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From: Palm Harbor Florida USA
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posted November 07, 2012 12:43 PM            

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I am a Libra woman who is in love with a Pisces man. We have a son together who is two. We were each other’s rebound the first time around and I got pregnant. We were not together when I found out. He was in a rehab for alcoholism when our son was born. He is now 2 years sober and everything we had in common seemed to bring us closer. We had such fun together; we were on a spiritual journey together. He even joined my church with me which he initiated and said felt right (even after leaving) and tested living together which he initiated said he loved. He told me he loved me every day.. Then poof, gone. said he was not being honest with himself or me and he didn’t see him spending his life with me. I did push for things on occasion and I know that was wrong. If to do all over I wouldn’t get wrapped up in society and their ideal of love. I love him, will he come back? or did he never love me? He slipped and called me honey on his last visit with our son and invited me to come along on the next visit but said it had nothing to do with us.. so confused!

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posted November 13, 2012 12:50 AM            

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He will always love you... but that does not mean he feels right being with you. This could be a passing thing, but for most people changes like this are permanent. You will never feel right about it unless you give it a chance, but if you don't "let him go" he will probably fight to escape and destroy all possibilities to even be friends. You don't want that. You must separate yourself and find yourself without him. Find the you that isn't a We. Be the woman he fell in love with originally and if it is meant to be, he will feel it all again and discover the love within himself again. If not... you will discover your old self again and still get to keep all the new good stuff your relationship with him added (like your child) and you will know you did all that you could and it was meant to be that you parted... if that is indeed what happens.

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posted November 13, 2012 07:12 AM            

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He says now that he doesn't know if he ever loved me, that everything we were was out of obligation for having a child and encouraged me to go be with someone else if that would help me move on. He is still in a halfway house and its obvious not ready for the real world because he won't even find his own place to have to opportunity to keep hos son with him. Everything I thought was the truth were lies. When I asked him why he would go find loving cards with specifics pertaining to our relationship and actually take the timme out to do certain things like that he said he didn't know, that he guessed it was the right thing to do. When I asked if he missed any aspect of our life he just said, not right now I don't. He is already searching for someone new and found one already.. it hurts so very deeply. I don't know if I will have the ability to trust anyone again. I had no doubts of our love.. I trusted it completely. I feel lost and so hurt. I have to see him every weekend when he comes to get.our son and it just opens the wound all over again.

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posted November 13, 2012 07:51 AM            

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He still leaves all of the pictures of my up on his facebook page however which these new women will see, I really dont get that at all. Just confusing!

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posted November 15, 2012 10:53 AM            

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This is how mutable signs are. They are notorious for doing the breakup-to-makeup thing because they are fickle and don't know what they want.

Yes, he will be back.

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posted November 15, 2012 11:42 AM            

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He loves you, he either doesn't feel good enough for you and will tell you anything to get you to move on or he has decided he can do better now that he is sober and is dumping you. That would make him not worth your time. If he is doing it because he thinks he isn't good enough, the only thing that will help is for you to take care of you (since he seems to think he can't do it and needs to focus on himself etc) and you can let him know you plan to do just that and you hope in the future things work out between you and then just cut yourself off from him other than polite exchanges for your child and look you best and healthiest each time you see him. This is the same approach to take if he is just a loser creep who is dumping you to find someone "better". I know it hurts. I'll try to find the Broken Heart Healing thread and bump it for you. Sometimes you have to get angry for a while, because you can only feel one emotion at a time so if you are angry, you get a break from the pain for a while until you can handle it.

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posted November 15, 2012 01:33 PM            

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Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. I totally agree. He hasnt been much help with his son so anger is coming more easily. Trying to be nice for the sake of our son though. I am doing better, taking care of me. Started a yoga class and going to the gym everyday. My friend suggested I go online to a dating site just to see there are other "fish" (no pun intended)in the sea and ironically the site sent him to me as a match. Sad he is looking for somone already but ironically when looking at his profile and pictures, without knowing him he wouldnt be someone who would catch my eye. What does that mean?

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posted November 15, 2012 01:35 PM            

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Im not sure AquaCheeka, He seems pretty much done with me, angry almost in fact. Angry that I still care for him. We have both said some pretty mean things to one another since the breakup. seems final but I dont know.

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