posted March 25, 2013 01:04 PM            

Would it be safe to say that if a man can not deal with his woman's grown children, tho he never sees them, just hears about them on occasion via the woman, would never be expected to live with them as with younger children, and he just "cant deal" with normal issues of teens and young adults, that the man has not real love for the woman in the first place?

My self included and a two other ladies I know have had men whose grown children, exactly like I stated, have no real presence in the life of the men, but because of issues the (single) moms have with some of the young adults involved the men just bail out...."cant deal...."

In two situations the men are in the mid 40's never been married and no kids, in another situation, been married, had grown kids, but still chooses to judge the woman's parenting style, in all 3 situations, we are just doing the best we can...but the men have bailed.

I have known far greater men and women who have stayed, even engaging in a step parent situation because the love they had for their partner was greater than their inability to "deal."

Comments and life experiences welcome!!!

posted March 25, 2013 09:23 PM            

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
I don't have any personal experience but I've seen what you're talking about. To me, those are selfish men. To love a woman is to love the whole package. Those types of men love what a woman does for them and when the focus shifts and its no longer about them, they bail. They're the needy types who need to feel like the world revolves around them. They need to seek single women with no kids but the qualities of single parent regardless of how old the kids are, exhibit nurturing qualities that they seek but want that exclusive to them only.

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Amazing! Thankk YOU!!!