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cappy1277
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posted January 29, 2013 11:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think my SO has lost his mind & there is nothing i can do to help him get it back.

I refuse to partake in his assassination of my character to appease him just to keep him in my life. I don't know what he thinks he knows about me to come clean with but I sleep well at night knowing I don't have any skeletons in my closet and I hold no secrets from him. I will risk losing him & never speaking to him in my life to keep my integrity. No one is ever worth that much trouble in life and I would be completely delusional to allow him to bang my head in with his complete nonsense.

Just wanted to get that off my chest....lol

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 30, 2013 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're speaking in code, my twin sister.

No comprendo.

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cappy1277
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posted January 30, 2013 04:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Am I? Lol...

Bottom line is: he thinks I have been or at the present time believes that I have been with other men while we have been together. He refuses to speak to me until I tell the "truth." I have been telling the truth but he says I'm lying.....hence I'm not going to lie on myself to appease him to keep him in my life. He says he has proof but will not divulge what he thinks he may know about which isn't diddly.

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 30, 2013 05:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
wtf... He is forcing a "confession" out of a fake perception of guilt? What is he? The NYPD?

You told him the truth, ahd since he is one of us, it is incumbent on him to trust you once and for all. There is hardly anything left for you to do since you've told him the truth. It's now up to him to make up his mind. If he's so damn unsure, then it cannot be helped because you'll never be able to appease him.

The last thing you should do is to "admit" to anything that is fake and that you have no part of. Whatever corroborative evidence he has, its time for him to show his cards, or forever hold his peace and stfu.

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cappy1277
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posted January 30, 2013 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's exactly what I said...put it out on the table and show me your cards....he says if he has to do that, it's definitely over because I should be willing to offer a "confession" because we think so highly of each other. Wtf?? I asked him did you walk in on me with another man? Did you see something? Did I ever tell you? He says no....I tell him then that there isn't any proof that he is so adamant that he knows that he has on me.

If this is a game, it's sick & I told him so. I called him a sociopath. There's nothing more for me to do at this point.

I have an idea that someone may have spread some lies about me and it must've been some good ones due to a series of events that took place before this...my spidey senses went up but I pushed it aside to give her the benefit of the doubt. I would think that we are way too old to get involved in nonsense. Who knows now?

Either he is a sociopathic liar looking to test my loyalty or something was said by someone who has convincingly told him a pack of lies. Either way he needs to get it together because I think I'm a good woman and he's going to lose out for sure. Three years together and this what he does? Smh

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 30, 2013 06:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's frightening how much alike we think.

I hope he blinks.

My best. I'm cappy1228.

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cappy1277
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posted January 30, 2013 06:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Weird isn't it?

Funny thing is that he's also a cappy....a weird insecure cappy as far as I'm concerned lol

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hippichick
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posted January 31, 2013 12:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I "dated" a Cancer sun Cappy moon who did the same thing to me.

NOTHING I said or did could convince him otherwise!

(like how can I cheat on you on the way to work when you talk to me the whole way...)

huh?

I finally decided that no amout of rational thought and speech will effect irrational people...they live in a different frame of mind.

It is him, not you and my guess is that it will never stop.

As far as relationships go, I think what we tell our SO's should be taken as gospel, until shown otherwise.

IF I am in a realtionship and the SO tells me me is a preacher, allthewhile a serial killer...then I should believe what he tells me, till evidence presents itself.

If your guy has no evidence on you than he has nothing but his dum insecure a$$ projecting his irrational issues onto you~

grrrr


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cappy1277
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posted January 31, 2013 01:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
and that is what it boils down to....i haven't done anything and you claim to have proof that you aren't willing to divulge. You've got nothing but your insecurity to guide through your irrationality. I just told him I am done with it....

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cappy1277
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posted January 31, 2013 02:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it's extremely frustrating to me though....everything was fine then BAM! this mess. I can't rationalize with him about it anymore plus he won't speak to me until I tell him the "truth." so I guess I am SOL lol

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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 31, 2013 03:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoursTrulyAlways     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
lol "Well then, when are you going to confess to me about whatever you haven't done?" lol

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cappy1277
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posted January 31, 2013 03:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cappy1277     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Exactly lmao

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