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Topic: someone help me with this scorpion man please :((
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misscapricorn
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posted September 19, 2012 12:36 AM
  
okay so i've been driving myself crazy… depressed..sad…alone.. everything…and i need someones advice..help anything... i met this scorpio about 4 years ago… from the moment i met him we connected instantly..it was like love at first sight….i met him thru a mutual friend of ours at a club… we looked at each other and it was a deep deep connection… but one of his friends really liked me at the time so he kind of held back because of the friend but every time that friend would go away he'd whisper in my ear how he wishes he could dance with me , it was weird cause he would stare deep into my eyes come close and then run away.. from that night he had me thinking…. anyway a few days later passed and he requested me on Facebook… he started messaging me and telling me we should hangout and i should come by for some wine and drinks i remember telling him i thought u couldn't do that to your friend? he was weird… then he'd messaged me again and be like i can't hangout with you its not right because of my friend..it was a game from then… then he came around again asked me to hangout and i denied it…then actually thought about it again so i gave him my number and i was like text me…we started talking and texting…then one day i guess his friend saw that i txted him and it started conflict between them… he ended up loosing all his friends because of me… after that i didn't hear from him for a year… he cut all contact with me and told me he was seeing someone else….i got over it even though i was disappointed…anyway a year later a friend of mine called me to come on a blind date with her and a guy…. i get to the date and guess who the blind date is? this fellow scorpio after a year… we finally meet again after that and we instantly clicked and rekindled and he apologized to me about everything and how he lost all his friends but that they weren't real friends anyway …and basically explained everything and told me he really liked me.ever since then it was love.. we made plans to hangout again and we spent a whole day getting to know each other and becoming close..i didn't want to leave! it was amazing.. we got closer and closer with time and it was love… amazing sex..amazing time.. everything… no man has ever made me feel like this… I'm lost when i look into this mans eyes..im weak when I'm in his arms….anyway after spending time he made a comment like " u aren't looking for a serious relationship are u" that comment scared the **** out of me cause it was him basically telling me all were doing is sleeping together… so i was like well i don't like to plan things but I'm not looking for anything too serious either and he was like good.. cause i wouldn't be a good bf , I'm trying to focus on my career right now…. so i understood his point…and got over it even though i was laying naked in his bed hurt i tried not to let it show..i was thinking maybe he chose that road with me because he was embarrassed for his friends and people to see that now he's with me after he lost everyone…..after that i distanced myself a little cause i knew pain was coming… about a few days later i see a girl constantly commenting his fb…. i ask him about her and he told me the truth that she was a girl he's been talking to….i appreciated his honestly but i asked him what was going on with this? he explained to me that she helps him with school and stuff and idk…. anyway i pretended it didn't phase me cause i wasn't his official girl… 3 days later i see on Facebook in a relationship with her… i instantly "like" it and call him and tell him wtf is going on? i thought u didn't want a relationship…. he apologized and said that he was sorry and that he was talking to her and for his life this was the best that worked out for him at this time…. i flipped out and cried..he told me if i didn't stop id loose him ….it hurt me so much…how could someone be so selfish and cold? he knew he had me and he just let it go… i was hurt … then i tried to be the bigger person so i forgave him, i told him i understood and that id still be here as a friend for him but that i didn't want to sleep with him anymore…. he appreciated that…so after that i tried to forget about him i went on vacation…i found myself not getting over him…upset over him so i txted him from overseas just to say how are u and i hope ur summer is good… he said he was good and hoped i was having fun… so we left it at that… when i come back he somehow finds out i come back and calls me… we start talking again… he tells me he's single and stupid me falls back into this trap… we start seeing each other again… i fall for him all over again… we start seeing each other again and I'm lost from this guy…. one day he tells me out of nowhere he's talking to her again.. at this point i felt like he was with her the whole time and lying to me….at this point I've pretty much had enough but i was so in love with him that i couldn't stop myself so i slept with him 2 more times even knowing about her..i felt very low and stupid for doing that then i tell him i can't anymore… he tells me I'm right and that its better for me to not see him and that it'll be better for me and that he doesn't wanna hurt me…. i ended up going crazy on him and calling selfish and telling him he did hurt me…. literally i go crazy on him…i start literally harassing this guy….we fight..drop it we stop talking… then become depressed over him for like another 5 months of not talking.. thinking of him..not knowing anything about him cause he's a secretive sneaky scorpio….finally i run into him at a coffee shop… i swear no1 else was in the room when i saw him…our eyes like connected…it was crazy… after that i couldn't hold myself i call him… he asks me how I'm doing… actually acts mean to me ….tells me that i was bothering him so much….and all this stuff…anyway i start telling him i want to see him…. he started denying me and telling me no.. i start beginning him… finally one day he gives in and tells me to come over…. so i go over and we talk about everything and he tells me how annoying i was and that i kept bothering him and he was like u know sometimes u need to let people come after you and i was like your right…..so we ended up sleeping together again…it was great…it was that magical moment i went months without…. so after that i wanted to play my cards differently… 3 days later i run into him at a club… he's all over the