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lotusmoon82
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From: San Francisco, CA, USA
Registered: Sep 2012

posted September 05, 2012 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusmoon82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This guy from work has been liking me quietly for the past 9 months (who he says has been sending me signals that I was oblivious to. I don't work there anymore. August 31 was my last day). When I found out he liked me. He was the OPPOSITE of the personality and traits a normal aqua would be. He was born January 21, 1989. I am born Aug. 10 1982. For some reason he told me that there was something about that was so irresistible. The whole time he was professing and eventually confessed he "really really likes me" and as he claims he still does now...I uninteniontally slapped him down which = rejection in his eyes. It was mainly due to my own insecuritites that his feelings deflated. We didnt speak for ten days but then came around and gave me a drinking bird he has had since 2007 that seems he values. Fast forward...A friend suggested that since we hadn't had sex yet, it would be a good idea to start sexting because it is probably what he needs to hear from me that I am attracted to him. She also convinced me that without friendship with any guy...romantically it will work but short lived. And so I did, sent the text and all that, he responded. he showed me care and concern for a moment...until I slapped him down again unintentionally ( he told me he couldn't get enough of me and I looked at him and smiled and laughed). the next day...didnt even sound like he wanted to talk to me. tha day after that was my birthday, I turned 30. At first he wasnt acting happy to be with me. suggesting where are my friends etc. I told him i reserved this time for me and him.

Again, that night, i was on the phone with my friend guiding me on "how to's". he eventually saw me texting and probably thought it was another guy. told me he likes me more than i like him. I said liked with a "d"?. corrected me and said " NO. L-I-K-E". Eventually, he got tired of me texting on the phone and saw a ring on my right ring finger and exploded "you even have a ring on your finger! are you engaged?!?" he eventually told me "stop mind ******* with me" and stormed out. After that, i contacted him again after a few days. We met up at a bar, i dropped what happened and we ended up having so much fun just hanging out. this happened a few more times...but we never hanged out anywhere else aside from the bars close to work,it was convenient. One night, we hanged out and hes beent exting me all night until 12, 2, 3 am until he told me he didnt want to keep me up so go to sleep. he then texted me again saying he'll be over in a few minutes...this was after a few minutes when i woke up that i saw this text, by then it was too late he was on his way. My friend told me recently that I got booty called. Fast forward, whenever we would have fun, whether it ended in sex or not, the next couple of days he treats me like Im the black plague. Like I'm another person. Wouldnt hold my hand or stand next to me. where as when were hanging out and getting comfy, he would, public or private. He also acts jerkish when we hang out after work. the worst was last Friday, my last day at work. He was completely jerkish. I asked him why he said "this is me. I've always been like this" and I knew better because I seen the good romantic side of him. I got really ****** off so I started ignoring him after our friend arrived to join us that night. I would answer his questions but I would wait a few secoonds before responding and I wouldn't look at him at all. the whole night he was gawking at other girls, leering, even making lusty sounds while I was sitting across the table from him. I'm sure he was doing it on purpose to **** me off. he was loud, brash, and couldnt shut up about "clubbing" or hanging out late at night to our friend which he was suggesting they do while I walk to my car that was 15 blocks away, at night. If I get a compliment like my dimples, he shot it down saying "that's gross" because I said I had 3. he was testing me about what "blue moon" is and I knew the answer but he insisted it was that the moon turns blue. The waitress verified it by Google and one of our friends pretty much clowned on him because I clowned him by being right. At the end of the night, when our friend decided he WILL be a gentleman and walked me to my car, he got loud saying "im not going anywhere im staying here" to which he eventually followed us after a few steps. he tried asking me questions but i kept up with delayedresponses. When I wasnearto my carI gave my friend a hug and he kissed me on the head and he went "SEE, i got a kiss". i don't know what the hell that was about. I started walking away, i didn't say bye to him. then i heard him say "I'm gonna walk with him.." I looked back and said "bye" then started walking away. DOUCHE.

I figured by the end of the night I would have a text from him but NOPE! next day i sent him a video about superman/clark kent because I said I love when he wears his glasses, he looks like clark kent. All i got was "cool video dude". I called him at 1030 pm the next night, no pick up. No response since then. And also, two weeks ago, he started calling me "dude", "girl". I asked him why he calls me that and I told him I dont like it. he said he's always call everyone dude. I told him nope, you call me by my name when we're hanging out and we get romantic.

So was I friend zoned since we had sex? or is he just a typical 23 yr. old aquarius? hot/cold, hot/ cold! I'm going nuts!

I asked him where this was going and what we are and what i am to him. to which he replied "Let's keep it fun. this is fun."

and when i asked what i am to him he replied "acquaintance" to which i looked shocked and repeated what he said with shock! he then proceeded to say " ok. above acquaintance but more than a friend." WHAT?!? " Let's just continue this and see where it goes."

DID I GET PLAYED? USED FOR SEX? MIND F***ED?!? Am I ever going to hear from him again? I told him before I like him. He even told me he can't believe I like him? I'm a grown ass woman and I thought I had objectivity! Did I just get played?!?!?

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Mystic Melody
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posted September 06, 2012 10:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If he's "a typical 23 yr old Aquarian" then you were in "the friend zone" BEFORE you had sex. He likes you, but you are making it complicated as opposed to "fun". He has no idea how to handle the emotions you inspire in him. Yes, he is jealous and yes, he is behaving badly. This isn't going to change any time soon. Use that Google search that searches this site only for Aquarius men. Most of the angst I've seen here has to do with them. Write him a letter and be nice.<3 Tell him the story about when you first started falling for him how your friend had to help you via text... yadda yadda... so he can have an ah-HA moment where he realizes that you WEREN'T texting another guy etc. Don't make it obvious and accusatory, make it sweet and romantic.

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Randall
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posted September 07, 2012 12:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome!

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lotusmoon82
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From: San Francisco, CA, USA
Registered: Sep 2012

posted September 11, 2012 02:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusmoon82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So was it a good thing he considered me a friend first? How am i making it complicated as opposed to fun? Can you explain what you mean when you said it won't change anytime soon?
Also, i don't know if he's a typical aquarian which is why i included his birth date.

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