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frankie2912
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posted July 31, 2012 09:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for frankie2912     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The last boyfriend I had was my most serious. He was also the only boyfriend I lived with. Maybe he just wasn't the "right one"..but no one feels like that. Even if I'm head over heels and passionate about the person (the last ex was NOT one of those people), I just can't commit to the idea of being with someone exclusively.

I feel like as soon as I'm in a relationship, I'm trapped. I can't be myself. I feel like I have to be obligated to merge with the other person, tell them where i'm going, what i'm doing, what i'm thinking, and why. And I HATE that!! I hate people keeping tabs on me, I hate having to think "oh i can't talk to that sexy man over there because i have a boyfriend". You know what i mean? I feel like a relationship is the end of ME.

I broke up with that last guy, broke his heart, and although I know it was mainly because it was HIM that I didn't like, that relationship taught me that I am just not ready for any more exclusive relationships. I like to have guys as friends and f*ck buddies. I don't know that I'll EVER be ready for serious commitment relationships. And marriage? HA!

Yes, I am a female..a 25 year old female who doesn't like the idea of commitment. I used to, but now that I've lived with someone and had to resist temptation and freedom for the course of it..I want nothing to do with it now.

Are any of you girls like this? Did you ever change? It doesn't bother me except for the little fact that I *do* want to fall madly in love and have a life partner, but I honestly don't feel like it's gonna happen..

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ghanima81
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posted August 01, 2012 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, I was like that too. I always said I wanted to be like Elaine from Seinfeld. Never settling down!! Keeping my options open! It appealed to me. Unfortunately, I didn't really do very well at staying away from the serious relationships, and felt very much the same way you did, trapped. A loss of self, freedom and independence. (very important to a heavily Aquarian person) And my tendency to look, and also touch was pretty prevalent. Not a good combination. I hurt people. I struggled for a long time with this issue. I just couldn't stay happy or fulfilled. But I didn't really know who *I* was yet.

I truly feel some people are like cookies. They are baking through their 20's. Making any super serious commitments, especially in relationships, although good for learning, are NOT good for sustainability. I see it over and over again. Swept up in the romance of it all, but unable to really choose long term partners well because there is so much dough that's still left to cook..

There's nothing wrong with you, this is normal. Especially in this day and age. The world is so much more accessible. Women are independent and don't NEED to settle down the way they used to.

Caution on this one point, if you do truly fall in love, try not to run away from it, but carefully examine your feelings. Timing is a large factor in life, which we forget when we are caught up. If something has potential, but NOT RIGHT NOW, consider simply placing that on the back burner and living out all the desires you have before settling in. It will save a lot of heart ache in the end..

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Lazyscarecrow
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posted August 01, 2012 11:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
there's nothing wrong with you, this is normal. Especially in this day and age. The world is so much more accessible. Women are independent and don't NEED to settle down the way they used to.


I just wanted to say you are not the only woman who feels this way. I have many Sun-Uranus women in my life, and they feel exactly the same way you do. Granted, I don't think you hate romantic relationships (Although who am I to say so?), I just think you love your independence above all things. And usually, it takes meeting the right person and timing. I really think the poster above summed it up. You need someone who will give you oodles of space but respect and love who you are.

But I just wanted to say you aren't weird for this...I know LOTS of women who feel this way.

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Darmo
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posted August 01, 2012 03:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Darmo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is just part of your personality and the way you feel, many girls are like this these days, perhaps there are other astrological aspects that enhance or compliment this part of you, maybe you like freedom and getting away in general and this inst something specific to relationships, have read a personality birth chart before? maybe you should.

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RegardesPlatero
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posted August 01, 2012 05:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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slowpoke
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posted August 02, 2012 01:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for slowpoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you are into Synastry Astrology (Relationships) then perhaps you can try here.
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f


If you are willing to submit your birthdate, give me a few days while I try and identify suitable people for you.


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frankie2912
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posted August 02, 2012 07:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for frankie2912     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you're very generous, slowpoke! this is the 2nd post in which you've offered to take a look at my chart! i appreciate it

December 29, 1986..3:30 AM..McPherson, Kansas, USA.

what i find weird/interesting is that most of the men that show genuine, long-term interest in me have a lot of Cancer in their chart. Cancer sun is the most common placement in the guys that I become involved with but also Venus in Cancer and Cancer ASC shows up a lot, too. which is too bad, since Cancer just loves commitment :-/

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slowpoke
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posted August 04, 2012 06:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for slowpoke     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Based on Synastry Astrology (Relationships) and your DOB, SD 1229.86 w X, the following birthdates may suit you well.

