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Topic: Virgo help!!
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genesis3310
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posted July 18, 2013 10:47 AM
  
Okay, I'm in need of some serious input. First of all, I"m a female Cancer with Sag rising. I have or had a "romantic," situation with a female Virgo who also is a Sag rising. I'll have to summarize, because the emotional detail would most likely be a little much. I met this particular Virgo a little over a year ago. No sparks, not even an initial attraction on my end at all--I don't believe on her end, either. We were in a work environment and both in other relationships at the time, so it just wasn't in my mind. Admittedly, after a while, I did begin to feel a physical/sexual attraction to her, but it wasn't anything I felt that was out of control or reciprocated. We grew closer and closer as the months passed...it was very subtle for a long time, but once whatever it was that lined up in both our lives clicked, our connection was sped up majorly----best friends, shared everything, emotionally supported each other. I had never had such a dear or deep and meaningful friendship is such a short amount of time. She showered me with appreciation and attention and made me feel alive. I still only believed it was platonic for a while until one night she admitted that she wanted me. Nothing came of it, though....we'd have these intense and passionate moments and then it would be as though it never happened. One day, I finally confronted her about everything and she said she was in love with me. I was floored and so incredibly happy---for about 2 seconds until she informed me that it didn't matter....she still wanted to be with her ex. After that, we still had that intense and powerful connection...and the moments that came with them, but it was always the same thing--"no, we're meant to be friends..." etc. Then, she ended up meeting someone new. We still communicated constantly and saw each other every single day, but all of a sudden--she stopped talking to me, stopped asking to hang out....didn't respond the way she would previously. Our last encounter was a few weeks ago..I went over and we drank and had fun...I tried kissing her, and she said no-again....I asked her if it was just sexual...her response was--no, and asked me if it was just sexual with me--of course I answered no. Well, after a week of her completely shifting her interaction, I asked her if she was upset with me. She replied that she was upset with that night. After asking for more clarification, she said that I came on too strong......I simply stated that I was coming from a positive place with positive feelings and thought she was at the same place considering, but that I was sorry, it wouldn't happen again, and hoped if she was ever upset with me again, she'd let me know...no response... So, I'm here---poor attached cancer completely confused as to how a person can go from being so close and connected to someone ....to cutting them off .....I know she's been going out a lot with other people and branching out it seems, but in the past, I was always included...she wanted me to be around the other people in her life...now, like I've said, she hasn't. And quite frankly, I'm really angry about it! I'm the typical Cancer, it takes a whole hell of a lot to even get a peek inside my shell--it took more than a damn year for us to grow so close, and she just stops, and I feel as though I've done something horribly wrong,? **end of tantrum** I know nothing about Virgos and everything I read seems to be different than the last. I just need some advice/input in how to proceed from here. We've communicated a few times sporadically on my initiation...but she stopped asking how I am or taking any interest in my life, and I' on the verge of giving up, but wanted to try and get some op opinions first.... Thank you so much!!
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hippichick
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posted July 18, 2013 11:59 AM
Pisces old lady here...(sun in the 4th)My mom, sis in law, mother in law (well technically formers) and this crazy man I remain attached to are all Virgos. Virgos are some of the chilliest folks I have ever been around. My mother and the dude are pretty self-consumed...they dont do anything to support, or "help" unless it is their way. Sounds like your Virgo gal is taking her feelings into consideration and not anybody others... Yep, been there done that, for over 51 years with my mom and 2 years with the dude... Ya just gotta find yourself and never, ever expect a Virgo, in my experience anyway to look out for your emotions. best of luck and blessins to ya! IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted July 18, 2013 12:59 PM
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hippichick
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posted July 18, 2013 02:13 PM
O, and I speak only of Virgo suns.Virgo risers are a whole different breed...
(hehehe.....)
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Geeky
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posted July 20, 2013 11:01 PM
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Originally posted by genesis3310:
After asking for more clarification, she said that I came on too strong......I simply stated that I was coming from a positive place with positive feelings and thought she was at the same place considering, but that I was sorry, it wouldn't happen again, and hoped if she was ever upset with me again, she'd let me know...no response...
Hey Virgo Sun female here. I can only offer my point of view and why I might act that way. I'd say she's just trying to process things. Maybe she cares for you and doesn't want to get into a relationship with you until she knows her feelings are clear. Virgos tend to analyze every thing to death, so she's probably just embarrassed about leading you on while still having feelings for someone else and she's busy beating herself up over it. Contacting her or pushing her right now would make her much more uncomfortable, so she'll probably come around and open up again if you just act like everything is normal. I know that's a lame answer but just try to let a few days pass. It's not that she doesn't care about you -- we are non-confrontational creatures and sometimes we'd rather stick our heads in the sand (temporarily) than deal with things that push us out of our little bubble of control. Do you know any of her other placements? ------------------
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hippichick
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posted July 21, 2013 10:15 AM
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Originally posted by Geeky:
Hey Virgo Sun female here. I can only offer my point of view and why I might act that way.I'd say she's just trying to process things. Maybe she cares for you and doesn't want to get into a relationship with you until she knows her feelings are clear. Virgos tend to analyze every thing to death, so she's probably just embarrassed about leading you on while still having feelings for someone else and she's busy beating herself up over it. Contacting her or pushing her right now would make her much more uncomfortable, so she'll probably come around and open up again if you just act like everything is normal. I know that's a lame answer but just try to let a few days pass. It's not that she doesn't care about you -- we are non-confrontational creatures and sometimes we'd rather stick our heads in the sand (temporarily) than deal with things that push us out of our little bubble of control. Do you know any of her other placements?
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genesis3310
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posted July 21, 2013 11:46 AM
Thank you, everybody! I've taken in everything that's been said, and it definitely helps me to clear my head a bit. We worked together for a little while last night (she had been avoiding me previously it seemed) and it went well...we caught up on some very general aspects, and she appears very healthy and happy....she's been social and busy, for which I'm really happy for her...although it makes me miss her...and the pretense of acting as though we were never close(due in part bc of other employees around) disturbed me...but I suppose that goes w the territory.
As much as I want to tell her that I miss her or want to make plans, I guess I'll hold back.....I can never really tell if she would want me to try or would let me know if she wanted me around, so I opt to wait it out.As for her planets, yes, I looked them up lol.
Moon-Aquarius, Mercury-Virgo, Venus-Libra, Mars-Sag, Jupiter-Capricorn,Saturn-Scorp, Uranus and Neptune both Sag, Pluto-Scorp and north node is Gemini. :-) IP: Logged | |
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