do. She says we draw the card of soul mates......and are completely in love with each other. She says he will come around.....and that I should stop writing letters, and let him miss me. I dunno if I should give that sort of importance.
there has to be a limit. She says if I stop writing or calling...he will come back. Anyone else who has a take on this?????

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fairy22
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posted July 03, 2012 12:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Libra Lady

She says if I stop writing or calling...he will come back


I don't know about the psychic’s advice

I’ve read too many posts in Soul Unions the past months and it seems that all the women are going through the same thing with their man

- meaning he just stops calling and having contact. The women do exactly that, they keep their distance and they just watch their relationship fade away.

We need more input from the men

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Libra Lady
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posted July 04, 2012 04:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok....as crazy as this is. Yesterday I went to a forum which we both are part of. I went hoping to see him there. Anyways....I saw him at a distance...and I saw him pack up some stuff....and walk out. I was devastated. I started walking to the exit...when suddenly he came back, and said....'hi, so nice to see you here' and went on to say he wanted to talk to me....and had hoped I would come today etc. then told me that he felt that he had been going thru a lot and therefore needed space. I meant to write to me.....but couldn't coz he was away for a week on holiday with family. he said I had written a lot of 'stories' in my mails....when nothing was further from the truth, there was nothing to forgive. That he had been angry for a day, but not beyond that. But even if they were stories he didn't respond. He was really nice to me.....but lets not forget, I was as nice, and very gracious in pretending nothing had happened. But this is the 3rd time in the last few months he has done this. We chatted for a bit this morning.....but I haven't called him since and I don't want to make the mistake of making 20 calls in a day as I was doing earlier. But really! How weird is that. I know yesterday was a special full moon day.....does that count for something?
Do men.....aries men all behave this way?

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fairy22
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posted July 04, 2012 03:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yah, yesterday for me sure was a special day!

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fairy22
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posted July 04, 2012 03:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What do you plan to do, any ideas?

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Libra Lady
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posted July 06, 2012 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Really? How come it was special for you??

I have no plans really. He is coming online....for some reason not taking calls, not sure why. Chatting with me about what is happening at his end. I am pretending to be cool....its weird really. I want to ask him, why he is does this every now and again....should I?

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love being Aries
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posted July 14, 2012 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
when we REALLY love a person, we will never, and i emphasize on NEVER criticize that person.

I don't think this Aries man is in love with you at all!

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fairy22
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posted July 14, 2012 05:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Libra

It's been a while since that special day so I can't really remember I only looked at the post today.

But it was special in kinda magical way, felt good for a change.

I think (I hope it's not to late) that would be a great idea. Open up to him and really get to know what is happening. Talk for a very long time. Ask him all the questions you can. Make him share his feelings. You really need this.

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Libra Lady
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posted July 18, 2012 12:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You are so right.....his biggest criticism is that I am not a good listener. He has been going thru so much...and I don't know how to draw out what he is feeling, without giving my own opinion. However as we talk most of the time on phone or chat....neither are mediums in which you can keep quiet...and simply listen....so I kinda end up saying stuff which is unnecessary. You are right....he really really wants to share his innermost feelings with me....and is unable to.
Any suggestions on how to do that without it sounding like gossip. If I ask what is going on? he feels I am just getting a gossip update....and thats not true. How do I put this?? what is that magic sentence? : )

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Libra Lady
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posted July 18, 2012 01:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
what do you think this means?

Today I asked him.....coz i could see our conversation was going nowhere, and I was asking superficial questions...and he was answering.

So I asked finally

'what do you need from me?'

'he answered, after due thought. I need from you whatever you can bring. Whether it is a penny, or it is a 1000 dollars....or even if you come empty handed. I will not tell you what to bring....but bring whatever you can,'

I didn't understand this completely.....and if anyone can shed some light on what I am missing. PLeeeeease tell me.
thank you.

