posted July 17, 2012 04:48 PM            

i'm no expert, i took a quick look and you have a tight venus(her) square Saturn(you). that is quite a hard aspect to have so tight. (0.11 degrees)

Although this relationship may begin with a strong feeling of comfort and compatibility, over time, some very challenging dynamics are likely to surface. The Saturn person, fearing the Venus person's withdrawal of affection, loyalty, or respect, can easily become critical or demanding of the Venus person. In response to Saturn's critical demeanor, Venus may withhold affection. A vicious circle can quickly occur. The Venus person could begin to view the Saturn person as unsympathetic, and the Saturn person could come to view the Venus person as childish and undisciplined. Care should be taken to avoid getting into this negative cycle. It will be important for you to maintain an adequate social life, as the tendency with this interchart aspect is to appease one another's jealous nature by cutting oneself off from hobbies, social activities, and pleasures outside of the relationship. You may be critical of one another's tastes and hobbies, but at the root of this is some form of jealousy over the attention that you give to outside interests. Commitment and loyalty to one another will be vital, but also the source of some friction. http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/venus_saturn_aspects.html

you do have a nice Moon(her) sextile Saturn(you) to somewhat 'balance' this though.

also the composite is more important as far as will your relationship last or not. you have 3 really nice sextiles there: saturn sextile sun + mercury + venus. that also helps to balance that synastry square with saturn i believe.

posted July 18, 2012 08:03 AM            

I've noticed this difficult aspect before but was not really sure whether or not that was causing the problems... it does seem to explain a lot. Those sextiles are defiantly a positive though ) and would explain how we've managed to hold on and stay positive.