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Topic: Vulnerable, please help!
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meganlove91
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posted March 12, 2013 10:07 PM
  
I met him last July. We met through a facebook group for transfer students. Ironically, we were both living on the west coast (less than 20 mins away) and would soon be transferring to the same university on other side of the country. The loving soul connection didn’t hit me like a ton of bricks when I first met him, but I enjoyed talking to him. The first conversation we has lasted five hours. It turned out that we’ve had a lot of similar life experiences (something that’s typical for twin flames I guess).
He is completely left brained and I am the opposite. We both were interested in the way the other person saw the world. He would tell me facts about physics and chemistry jokes. I would talk to him about art and philosophy. We could keep a conversation going for hours. This is why I completely and utterly fell for him.
He had told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. He had gotten out of one a few month before. I also thought it was possible that he wouldn’t want to jump into one since we were transferring to a new place where there would be many new people for us to meet. Unfortunately, I started to question his intentions and how he felt about me. He pulled back. I confronted him and told him I wasn’t willing to put myself out there unless I knew there was a possibility that this might lead to a relationship. He tried to comfort me, but I was overwhelmed and left. We didn’t hang out for about a week, but continued to talk.
During the week we didn’t see each other, my friend told me that she had ask him what was going on with us and whether or not he was going to date me. He said, “I could see us going there.” The next time I hung out with him, I helped him out with housing for the university. We said goodbye and once I got home he sent me a text saying how I calm him down and helped him.
The next week, he went to his hometown for a week before we’d be moving into our dorms. We continued to text each other. At night he would text me silly text when he was out drinking with his friends.
Once we got to the university, things went completely downhill. He did something I specifically told him not to do and I flipped out on him. Honestly, this was not a full-fledged girl flip out. He completely closed up. The connection was lost. My feelings have been flip-flopping between indifferent to intense ever since.
I haven’t done anything crazy or tried to get revenge, nothing like that, but through a mutual friend I heard that he got upset when he saw that I had recently become friends with a few of his friends. He claimed that I was trying to take his friends away from him. The claim was childish and immature. It upset me cause that was never my intention, so I texted him to clear that up, but never received a response. I’ve reached out to him a few times, but never hear anything back.
I know all the stuff about the chaser/runner phase. I know I shouldn’t talk to him, but at this point I don’t even know if he really cared at all. Transitioning to a new place has been difficult at times and sometimes I wish that things would have gone differently between him and me because I honestly just want a hug from him or want to talk to him so that he can calm me down like I had him. But does that make me co-dependent? I would think that it would be okay to depend on someone you share a soul mate connection with… Is he even the person who I think he is? I mean he’s special to me still and I miss him a lot. I feel abandoned by him which really upsets me, but then it really frightens me because I think I would be able to forgive him of everything if he did come back into my life. So I guess I’m coming to here to find some guidance cause I’m really confused about what happened and what I need to do.
Thank you!____________________________________________ Sometimes the people whom we've know for only a short amount of time have a bigger impact on us than those we've known forever. -Maya Angelou IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 15, 2013 01:16 PM
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meganlove91
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posted March 17, 2013 07:05 PM
Thank you! I'm not sure if I should be giving birthdays and such, but I was born October 9 1991 in San Diego and he was born August 7 1990 in Coachella valley. I know my life path number is 3 and his is 7.
