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Topic: How to let go?
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Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted July 28, 2013 08:07 PM
Since I ended it with fishy, I've been keeping really busy. I've been really social. I joined meet up and have attended some great events. On Friday I went to a Karkokoe bar with strangers.. I had a blast, I met some very nice people, and I felt like I fit in. Unusual for me... I went to a tomato fight, I started to meditate, I'm going to a tarot meeting later. I have plans to go to a roaring 20s party next month.. The list goes on and on..With all this I'm still finding it hard to let go, I know it's the best thing. But I get this feeling in the pit of my stomach. I've been to busy to be depressed or sad, but I'm still finding it hard to let go. It's like torture in my head. I don't see how I'm going to be able to let go, even with all this other stuff going on... I feel lost with out him.. I feel like I have a need for him... I'm not sure how to do this. IP: Logged |
AquariusBoi18 Knowflake Posts: 44 From: Los Angeles, CA Registered: Mar 2013
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posted July 28, 2013 10:43 PM
Time is the best healer. IP: Logged |
bumblebee Knowflake Posts: 177 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted July 29, 2013 05:37 AM
I read something the other day, I liked and I think it's propriate for this kind of situation (me. myself in almost hte same as you).You can not stop feel something unless you understand WHY you felt it and why you don't need to feel it anymore. IP: Logged |
AquariusBoi18 Knowflake Posts: 44 From: Los Angeles, CA Registered: Mar 2013
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posted July 29, 2013 08:47 PM
@bubblebee That's a great piece of advice. <3IP: Logged |
genesis3310 Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 31, 2013 01:46 AM
One thing that has helped me in the past...and the train off thought might not be for everyone....I try to remember/tell myself that whatever I'm missing deep down doesn't have much to do with the other person....it has to do with me and the lack I've felt...there's always a sense of lack in both the beginning and in the end of relationships....a lack gets fulfilled in the beginning, in the end--there's a lot of loss.I have to personally be very aware of the learning process in order to feel relief. And eventually enough time and newness blossoms inside me that the pain softens and appreciation of the great ability to evolve and survive sets on my heart. I truly hope you find your way to let go and feel better soon!!IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 03, 2013 01:59 PM
I have started mediating and doing reiki, and it has really helped my inner self..I not feeling the loss anymore, I do miss talking to him, but I'm not feeling that I lost something. I'm feeling I'm gaining myself.. I'm looking forward to a new beginning IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 35733 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 03, 2013 04:32 PM
Welcome!IP: Logged |
hippichick Knowflake Posts: 3389 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 03, 2013 10:27 PM
I've said it a thousand times before and I will say it a thousand times again..Enegry is energy. Alot of folks, especially Pisces and air signs, especially do not like to feel (even tho most dont know what they are feeling) an energy of "want." IF you can find one reason that you truely want/need to let him go..then energetcally do so and he will be free then to come back if he chooses or move on... Relationships never end, just change form
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Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 06, 2013 09:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by hippichick: I've said it a thousand times before and I will say it a thousand times again..Enegry is energy. Alot of folks, especially Pisces and air signs, especially do not like to feel (even tho most dont know what they are feeling) an energy of "want." IF you can find one reason that you truely want/need to let him go..then energetcally do so and he will be free then to come back if he chooses or move on... Relationships never end, just change form
IMO reason to move on, I'm just tired of being frustrated with him.. I have set him free...
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bethbabe Knowflake Posts: 451 From: CA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 07, 2013 03:35 AM
quote: Originally posted by AquariusBoi18: Time is the best healer.
yes, i concur! IP: Logged |
Mystic Melody Moderator Posts: 638 From: IL Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 08, 2013 10:14 PM
Lioness, I am so glad you are meditating. Breathing is always the answer. I am amazed at everything you are doing! I am so impressed at your strength of purpose and your excellent choices.You go girl. Seriously. Wow. IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 09, 2013 02:05 AM
quote: Originally posted by Mystic Melody: Lioness, I am so glad you are meditating. Breathing is always the answer. I am amazed at everything you are doing! I am so impressed at your strength of purpose and your excellent choices.You go girl. Seriously. Wow.