Astrologically speaking, you are a difficult person to match with others. But, you are not alone, because most individuals are difficult to match well with others via Synastry Astrology calculations.

You may notice a large number of years or gaps between your dates; this is because the matches are base on Astrology aspects. These aspects come and go through a repetitive cycle. It takes time for strong aspect combinations to form with your natal aspects and the faster moving planets fall in and out of favorable aspects quickly, this is why you will see gaps between many dates and why the time span is so large.
Please note: 0219.60 = birthdate February 19, 1960.

0219.60
0403.60
0404.60
0405.60
0406.60
0407.60
0408.60
1021.60
1022.60
1023.60
1025.60
1026.60
1027.60
1031.60
1104.60
1109.60
1110.60
1111.60
1112.60
1115.60
1116.60
1117.60
1118.60
1119.60
1121.60
1124.60
1125.60
1128.60
1129.60
1201.60
1202.60
1203.60
1205.60
1206.60
0403.61
1029.61
1030.61
1108.61
1122.61
1125.61
1126.61
0712.62
0923.62
0924.62
1125.62
1228.62
1231.62
0820.64
0821.64
0825.64
0826.64
0827.64
0829.64
0830.64
0901.64
0903.64
0904.64
0905.64
1109.64
1113.64

1029.71
1101.77
1102.77
1104.77
0828.78
0829.78

1221.83
1222.83
1223.83
1224.83
1226.83
1227.83
1228.83
0205.84
0214.84
0215.84
0216.84
0217.84
0219.84
0220.84
0221.84
0222.84
0223.84
0224.84
0226.84
0227.84
0228.84
0229.84
0301.84
0302.84
0303.84
0305.84
0306.84
0402.84
0404.84
0409.84
0416.84
0417.84
0418.84
0421.84
0422.84
0423.84
0425.84
0427.84
0428.84
0429.84
0430.84
0501.84
0502.84
0503.84
0505.84
0506.84
0507.84
0508.84
0509.84
0512.84
0513.84
0514.84
0515.84
0516.84
0518.84
0519.84
0520.84
0521.84
0522.84
0524.84
0629.84
0630.84
0702.84
0705.84
0706.84
0707.84
0708.84
0709.84
0711.84
0712.84
0721.84
0726.84
0808.84
0809.84
1009.84
1013.84
1016.84
1017.84
1029.84
1030.84
1109.84
1110.84
1112.84
1113.84
0302.85
0706.85
0708.85
0709.85
0710.85
0713.85
0307.88
1107.89
1109.89
1111.89
1113.89
1114.89
1116.89
1127.89
1128.89
1208.89
1209.89

0207.90
0303.90
0306.90
0308.90
0310.90
0313.90
0412.90
0426.90
0630.90
0701.90
0702.90
1204.90
1208.90
0517.91
0518.91
0519.91
0520.91
0521.91
0524.91
0525.91
0526.91
0527.91
0530.91
0706.91
0711.91
0714.91
0717.91
0718.91
0719.91
0720.91
0722.91
0724.91
1009.91
1010.91
1012.91
1014.91
1110.91
1111.91
1112.91
1113.91
1114.91
1115.91
1008.92
1009.92
1011.92
1012.92
1014.92
1015.92
1017.92
1018.92
1019.92
1020.92
1021.92
1024.92
1025.92
1026.92
1027.92
1028.92
1108.92
1110.92
1111.92
1112.92
1114.92
1115.92
1117.92
1129.92
1130.92
1201.92


Disclaimer:
Astrology is nothing more than statistics. It is a tool that suggest the potential in human dynamics. It is a method of putting into words, the possible potentials that a person may have as an individual or, on how two or more individuals may interact with each other - with the operative word being "may". The results for any given person or persons will never be one hundred percent good and whatever results are given, do not represent an absolute given. The dates given above are derived from Synastry Astrology (relationship) calculations using 5 degree orbs and pertain to the person the dates were researched for. No guarantees are given or implied, as to the accuracy of results given and or to the potential failures and or successes the chart and aspect readings suggest. No other astrological resource can produce a Synastry birthdate list in this manner.