place like a drunken mess, dancing with girls and acting like he's never gone out before…. he says hi to me i smile at him ..but he didn't like kiss me or act like he slept with me 2 days ago…he acted like i was just a girl…. next thing u know one of my girlfriends and him are flirting… i flip out and run out…he follows me out and asks me whats wrong and that i look sad..im like nothings wrong and I'm fine , he replies" well u look beautiful and smiles" i walk away and leave…. next day he texts me.. i tell him exactly what he was doing, he tells me that i was flirting with his friend meanwhile i was just talking to his friend so i don't know what he was talking about he was just trying to cover his own ass… anyway i try to keep my cool about it…. i make a barbq and invite all my friends including him and his friends… he comes and starts acting like a complete dick to me..ignoring me.. basically making me feel like **** in front of my friends….make a long story short…. he started treating me bad…. then i text him and ask him what the **** is going on why are u acting like this to me… finally he opens up and tells me that he didn't have good sex with me again and that it wasn't like before…. at this point i have no words for him….i tell him are u kidding me? i start trying to explain myself when i shouldn't have even had to…i was like not like before? maybe if i was comfortable and not afraid of u toying with my feelings id be more free with u…how can i open up sexually again after u hurt me so much? it is different….. and after that it was just so much….he told me he didn't want me anymore and he didn't want to see me…. i was actually going overseas shortly after so i left really depressed and upset….i tried again to call him from there and talk about it but he wouldn't answer my calls he'd just ignore me…. then when i came back i called again and he'd ignore…finally pick up and flip out on me that I'm bothering him and he doesn't want me and he doesn't wanna talk to me…… what the hell do i do? i'm going crazy over him? I'm comparing everyone to him? will this scorpio man come back and give it a real honest chance? or will he keep toying with me? i need him back.. ------------------
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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted September 19, 2012 11:30 AM
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geea
Knowflake Posts: 236
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Registered: Jun 2011
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posted September 19, 2012 03:19 PM
wow, I actually read a post this long,lol 
he's an as''''e!
why do you humiliate yourself like this?.. 
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misscapricorn
Newflake Posts: 3
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 20, 2012 01:01 AM
lol i know its long but i had to explain the whole thing :\\ … i know he's an ass but he's a scorpio!!! how do i make him crawl back to me so i can deny him and make him go crazy!!? help please ! lol i want him to come back and stay!IP: Logged |
FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 488
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted September 20, 2012 02:12 AM
Hey misscapricorn, I am a capricorn as well lol Anyway I can tell you are really bothered by this person and I'm sorry you're going through that  I'm definitely no expert when it comes to dating, but I'll just say the same thing I've told my younger sister, and have had to tell myself in the past as well.... You're not going to meet someone who respects you if you don't respect yourself and believe that you deserve to be treated well If he is ignoring you even if it hurts really bad don't make the situation worse by begging ... If you really wanted to 'get him back' you should act cold towards him, stop contacting him, focus on yourself and building your confidence. If he sees you happy being on your own, uninterested in him, and probably even getting more attention from other guys/people for the inner spark you're letting shine, he might think to himself "what did I miss out on?" But by that time you may have genuinely moved on and not want attention from someone who treated you that way in the past. And if you do still want attention from him/revenge, DON'T play into that game. In the end holding on to anger and pain for revenge is rarely worth it, and control over another person always comes at a price... Anyway just wanted to say best wishes to you, and hopefully you can find ways to focus on things that make you happy and surround yourself with things and people who will make you feel good about yourself.. Caps have a nasty habit of dwelling on the negative, but you really will find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated once you're able to love yourself first IP: Logged |
bumblebee
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Registered: May 2009
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posted September 20, 2012 03:57 AM
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Originally posted by misscapricorn:
lol i know its long but i had to explain the whole thing :\\ … i know he's an ass but he's a scorpio!!! how do i make him crawl back to me so i can deny him and make him go crazy!!? help please ! lol i want him to come back and stay!
Scorpio man never crawl, especially crawl back to a woman he left. And he never let you see if he is crazy about you so let go of hopes that you will see something like that in him.
Even if he is crazy about you he will never admit it.Period. IP: Logged |
misscapricorn
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 20, 2012 07:18 PM
Thank you so much for the comments.. @Fire Moon, You reply really helped… I know what I have to do its just hard getting in that routine when you feel so low about yourself ….literally i humiliated myself making a fool of myself and showing him how much i care…but you're right , the best thing to do is to focus on myself and let him see that..and not only for him to see that but to build it for myself… And for the last comment, you're right, nasty scorpios never want to admit their feelings which suck….. i don't think i want revenge… i really love this man, and i truly think he's worth it cause deep down i know he has a huge heart and a lot of love to give, i just think he's immature and he knows he's got charm and he looks good so he's using that , and taking advantage of a girl like me thats showing so much interest…. =\ i hope i can be strong again… Thank you all for these comments!! IP: Logged |
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