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Topic: Goodbye Twinflame??
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SagittariusRising
Knowflake Posts: 101
From: Splitting time between the Moon, Venus, Jupiter, & Neptune
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 27, 2013 02:04 AM
  
My Aries Moon sq his Capricorn Moon - 6°12" orb
DW Venus opp Neptune
Pluto (me) sq Mars (him)
Saturn (me) sq Sun/Mars (him)
Sun/Merc (me) opp Neptune (him)
Mars/Sat (me) sq Jupiter (him)
Mars/Sat (me) conj S. Node (him)
DSC (me) conj Chiron (him)
Mars/Sat (me) sq Vertex (him)We can't go more than two days tops without fighting, so we're frequently off/on. He often gets antagonistic with me, challenging me, wanting me to completely submit. Sometimes his "play" is totally irritating. He likes to withhold affection until he's ready or when he feels I deserve it. He likes to "test" me every five minutes. He seems to want to see how far I can go without snapping. When I do decide to argue back, he gets even more excited, to the point of arousal. But then he gets negative, almost misogynistic. But we always come back. We always have deep, lively conversations, we always agree on key things. His DSC is exactly conj. my Sun/Merc/Venus. My moon is conjunct his IC. His Venus widely conjunct my Sun/Merc/Venus. DW Venus trine Pluto. Four of his planets fall in my 8H. His Eros is conjunct my Vertex. My Uranus trine his Sun/Vertex. His Uranus conjunct my ASC. I really don't know what to do. I ache for him, but on the other hand I want to beat the crap out of him. I'm not sure if the bad outweighs the good. I hate this. IP: Logged |
Mystic Melody
Moderator Posts: 479
From: IL
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 27, 2013 06:06 PM
I wish there were an easy answer to this one. It is the Mars square Pluto combined with the Pluto/Venus aspects and your Aries Moon. Mars and Pluto playing out their archetypal battle using your relationship as the stage. The only thing that will help is both of you reading and understanding the energies of those aspects and an adult conversation where you make it clear that things cannot continue to go that far. Maybe a code word where you agree to stop and go to different rooms if it is said and for the person who needs to continue talking has to write it all down... if you can love each other enough to respect that code word you will be ok. I suspect he will not honor this code word unless you make it absolutely clear that you intend to leave him if he does not honor it. I remember my mother telling me the story of having a fight with my father before I was born. She said he had been drinking and began to yell at her and she told him that if he yelled at her again, she would leave him. My dad is a Libra with Cancer moon so he was easy to control in that manner compared to most men, but he never yelled at her again because she meant it. If you don't mean it, it will end up being another power play. You will have to let him know, it is NOT a power thing with you. It is a matter of you choosing him above all other men... unless this ONE BEHAVIOR continues, that is your deal breaker.
 Be strong... and most importantly... be prepared to leave. Wrap your head around everything you will need to do to leave and talk to your mother and father and girlfriends and let this man you love KNOW that you have done so and it is FULL DISCLOSURE from now on. If things get THAT unhealthy again, your family and friends will be behind you and MAKE you leave him. You have to stress how deeply you WANT THE RELATIONSHIP to work with him. Let him know you want it more than anything... except you won't give up your self, your safety, your sanity, or your self respect. If he demands any of those things, he does not love you and you will not remain with him.
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