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Female_Archer
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posted October 09, 2013 08:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Female_Archer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A little background for you, I am a female Sagittarius, DOB 11/29/85. I work with a Capricorn male, who also happens to be my boss(which complicates matters further, but hopefully makes this juicy enough that you'll keep reading).

I have recently gotten out of a long term relationship. He was a Leo. We were very compatible in most areas of our relationship, but I could not get past or get over some of the trauma from the fights we had. To make a long story short, I had emotionally checked out of the relationship until it ended abruptly.

Moving on to the job. I work for a small business, that happens to be owned by a family. The son, who happens to the be Capricorn in question, is the man I have been curious about for a while.

I don't know if it's just the attention he gives me. (He basically gives you tons of it, then starves you for a bit until he feels like you've just about had it) Or if it's the way he treats me, which is very different from other people (co-workers). The only way I know this, is not by observation on my part, but from what others told me that I was oblivious to before. When people tell me stories about how he reamed them out over something small, or how he talked to them in a such a way, I am always shocked! I always reply with disbelief, but why would they lie about it? That time he drove me around the whole grounds just to find the perfect item I was looking for, it was like no one believed me! But he's such a nice guy, well at least to me he is.

When I first starting working there, I had hour meetings in his office everyday. People would say, "He never used to do that w/ Jake,(Employee I replaced) what's there to talk about for so long?" I really didn't think anything of it at the time.

Then, he found out I was in a relationship, and, I had a fiance. Oh, did I forget to mention that this person who told him is my ex-fiance's cousin? Who ALSO works for the same company, not in the same building, but close by. He also grew up w/ my Capricorn boss. Thankfully, my boss, and ex have never met. Well, soon upon hearing this news, our little morning meetings fizzled out. He even had a girlfriend (or two?) in the time that I've worked there. Still, I didn't give it much thought.

Fast forwarding to issues in my relationship. Small company, news travels pretty fast. My relationship ended, everyone pretty much knew. Some time goes by, my Capricorn boss ends his relationship with his girlfriend, this is actually more recent than my breakup from the Leo. I still have no clue of his breakup, I'm still living in bliss at this point.

On a Friday afternoon, he's running around asking a few individuals if they want to go bowling. "Oh it's a company thing, I'm paying!" He says. He asks me personally, when I hesitate a bit he tells me to bring a friend along, after all he's paying! I texted him a reply later letting him know I'll be there. He gives me explicit directions, address, landmarks, everything I need to know to get there. And on time too, don't forget 8pm!

A little more background, we have been out in social events before, always in small groups. A few months ago he invited me to Miami for a trade show, and so I wouldn't be lonely, he offered a friend to go w/ me (who also happens to be a co-worker) He gave us both paid days off, and we got free vouchers to the show. (Oh yeah, show vouchers have to be reserved a month or two in advance. Did he plan this?) No working involved on the little vacay. There is more of a backstory to this, if you're interested I'll tell you, let's just say, I'm not sure if his intentions were good or bad at the time.

Back to Friday evening. Bowling goes great, we flirted the whole time. He LOVES compliments. (Which I already secretly knew, but usually reserved them for an occasion if I needed something from him. If I wore out my other superiors, he was usually delighted to grant my requests after a nice gesture.) After bowling, everyone leaves. I'm in the parking lot, fueled w/ restless energy looking for another spot to run to. He pulls up in his brand new car and asks where I'm going. Wait? I thought he had to be in bed? He has an appointment in the morning he's been complaining about this whole evening, he can't be serious right? "Oh, I just wanna drive the new truck" he says. Fine with me.

We go to a bar, (see another co-worker, I have got to get away from these people!) we flirt the whole evening. As I get more tipsy, I gush to others that he's my boss. "Oh I'm not your boss right now, don't even think about that, you're on personal time." He says. He drives me back to my car, which was way out of his way, and we depart w/ smiles.

Back at work on Monday, he's back to his usual hard-working, diligent self. I remain professional. He's popping up more and more lately. He's calling me more while we're working, with normal work requests of course. I'm also running into him more and more, like he hears me around the corner and waits in a communal area to run into me.

His girlfriends in the past look, well... similar to what I look like. However, I feel very under par, they were either pre-med, or law students, which is much superior in comparison to my Fine Arts degree. At least in my opinion.

Why I'm not sure of his intentions? Well, I'm very upfront and communicative when it comes to emotional matters. If I like someone, I will usually end up telling them. This situation is tricky you see. I'm not going to risk my feelings out of a fear of, A. rejection, because I would have to keep working under him. Or B. Risk getting fired, because who knows? I could be wrong.

This is just my perception, what do you think? I'm sure he being my superior only complicates things. I just have no idea what is on his mind. Now suddenly, I can't stop thinking about him, which is very unusual for me. Any insight is very much appreciated, and thanks for reading!

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 10, 2013 12:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Capricorns show love by doing things for you and by sticking around and being loyal over long periods of time. Of course he likes you, but he needs to get to know you. I would just continue being friendly. There's no hurry (said the Cap moon and AC). Where's the fire?? (She asked the Sagittarius) lol Take your TIME (the Saturn ruled girl wisely advised).

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Seriously... how lovely that you get to know each other in this way. How completely DELICIOUS that you are being COURTED. This could be your love story. There's no rush. Make it wonderful. Keep a journal. Here on this thread if nowhere else... but you can always do a Word Doc with anything that gets too hard to share. Think of this time as the getting to know you period. See how you react to each other during challenging times and challenging personal emotions on a day to day basis. Allow things to unfold naturally... organically. Go through whatever you need to go through. Learn. Grow. Make it clear you appreciate the things he does for you. A simple "thank you" is important. So is a smile. You are the fire that warms his cold heart.

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Randall
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posted October 10, 2013 01:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome!

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Female_Archer
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posted October 10, 2013 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Female_Archer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Mystic Melody for your candid reply. Randall thank you for the heart warming welcome!

I guess in the past I'm used to men being more assertive when it comes to courting. He's a complete mystery to me, I think that's why he has grown on me on me so much.

I just had doubts if he would pursue me or not, since we both work together. Him being my boss just makes everything more tricky. I don't want to mistake his courting if he's only interested in being friends. I never want to overstep my bounds and have him think I'm unprofessional, or happen to catch him off guard when he's in the middle of a busy work day.

Today, I ran out for some sushi. I asked him through email correspondence if he wanted any. He replied back with and order, but no "thank you" just a "I'll pay you back" which urked me a little. I moved on quickly, I figured he was just busy (he always is).

He personally texted me later to thank me, and to let me know it was "delicious". I texted him later to let him know I was glad he liked, and I flirtedly told him he never paid me back. So he could buy me lunch one day to make it even, he said "sounds good"

I'll guess I put myself out there?

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Mystic Melody
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posted October 10, 2013 11:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's all you need to do and now just keep smiling and being friendly and pay attention to how he acts and reacts to you. Don't get pushy and extra fiery and fast until you know for sure... it IS work. Get to know one another well... you don't want to get too close too fast and then start having misunderstandings and then have to work together etc. Keep us updated on future flirtations!!

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AriesLilith
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posted October 13, 2013 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It sounds like things are going well, so good luck!

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