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Topic: can abstinence make sense out of a religious context?
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hikoro
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posted December 04, 2012 08:11 AM
  
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frankie2912
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posted December 04, 2012 09:06 PM
I think you're focusing too much on the negativity of experience. For me, experience has not hardened me but has taught me what to look out for and how to deal with..it has taught me when to leave and what I like/want so that I don't waste my time. I lost my virginity to a virgin and we were both special to each other, though it didn't work out in the end. Every relationship, even every fling/one-night-stand, has taught me something valuable and I do not feel bitter or jaded because of it. I feel wiser, richer, and more well-rounded. I also have a lot of water in my chart - Scorpio ASC, Venus, and Pluto (both conjunct ASC), Mars and Jupiter conjunct in Pisces. Negative feelings DO come about in and after certain relationships but they don't ruin the next for me. I'm very optimistic. Must be that Sagittarius moon  IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted December 05, 2012 08:01 AM
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Sorcha
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posted December 06, 2012 04:27 PM
hikoro,I think I know what you are saying and I believe it comes down to knowing yourself and having self awareness in regards to what point you are at in life. Most relationships have more than just one dynamic within them. There is more than just sex involved in getting to know someone or experiencing intimacy. You mentioned creative energy and that would include all sorts of aspects of a relationship. If you are feeling jaded then taking time off (or being abstinent) might be a really good decision until you get to a place where you are feeling more like connecting with someone. Sometimes our creative energy and/or sense of self needs to be transformed before we can leave the past behind and feel more open to future involvements. If this means a period of abstinence so that you can re-assess who you are now (as opposed to earlier in your life) then do it
I say this because you said "im not sure if i have something special or new from me to give to the next person". I see this as possibly being as period of transformation and renewal for you. I am currently going through very much the same thing, as I have several times throughout my life. I suggest you go with the flow and try to hear whatever your new self wants to say to you
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hikoro
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posted December 07, 2012 06:42 PM
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Sorcha
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posted December 08, 2012 04:20 PM
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Originally posted by hikoro:
thanks.
ive been feeling much better now.
it is funny, i remember reading that scorpios could be the most sexual and also, the most nun-like...i think im in the nun phase at this moment.
i dont feel jaded as much as....cynical, afraid of getting hurt, and kind of in a giving up phase, and, i always feel as if im the only one or that the worse has happened to me. i read someone in the board stating that water signs....or some aspect involving water can make these folks intensity their experiences...i dont know how to explain it.
anyways, i sure hope that ill be able to find a phase where i feel as if i have new and mysterious things to give to the other person.
I totally understand. I'm a Cancer with a strong Pluto so I get that feeling. Do you by chance have Venus square Pluto? What you're expressing sounds a lot like that aspect to me. Glad to know you're feeling better about it IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted December 08, 2012 04:47 PM
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