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Dreaming111
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posted August 07, 2012 05:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dreaming111     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah, I do. I enjoy the fact that he's jealous of my talking to another guy etc. It makes me feel really his; I like that sort of ownership. Weird, seeing as how I'm pretty much bossy and need my alone time too.

I just don't like it when jealousy gets even more serious to the point he wants to make a woman unattractive to other men. lol I've seen that backfire for women with jealous bfs.

I guess the scenraio would be: The guy keeps complimenting her in sweaters during the summer so she ends up thinking it looks flattering on her. So then she revs it up a knotch. haha Eventually with him trying to make her unattractive so as not to be hit on, the guy kinda loses his interest as well and then ditches her. :P

I simply like jealousy when it's light and things get resolved regarding it immediately.

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scrappydog
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posted August 07, 2012 05:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scrappydog     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im the same way, im a female with sun-pluto and venus-pluto, I also have a scorpio desc so Im thinking this is it. Im very attracted to plutonian men, but my sun pluto conj is in libra so if the jealousy were to get truely ugly well now that just turns me off.

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ail221
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posted August 07, 2012 05:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nope it doesn't sound weird, just as when women like when a man comes to her defense or standing up for her even if she doesn't need protection. It's kind of nice to cause a reaction from a person that shows that they care.

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TheManticore
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posted August 07, 2012 05:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TheManticore     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not odd at all, if it is, I guess I'm super odd . Being a Leo Sun, Scorpio Moon, and a Snake, I can get quite jealous/possessive. I only do though when I really care about someone.

Why would you ever want your women to be less attractive? That is a TRAVESTY! lol

Sounds to me like a guy who would do that doesn't have much self confidence .

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Aqua86
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posted August 07, 2012 05:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aqua86     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So u 2 like it when ur friend get jealous..

Jealousy a emotional and mental state of mind where one suffers because he is unsure..a step further. Fear take over and turn one possesive, because of insecurity...more suffering

So u like this in someone else ?

Aquarius says: u both are pretty evil ^^
And if u enter the aquarian age u might get use to the change of perspective, because the greater good is to be archieved in the end for thats the goal for all.

btw i'm just having fun, so if i step on your toes, u might want to cut them off..makes things easier for both of us haha

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posted August 07, 2012 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moving to Soul Unions.

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Lava Flower
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posted August 07, 2012 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lava Flower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I also kinda like it for the most part, as long as its not taken overboard and he doesn't start stifling my individuality. Its no fun when I feel I have to be so self conscious around other men. Other than that, I just feel like he cares and values and appreciates me

When I get jealous myself, it inspires me to have a passionate bed session and work it out with him lol If he was flirting with another girl though, he would be sorry!!

I have mars in my 7th


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TheManticore
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posted August 07, 2012 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TheManticore     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aqua86:
So u 2 like it when ur friend get jealous..

Jealousy a emotional and mental state of mind where one suffers because he is unsure..a step further. Fear take over and turn one possesive, because of insecurity...more suffering

So u like this in someone else ?

Aquarius says: u both are pretty evil ^^
And if u enter the aquarian age u might get use to the change of perspective, because the greater good is to be archieved in the end for thats the goal for all.

btw i'm just having fun, so if i step on your toes, u might want to cut them off..makes things easier for both of us haha



Fear of losing something comes from valuing it, you only fear death because you value life. So I would only fear losing a partner if I valued them. If you don't fear anything, you don't value anything.

As for the comment on people being "evil". Evil is in the eye of the beholder, and holds true only to the persons perspective that sees it.

I find your last statement quite disturbing, but since you're an Aquarius I am guessing it is for shock value?


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Dreaming111
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posted August 07, 2012 11:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dreaming111     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just like it when he thinks I'm not noticing and he acts differently because he feels jealous. I guess, it's cute that he runs around me like that. Idk it's endearing, so I actually want to cuddle and be with him even more. lol

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posted August 10, 2012 08:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Its natural human nature to feel flattered when someone gets jealous (when its not of course taken to extremes)
This coming from a Lioness! haha

Anyways, It makes us feel good, that person is showing an interest and wants your for them selves. A little jealousy is a normal human emotion.. As long as its not in a controlling way....