Thank you... Good thoughts are much appreciated
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birdy Knowflake Posts: 1281 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted August 09, 2013 01:35 PM
Some peoples print on our hearts never leave.IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 20, 2013 08:30 PM
He called me today, and now I'm anger again.. And all those feelings of anger are coming back.. Grrrrrrrr... Idk what he wants from me... IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 20, 2013 08:38 PM
All the work I've done and all the internal healing I've been working on, is just gone with a phone call.. I was feeling so good, and relieved just better... Why does he do this... It's horrible IP: Logged |
Newrise Knowflake Posts: 406 From: Los angeles Registered: Jul 2013
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posted August 20, 2013 10:50 PM
It's not gone lioness. In the healing process, it's normal to things to reoccur to test where we stand. I understand that you are in the midst of it, but keep letting it go.What did he say btw? IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 21, 2013 12:14 AM
He called and started talking about a "work thing" I said are you really calling me to talk about work, he said no its an excuse to call you, I want to talk about us.We started to talk, for a spilt second, and he got a phone call, he said he would call me right back.. He called me 30 mins later, and said we will have to have this conversation another day, he had to go get his daughter.. I said ok.. So basically nothing was discussed. Either way.. Which is even more frustrating. ... But it's ok... I went to a class tonight, and I'm not going to let him have the power to effect me, like this any more.. I'm not going to call him.. When he calls me, which I know he will.. I will apologize for my part and release the hurt, and tell him, I want to keep moving forward. It doesn't matter if he apologizes or not, I will release it either way..
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Newrise Knowflake Posts: 406 From: Los angeles Registered: Jul 2013
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posted August 21, 2013 01:40 AM
If he's making you feel this way, he's definitely not it. Hope you have a safe and healing journey to wholeness IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 21, 2013 05:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by Newrise: If he's making you feel this way, he's definitely not it. Hope you have a safe and healing journey to wholeness
Yes, I know.. Thank you.. I've been working so hard on healing myself, I thought his calling pushed me back 20 steps, but now I think it pushed me ahead 20 steps.. I want to release the negativity between us, and keep moving forward on a path away from him.. The way for me to do that is to accept everything that happen, even accept when I made mistakes.. If he doesn't accept his, that's fine, he will be the one holding the negative... IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 22, 2013 12:26 AM
I really don't get him, he called me again today... We spoke briefly, and I said do you want to finish our conversation.. He said no, I can't, I'm going to the school right now.. Ok whatever, why call then... But anyways.. It's fine.. I'm not even going to worry about it... I'm done with all of it anyways... I did want to have that conversation, because it can help in the healing, but it's fine.. I won't stress over it.. If it happens, it happens... I'm gonna keep on trucking . Lol IP: Logged |
andstuff Moderator Posts: 2474 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 24, 2013 01:58 AM
To be honest the whole concept of healing has always come across to me as a massive pack of lies. IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6534 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 24, 2013 02:24 AM
quote: Originally posted by andstuff: To be honest the whole concept of healing has always come across to me as a massive pack of lies.
Healing is about feeling better and releasing the hurt, not holding on to it.. Not living with it everyday. It weighs you down... Everyone needs some sort if healing, but we all have our own way of going about it. IP: Logged |
incognito Knowflake Posts: 62 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted December 22, 2013 05:18 PM
He sounds like a total dick. So insensitive. A flake masquerading as a soul mate. You should be mad. Delete him from your life. If he calls, pick up, say hello? then hang up.IP: Logged |
ProudLeo Knowflake Posts: 182 From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227 Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 10:49 PM
I don't know what it is about those water signs. Wish washy...that's all I can say. This all sounds so familiar to me. I had a cancer that I fell hard for but I think he got scared...things were going so well...amazing...storybook...and suddenly, he cut things off out of nowhere. I didn't contact him and haven't heard from him...it's been about 3 months...well, I ran into him at a store...but he stopped and seemed like he was going to say something to me...but I just kept walking like I didn't even know him. It had to have thrown him for a loop. He had previously blocked me from his fb page...although I had never even once done anything on fb like message or post but I guess he was afraid I might.,,idk...anyway, suddenly after running into him, I wasn't blocked anymore. But I still never heard from him. I had just gotten to a place where I felt like I just might be getting over him, which I know is for the best...and then all those feelings came rushing back in when I ran into him again. Ugh. And then, two weeks later, I ran into him at a coffee shop. This time we actually spoke....but just small talk, we said hello, smiled, he asked how I was and I asked how he was...."good" was all either of us answered. We said goodbye and smiled and that was it. But now I feel like I'm back to square one with trying to get him out of my head. It's frustrating, irritating, aggravating, and miserable. I don't know what it is about him. The first contact I have initiated was today and I sent him a text "merry Christmas". And I haven't received a reply. I prob won't. I accept that it's over..and I know it's for the best. But there is something that just won't let me let go and I can't understand what it is. I also have this deep feeling that the future holds something for us....but I try and tell myself it isn't going to happen, I just can't make myself believe it. So frustrating. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 35733 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 26, 2013 02:16 PM
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