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love being Aries
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posted July 19, 2012 10:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for love being Aries     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
he means "I don't ask for anything. I do not need anything from others, I am self-sufficient, but if you want to bring something, then read between the lines and bring me a new adventure, some excitement and something that will get me off my a** and chasing you all over the world"

Look an Aries guy is not interested if you cannot excite him, give him a new adventure, be spontaneous, very very super spontaneous, and just be random, be fun, and for heaven's sake please do not complicate things we hate hate super hate complications. you do not have to ask anything because he will tell you everything before you ask. so don't ask questions thats the biggest turn off.

Thank you

Sources : Sun/Mercury in Aries + dating an Aries sun,mercury,venus,moon


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Pity from an Aries is worse than their contempt \m/
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fairy22
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posted July 19, 2012 08:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I will get back to you tomorrow

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fairy22
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posted July 20, 2012 03:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Libra Lady

'he answered, after due thought. I need from you whatever you can bring. Whether it is a penny, or it is a 1000 dollars....or even if you come empty handed. I will not tell you what to bring....but bring whatever you can,'

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That was a great question. And an even better answer. It sounds to me very positive.

Now you must tell him what you need. That is:

I want to see you tonight (or when you want) and be with him but also with communication. You need to talk to him. When you are together talk don't be scared. If he gets mad than communicate about that. You have many questions and you need to know his deepest desires. It seems he wants you but can't express himself either. Listen to your feelings.

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fairy22
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posted July 20, 2012 03:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am not to sure about love being Aries. I agree and disagree.

Be yourself you are what he wants.

Also one of the best signs for Aries is --


and believe me they will talk your ears off!!!!

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Libra Lady
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posted July 23, 2012 09:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you so much for your invaluable advice....this has been such a confusing time for me. but I feel like I am settling....or so I hope. I have noticed one thing in particular about him.....he does NOT like to ask me for anything ever.....I need to second guess, or suggest plans...is that the Aries ego? He would rather say no to me....then get to hear a no!

Today I told him I will be free for the next 4 days as people at home are traveling. Normal people would normally say....thats great...we should make a plan. What did he say?
Why are you telling me?

To which I said, it would be great, we should make a plan.!

I did however get the most incredibly beautiful mail yesterday.....talking about how we should stop focussing on yesterday and tomorrow.....and learn to enjoy each moment together....and stay in the here and now.....who knows what will happen next. That our relationship is priceless. : )

Cest la vie.

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fairy22
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posted July 26, 2012 11:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Libra Lady
This all sounds good to me!!

He said:

Why are you telling me?
-that was an odd response!

Stop focussing on yesterday and tomorrow.....and learn to enjoy each moment
-I agree with him!

I learnt the most incredible thing about men yesterday (from a cancer man )
Which I won't say but...

Information that has never been told on this site from any man and that all women want to know!


"Who knows what will happen next?"
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I am telling you this because I can't do it, but I see that you might be able to and save your relationship!

Decide what you want from him and ask for it specifically. What I mean is what you want deep inside. He will not offer it to you, you will say what you need, not everything all at once. Start with the first thing you need and ask him.

And you will have him right now!


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Libra Lady
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posted July 28, 2012 07:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Libra Lady     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thank you so much for your support. like i told you....i had 4 days available to us....and he said you make the plan. which i did...and he followed the plan...
meet day one for emotional bonding...and only share what you need to about the other person, whatever bothers you etc. - we did this over coffee. He said that he is about the moment, and does not feel that i should be insecure even if he disappeared even for 6 months. I on the other hand told him i feel insecure and broke down and cried. He said I am sorry I hurt you.
day 2 was for mental bonding....just share stuff about work, family etc. and that went pretty well.....just did a lot of sharing....
day 3, 4 - yet to happen...!!!!!

I really recommend this exercise though.....it has really been great.

I am curious however what the cancer man said?? Do share.

Every time I read.....Love being Aries.....I can see the strong Aries personality! I really picked a sign!

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fairy22
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posted July 28, 2012 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fairy22     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aries yah you sure picked a good one!!!

Don't cry with him enjoy yourself. You want to be with him so -- Invite him over take care of him let him stay... that is what should happen on day 3 and 4 and 5...

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