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RosieRIOT
Newflake

Posts: 2
From: Johannesburg
Registered: Jan 2013

posted January 28, 2013 09:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RosieRIOT     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please can someone help me??
Ths is the most unstable up and down relationship I have ever been in, we argue continually, I break up with him and he won't leave me alone after break up & I always end up going back to him.
This time I haven't though, and he doesn't leave me alone. If I don't respond to his messages he will call me until I answer.

I know how unhealthy this is, which is why I stay away. Problem is we live in a fairly small town so I bump into him continually.

ME:
Sun 1503' Cancer
Moon 2651' Scorpio
Mercury 0937' Cancer
Venus 0219' Cancer
Mars 0040' Leo
Jupiter 2655' Aries
Saturn 1550' Sagittarius
Uranus 2352' Sagittarius
Neptune 0622' Capricorn
Pluto 0702' Scorpio

HIM:
Sun 0716' Aries
Moon 1755' Gemini
Mercury 1802' Aries
Venus 1815' Aries
Mars 0915' Taurus
Jupiter 1017' Aquarius
Saturn 2744' Scorpio
Uranus 1757' Sagittarius
Neptune 0335' Capricorn
Pluto 0357' Scorpio

ANYONE WITH ANY IDEAS?? ANY COMMENTS ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS?? Or maybe explain to me so that I have a better understanding of this behaviour?

Thank you so much
xxx

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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009

posted January 28, 2013 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome! Try posting this in Personal Readings also.

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birdy
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posted January 29, 2013 12:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for birdy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds very Moon/Saturn. You guys have a double whammy so it is felt both ways.

You guys have the Conj and Opposition which is the strongest aspects to have between the Moon and Saturn. You both trigger Moon responses from each other.

http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/moon_saturn_aspects.html

The hard (conjunction, square, and opposition) cross-aspects between the Moon and Saturn are powerful ones. Either one (or both) of you may have made it clear right from the start that this relationship was to be a serious or committed one. Whether or not it was verbalized, the air of responsibility is explicit. Although the relationship may begin with some element of enthusiasm, over time, you may feel the need to censor your feelings of dependency on the relationship and on the Saturn person for some reason or another. You, playing the role of the Moon, may sense a certain level of seriousness and even harshness or narrowness in the Saturn person that may not even exist in absolute terms. Your partner may not even be aware of this unconscious reaction to you. Whatever it is, you can feel somewhat constrained by the relationship, and unable to express the "child" within, simply because of the expectation that your partner may not approve, may not be capable of understanding, or may not be equipped to handle these expressions. The sense that you get is that your Saturn partner's needs for commitment are paramount, and that "frivolous" expressions of neediness or dependency wouldn't be appropriate. It may also be that situational factors are such that true emotional intimacy is blocked, even though both of you want to get closer to each other.

The caution here is to avoid too much "censoring" to the point that you feel emotionally isolated, misunderstood, or blocked. Does your Saturn partner truly benefit from this kind of "censoring"? Certainly not in the long run, because if it gets out of hand, your partner will lose touch with your deepest needs, fears, and desires. Emotional distance doesn't benefit either of you. Your relationship brings out the individual need for security and safety in you both, and you will certainly find a basic sense of safety with each other. Although you, in particular, may feel emotionally frustrated at times, there is a feeling of constancy and dependability in your partner that is very attractive. This relationship stands much chance of being a long-lasting one. However, it can have its fair share of ups and downs. Periods of emotional distance and subsequent feelings that the relationship may be too "heavy" to maintain are often followed by tearful and emotional "reunions" when both of you realize that you need each other desperately, and that your attachment runs deeper than is always apparent. It is easy to see, with this kind of pattern, that either or both of you could feel "trapped" together at times! But the truth of the matter is, given the depth of your attachment to each other, there is much to gain from working on the intimacy issues described above.

The trine and sextile aspects between the Moon and Saturn are likely to possess some of the characteristics described above, but the flow between the two is more likely to be manageable. The Saturn person is more supportive of the Moon person, who, in turn, finds Saturn to be a reliable and steady partner. Longevity is more likely with the trine or sextile, as frustrations are less apparent and clashes less frequent. The conjunction may be easier than the square or opposition, but it has a tendency to go either way.

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RosieRIOT
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From: Johannesburg
Registered: Jan 2013

posted January 29, 2013 01:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RosieRIOT     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you so much.
I appreicate this

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