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posted September 10, 2012 10:44 AM            

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I've had this problem lately. It's like I care deeply about the person and couldn't ever see myself apart from them. I just really feel withdrawn, and if I think about it, I kinda feel this way with everyone right now... Yet, if I think about being away from them, just being alone for a while, it's like a feeling of relief but also sadness. Maybe I just need alone time? A part of me really wants this relationship and another part wants to be free. I just don't really feel myself this month. I just feel "off" in general.

I've been looking at transits right now (I don't know much about them) and I notice transiting pluto is squaring my natal venus and transiting moon is squaring my natal venus. Possible love/emotion confusion triggers?

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From: Jupiter
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posted September 10, 2012 11:33 AM            

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You're probably right it will pass & you'll be more open again good thoughts always help

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posted September 12, 2012 08:16 AM            

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Is this a recent problem or a recurring one?

I have Asc-venus opposition and so I tend to doubt my feelings for someone or not know what it is that I want.

But then again, my Asc ruler is Venus and I tend to think that evrything looks good at the start and then it gets tricky as we go on.

If you have Saturn aspecting your Venus/Mars like I do(venus conjunct Saturn) , your love nature may take time to blossom. Feeling strong, affirming affections for the indivual could take time.

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posted September 13, 2012 08:03 AM            

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Well, I've never really had this issue before. This is my first long term relationship. We've been dating for five months now, and my longest relationship was 4 months. It's just strange how it just happened one day. I have been suffering from depression recently, so that could be a non-astrological reason for feeling that way. Umm... my venus is trine my ascendant, but square my neptune, uranus, mars, and moon. The only thing afflicting saturn is saturn square pluto.

It's just bothering me, because I care about him a LOT, but then this little voice keeps saying "I don't want to be with him anymore. I don't know if I like him anymore. I'm not sure if I can offer him the same amount of love that he has from me, and that's not fair to him." It's not like I truly "feel" this deep in my heart. They're just thoughts that came out of nowhere. I don't like them, because I really want to love and be with him for a long time. He always makes me happy and is perfect for me. Maybe I'm just overanalyzing a situation and the thoughts will go away in time?

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posted October 18, 2012 01:51 AM            

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Sounds like you are really into this person, but are 'scared' and feeling insecure....that its been 5 months.....and you are preparing yourself emotionally.....'just incase' it doesn't work out.

does that make sense?

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posted October 18, 2012 11:35 PM            

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Hello! I think what you are experiencing is quite normal. Much of society thinks that the euphoric feelings of love are supposed to increase over time and last forever. The truth is, that is not true! Love feelings come and go in different intensities. The thing is, two people should have a strong friendship foundation as that will help them get through the periods where the love feelings are not so intense. Being friends will help you "like" the person and trust me when I tell you, loving someone is great, however liking them, in my humble opinion is EQUALLY important.

It is so easy to fall in love with someone and realize later that you don't even like them. When i say like, I mean, you don't like them as a person, you don't like their personality traits, and you don't like being around them for long periods of time.

When you like someone that you love, you enjoy their company all the time, you enjoy talking to them, you enjoy being around them, you just enjoy them period. That helps when the love feelings wane. Liking a person also keeps the love feelings around longer. So, with all that said, I think you might be at the point where either your love feelings are starting to wane or you are realizing you subconsciously really don't like this person. 5 months really isn't a long time relationship-wise. I say give it some more time and see if you really "like" this person. If you do, then what you are experiencing is normal.

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