Fishy is starting to show his jealousy to me, but he does it in a way that is not threatening to me..
He tells me it bothers me when.......
I ask why does that bother you, he says cuz it makes me jealous..
So telling me that way, makes me more aware of his jealous nature, and I make it a point to make him feel better about.......
Because truth be told a jealous man is a dangerous man. (I have pluto in H7)
He once asked me, If Im trying to make him jealous.. I said no babe of course not.. I dont want you to feel jealous, I want you to feel good..
I do feel a need to keep his on a mellow track... I dont wont his jealousy to progress ... So when he shows jealousy I make a point to make him feel better about what he's jealous about...

@ manticore..
Can you further explain only being jealous when you really care about someone??
How do you show jealousy, what do you do?

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RegardesPlatero
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posted August 11, 2012 07:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think that it depends on how it manifests and to what degree, as well as to the causes behind it, if the jealous person can talk about it/work it out with the person of whom he or she is jealous, etc.

Being just a twinge jealous in the sense of being afraid to lose a partner, and wanting to remain appealing to him/her, would be a little sweet and OK. However, that's as far as it should go. If someone tried to keep someone from being friends with people, tried to make them fat and unattractive to others, became very controlling, became abusive, gave the silent treatment, refused affection, etc., that would be unacceptable.

I don't believe in radically changing yourself just to make someone un-jealous. Instead, I would try to help them see their value, feel appreciated, and would try to show them that they're loved. If that didn't work, it would be best to leave immediately and not look back.

It would be one thing to give your partner a special look or touch (like a hand-holding or something like that) to let him/her know that you were still 'his' or 'hers' and that no other person was going to make you stray, no matter how appealing, because you were committed and loyal. That is something that's reassuring, but not passive--sweet, without being submissive or subdued. Asking someone to avoid all people of the opposite sex (or same sex, as the case may be) is very controlling, unfair, and should never be tolerated.

If someone is jealous, they also need to take personal responsibility for and ownership of their feelings and talk things out.

It's never a good idea to put up with bad behavior. Someone shouldn't be willing to be forced to put out their light because their partner feels like it's too bright. People want to shine, and deserve to shine. They should come into the light and shine with their partner rather than try to drag both of them into the darkness.

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Lonake
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posted August 14, 2012 04:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Aqua86:
Jealousy a emotional and mental state of mind where one suffers because he is unsure..a step further. Fear take over and turn one possesive, because of insecurity...more suffering

One step further than that, and he ends up killing her.
The J-word is a slippery slope.

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RegardesPlatero
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posted August 14, 2012 06:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Lonake:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Aqua86:
[b]Jealousy a emotional and mental state of mind where one suffers because he is unsure..a step further. Fear take over and turn one possesive, because of insecurity...more suffering


One step further than that, and he ends up killing her.
The J-word is a slippery slope. [/B][/QUOTE]

very true

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Aquacheeka
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posted August 14, 2012 12:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aquacheeka     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
I think that it depends on how it manifests and to what degree, as well as to the causes behind it, if the jealous person can talk about it/work it out with the person of whom he or she is jealous, etc.

Being just a twinge jealous in the sense of being afraid to lose a partner, and wanting to remain appealing to him/her, would be a little sweet and OK. However, that's as far as it should go. If someone tried to keep someone from being friends with people, tried to make them fat and unattractive to others, became very controlling, became abusive, gave the silent treatment, refused affection, etc., that would be unacceptable.

I don't believe in radically changing yourself just to make someone un-jealous. Instead, I would try to help them see their value, feel appreciated, and would try to show them that they're loved. If that didn't work, it would be best to leave immediately and not look back.

It would be one thing to give your partner a special look or touch (like a hand-holding or something like that) to let him/her know that you were still 'his' or 'hers' and that no other person was going to make you stray, no matter how appealing, because you were committed and loyal. That is something that's reassuring, but not passive--sweet, without being submissive or subdued. Asking someone to avoid all people of the opposite sex (or same sex, as the case may be) is very controlling, unfair, and should never be tolerated.

If someone is jealous, they also need to take personal responsibility for and ownership of their feelings and talk things out.

It's never a good idea to put up with bad behavior. Someone shouldn't be willing to be forced to put out their light because their partner feels like it's too bright. People want to shine, and deserve to shine. They should come into the light and shine with their partner rather than try to drag both of them into the darkness.


Well stated.

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