Data Sources:
The American Ephemeris at "Noon" were used. The Moon moves approximately 12 degrees per day. Using a "Noon" Moon ephemeris cuts the movement in half, this allows for the best possible results with the Moon aspects when not knowing or using the exact time and place, of birthdate prospects. The primary Synastry aspect interpretations were acquired from "Do It Yourself Relationship Astrology" by Lyn Birkbeck 1999.

How to Apply Your List:
In the real World, your family values, mindset and, social influences tend to dictate your actions and interactions with others. It is quite possible to meet two or more people with the same birthdates that are provided above. But how these people influence you will depend on your mindset.

People with these birthdates come in all colors, gender, intellect, shapes, sizes, handicaps, religious beliefs and, sexual preferences. So when trying to locate people with these dates - temper your expectations and treat each new person as a fresh new beginning. Keep in mind, that you are working from your list of possibilities, but the people you are researching do not have a list of any sort and will not be looking at you in the same light. So keep your excitement in check and carefully work towards the results you hope to have. Also, keep in mind that having this list will not insure that each person researched will be law abiding, healthy, wealthy, and or honest. This information will not protect you against Aids or STDs. If you are looking for a love relationship, then it may be quite possible to find a suitable selection from your list. But, there is much much more here than just a love potential list, the list also represents some of the finest potentials for solid friendships, study partners and working companions best suited to you. There are plenty of good people around for you to know who are not part of this list. But, astrologically speaking, you would be very wise indeed, to use this list as a reference to help identify quality people for you to know, after you have found the love of your life.


Best of Luck!

Slowpoke


http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f

http://www.astrologyfiles.com/free-horoscope-matching/


Slowpoke's Aspects To Live For
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/202766.html


Slowpoke's: Synastry Aspects - Void of Planet Linkages
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/214576.html


The transiting Sun makes favorable aspects to SD 1229.86 w X natal planets on the following dates:
Please note: 101 = January 01 of any given year.

101 thru 118

217 thru 224

404 thru 421

708 thru 719!

821 thru 828

1007 thru 1004

1005 thru 1120!

1222 thru 1231!

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frankie2912
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posted August 05, 2012 03:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for frankie2912     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thanx slowpoke!!

the people who i have liked the most (and who have liked me the most) all have birthdays within that list, most of them are in early july of 1984

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Aquacheeka
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posted August 05, 2012 02:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hate long-term relationships specifically.


I feel like they're good for the first year; then it all goes to hell.

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frankie2912
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posted August 06, 2012 12:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for frankie2912     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aquacheeka - yep. it gets boring, too. as soon as i'm locked into a relationship, my eye starts to wander.

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Yin
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posted August 06, 2012 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I hate long-term relationships specifically.


I feel like they're good for the first year; then it all goes to hell.


Disagree.
Relationships should be about growth. If you're not arguing, then something's wrong.

Yelling is a personal choice. You don't have to shout when you are having a disagreement.

Yin,
Saturn at 0 in the 7th

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Yin
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posted August 06, 2012 11:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by frankie2912:
Aquacheeka - yep. it gets boring, too. as soon as i'm locked into a relationship, my eye starts to wander.

Being in a relationship should not be an end-all occurrence.
Your partner is not there to entertain you. They are there to share the growing pains of your soul.

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frankie2912
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posted August 06, 2012 06:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for frankie2912     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yin - i didn't say i need a partner to entertain me. i just think long-term relationships are boring. mostly because of the sex. having sex with the same person for over a year? ugh.

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RegardesPlatero
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posted August 08, 2012 06:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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sand
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posted August 08, 2012 07:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
It doesn't have to be boring.

Personally, I think it would be fascinating to spend years together and continue to go deeper and deeper, to become more and more intimate--not just sexually, but in other senses of that word, too. Sort of like having a world to yourselves that you never stop building together, and like having little mysterious places in that world that always have secrets/nooks and crannies left to explore--even when all or most are found, new ones are created.


Sweet!

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TheManticore
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posted August 08, 2012 10:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TheManticore     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by frankie2912:

December 29, 1986..3:30 AM..McPherson, Kansas, USA.



So, you are a Capricorn Tiger. Neither of which is kind of "Homebody-ish" so makes sense.

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