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Lioness
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posted July 03, 2013 05:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Opinions welcome..
Am I wrong here???

I'm having a problem with fishy.. I know I know it's annoying.. I'm sorry.

Before when we had talked about trying again, I told him, I don't want any more frustration.. I just don't want to go through it anymore.
The problem is he's always changing his mind, one day he wants to be with me, the next day he doesn't.

So I told him, figure out what u want, what works best for you.. It's in your hands, all u have to do is be honest..
I said take as much time as you need...
Do what you say, say what you mean.

A week later he called me, asked if he could come to see me and talk. I said yes.
He said he wanted to try again, take it slow, just go with it and see what happens..
I said ok..
We talked about it, and we agreed.

After that he became so indifferent, barely speaking to me, but still talking to me.. Just kinda rude...
So I just let him be, I didn't worry about it. But it bugged me still..
So I pulled back a little, giving him space. (Still talking)
Over the weekend, I had text him that I had things to do, and would be busy doin this and that.
He said ok, just call me when you get home..
I said ok, will do...

Later on he text me, we were talking.. I said like that r u doing today.. He said I'm going to go to your house later, when u get home..
I said. Ooo, you want me to start heading home? I can be there in like 2 hrs or so..
He said, no don't rush it, I was just kidding, I have plans.

This just pushed the wrong button with me, I felt like again he's not saying what he means...
He's just playing games..

I told him, that was cold, he said u misunderstood ttyl.
Meaning end if subject.. Grrrrrr

So when I got home, I didn't text him...
On mon I didn't text him
On tues I didn't text him.
He wasn't texting me either.

Today he texts me
Good morning beautiful,
I said... Gm.

We briefly text...
He said what r u doing tonight..
I said going out, with the girls.. (It's a lie, I have no plans) ok shame on me... But damn
He replied..... Gn
I didn't respond
Lol...


Is this just me, or a battle of the egos... But I'm tired of him changing his mind...
I feel like he's just playing games..
I'm just not going to do it anymore.

I'm feeling like he said, he wanted to try again, but he doesn't really want to.. Idk.
I want to yell, make up your mind one way or another!!
At this point, idk which way he goes, as long as he sticks to it..l geeezzzzzz..

Yeah, I know I lied, but you know, I'm not going to be available cuz "today" he wants to... And tomorrow he's indifferent...

I feel like, it's about damn time, I take my power back!!!

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CatMote
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posted July 04, 2013 12:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CatMote     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i agree with you.
hes playing these stupid mind games in my opinion, you can find somebody better suited for you.
maybe its the man in me speaking but if YOU WANT TO be with him, i would say give him an ultimatum; "either you make up your mind within a day or we end this.' but, if hes doing this before anything is even OFFICIAL yet i would imagine him as a boyfriend...

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Lioness
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posted July 04, 2013 12:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks cat...

I did tell him, make up ur mind, after a week he supposedly did, saying he wanted to be with..

But then turned around and did the same thing..

I have a feeling something is bothering him, but he's not coming forward saying it..

I'm tired of this... Which is why I didn't go out with him tonight, I lied and said I had plans..
I'm pretty sure he won't talk to me for a few days.. Lol
Only I'm not going to worry Abt it.

Honestly at this point, I don't care what he decides to do, as long as he sticks to it and stops changing his mind.

It's good to hear a male perspective

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miranda
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posted July 04, 2013 04:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for miranda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmmmm. I do not know your direct person to person interaction but I do remember the story a bit and from what I read here ...

Well, to be honest, it doesn't so much matter what he wants, but what you want. Decide and then stick to it. No matter what. You want to try, then really try. You prefer to move on, then do that. But most of all, you need to relax and detach your moods from what he's doing.

You say you want him to stop playing games. Are you willing to stop playing games? To be an example of how to behave? To say "No!" to yourself when you want to react in a certain way just to prove something?

Do you really trust him? Can he trust you?

Do you think he's missing out on not coming to see you, or are you missing out if he ain't coming to your house?
It should be the first. So it's his problem if he makes other plans I am sure you can spend a nice evening contently happy without him, no? Too bad for him missing out on your company.

Anyway, you want to stop the round and round circus, be the first. Don't wait on him to "solve" it. And no, that doesn't mean you have to put up with him doing it, just don't do it yourself and don't react when he's doing it, because well, you are so wonderful, stuff like that doesn't move you to give your attention or energy.

So, what do YOU really feel for him?

P.S. You can stone me now

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I'm so cappy
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posted July 04, 2013 06:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
too
much
drama

It doesn't sound like you care about him much. Why bother then?

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Randall
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posted July 05, 2013 12:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hope it works out.

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libraschoice77
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posted July 05, 2013 08:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for libraschoice77     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How long has fishy been doing this for? Sounds like he might be testing you, either way I think your being rather patient with him.

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Lioness
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posted July 05, 2013 08:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks everyone..

Yeah I'm trying to figure out the best solution here, for me..
I'm not going to be sitting around the house waiting for him to figure it out though..

Yes I do care, a lot, which is y I d keep trying..
But frustration sends me in the other direction at times..

This has been going on a few months, it's a never ending circle.
Ideally the best thing to do is let to..
But I haven't been able to.. He has a hold on me.

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miranda
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posted July 06, 2013 02:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for miranda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You definetly shouldn't be waiting around the house, and that's not what I intended to say at all.

But to me it seems you are stuck in this ****** loop and if you really want to make it work, rather then waiting on him to change and see it, be the one to go first. Show him how he has to treat you.

Don't lie, don't do pass-agg stuff, etc. By all means however, live your life. Absolutely. He pulls an extremely witty (NOT) "I come or maybe I don't" on you? "Ok cool, have fun. I am gonna stop at point XY since there's no rush to be home." Or call a friend to see if they want to hang out. Whatever, but mean what you say and say what you mean. It changes your vibe. You want him, but you don't need him.

Btw rushing? In all the animal movies I've seen, Lions rush when they are after food (or a summer sale)

You are the folks that have that Moon-BML-Conj. right?

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Lioness
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posted July 06, 2013 03:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks...

No I'm not sitting around waiting..
I have plans this whole weekend,

Yeah I'm working on, just moving away..
Just when I do, he comes back with a vengeance. Lol

Yes we the BML/moon conjunction.

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miranda
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posted July 06, 2013 03:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for miranda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I do have the same conj. with someone (his BML on my Moon - it's imo, like you embody his best and most feared version of woman) and whilst the story is quite different, some of the stuff is familiar territory.

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jjj
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posted July 06, 2013 09:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I second what Miranda said.
If you love him deeply and want to be with him, stop all games, he sees through them. Be the first. The fear diminishes if you try loving him without needing him. No demands and expectations.
They FEEL the change in vibrations. My Pisces crush started behave differently when I changed my mindset. It happened around 10 June grand water trine in the sky that will be exact middle July. Now is a great time to change something. We have Moon/Neptune and Chiron/Venus in synastry as well.
Pisces abhor pressure. Keep the energy light and pleasant.
I have a stellium in Vth, Leo house, so I understand your frustration .

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