I really care about him, but whenever I talk to my friends they make me feel like I should be over him by now and that it's not healthy so then I feel even more awful and confused! IP: Logged |
meganlove91
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posted March 28, 2013 02:12 AM
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saronna
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posted March 28, 2013 03:59 AM
megan i love 3 lifepath. there are so soicable and so much fun. and they like people lifepath 3. and i am a lifepath 7 and they are very private but they feel deeply. and i get the sense about your soulmate that they have the same depth of connection to you as you have to them. but they are not as verbal and talkative naturally as a three. but 7 lifepath can be chatter boxers when they get to know you. lifepath 7 is like still waters they just dont share the depth from the surface when you look at them. and its lifepath 7 armour or mask social mask. but lifepath 3 are very open and viavarious and easy going and laid back. very relaxed. and communication comes easy to lifepath 3 and not to lifepath 7. i think my grandmother is a lifepath 3. she was so funny. had a great sense of humour but my grandfather who was so serious and quiet thought she was immature because she was like a social butterfly. and my grandfather married for beauty and it was a mistake. but they balanced each other out even though they were not soulmates. my grandmother ate a flower in a cup of water and didnt realise the flower was for decoration on a plane flight from the islands. but soulmates balance each other out like one maybe intervert and the other an extrovert. and a 3 lifepath and 7 life path balance each other as soulmates because they are odd numbers and therefore fit life a velvet glove. i am sure your soulmate megan loves you as deeply you love him. lots of love and hugs your linda goodman friend saronnaIP: Logged |
saronna
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From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted March 28, 2013 04:45 AM
megan i am sure your he misses you as much as you miss him. and he feels that you are as special as he is to you. friends can alot of funny things. and its not codependent to want hugs and to be with him. you know i use to love the computer the internet and i still do. but i get so tried from all the high tech stuff computer screens etc. i use to stay up all night on the net. and i even studied computers because i loved the net. but i didnt study class books i was always on the net. my mum is happy today. i havent seen her so happy for a long time. i think its because she has been chatting with her niegbour. but thats the thing people want to be happy. and there are some people that care about people and lifepaths 3 do. but you know shakepeare that kind of depth is what attracts a 3 and 7 lifepaths. but 3 is so much fun to be with. and i have leo node prenatal node lunar and it has to do with allowing myself to have so much fun like a 3 does. and 3 are so happy go lucky wherever they hang thier hat is home. love the one you with is a 3 mantra. so dont do anything but be yourself. to thine own self be true i havent heard so much truth from a pyshic and they tell so many lies the ones i went to for help. i went there for help because i was confused about a stupid idiot. and didnt realilse he was a stupid idiot. so you are lucky you have the luck of the irish four leaf clover and a rabbits foot being easter to have a soul connection and a five hour chitty chat. and not with a stupid idiot! like her. so stupid! i could kick myself in the foot but i have a rabbits foot and irish four leaf clover. and some ginger nuts for a stiffie. a nice long cold drink black tea. and of course i found linda goodman at 17 because i should be so lucky and sing like a budgie. never mind. its a irish joke. because i am no bigger than what they keep beer in like those barrels. smile. you will see your love soon and it will be extradionary and you will be happy.IP: Logged |
meganlove91
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posted April 10, 2013 03:15 AM
Thank you. I just hate expecting it to happen soon. What if nothing changes and then years later I meet him again? What if our lives have changed so much that we can not be together? What if I don't reconnect with him until the next life I live? There's no answers and it's stressfulIP: Logged |
saronna
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From: Australia
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posted April 10, 2013 09:59 PM
megan honey. it will work out. soulmates cannot be broken up permanently and only seperated only temporialy. and soulmates always want to be togethier. and love at first sight is deep love. first love. and it doesnt matter how many lovers you have. you will never forget your soulmate. your first love. and soulmates always want to be togethier even if they have had other loves and or lovers. and it always works out with soulmates. thats if they are soulmates in the first place.IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
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From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 13, 2013 01:03 PM
First off, codependency is something entirely different. You're thinking of 'dependency'. And, as someone else said, it's hardly dependent to want physical affirmation or expression of an emotional state. It's normal, natural, and sane. Codependence is when we alter our lives to include the delusions or otherwise neurotic states of loved ones. This differs from avoiding triggers, for example, with a friend suffering from PTSD. It can, however, apply to adopting a constantly apologetic personality around a demeaning narcissist. Regardless of whether you're looking at a SM or your TF, these things take time, and can shift and change, depending upon circumstances. You're really young in comparison, (I'm 32, and we met 8 years ago; we're still volatile to the point where I don't even see him if I'm in town; sad or what?) so let time do its thing, focus on your own life, and accept what is, simply is. Give yourself permission to be sad and miss him. You're not crazy; you were in love. It happens. Even to us scientists.  -AMP
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