posted November 09, 2013 11:08 AM            

I found it too fitting to not want to share it, I really hope that is okay.

"I was surfing the 'net this evening and for some reason was drawn to come to this forum. I very rarely come here any more, not because it isn't a great forum (Haru is certainly to be commended for creating such a wonderful space!), but because I really don't get myself involved with twinsoul discussions any more. However, as I said, I felt drawn to come here - no idea why - and I read your post and then felt compelled to write. Is this why I was drawn here? Again...no idea.

I hope you don't mind if I toss in my point of view...and please remember it is simply my point of view, one that may or may not apply to you.

It has been my belief that many people who get tangled up in the twinsoul journey wind up suffering needlessly, often for many years, sometimes an entire lifetime, over wanting to be with that certain person, that 'twin'. And in doing so they tend to miss out on so many things...potential serious relationships with other people, things they may have done if they weren't quite so focused upon that person, even happiness in life. They function, sometimes amazingly well, and may or may not experience love with another, they live their lives, but...that one thing is still holding them back.

The longing to be with one's twinsoul can interfere with life, it can be debilitating, and it can be excruciating. In living with hope for the future, some inner voice telling them that they will one day reunite with this person, they wind up constantly dwelling on that which has not happened yet, as well as that which has happened and is in the past, but the here and now - the present - gets muted and dulled with sadness or pain...and longing.

Really, for any of us...who knows what the future will bring? Is that inner voice - the one that is saying 'We will be together again someday' accurate? Perhaps. Perhaps not. But in clinging to that sense, I suspect two things are happening. The first is what I already mentioned...one's life becomes filled with dwelling on 'that day will come', and a muting of one's present life occurs. The second is that, *if* the possibility that the inner voice is correct, and one will be together again some day with that person, an irony of sorts takes place. Because of the constant dwelling of thoughts on that person - that 'obsession' of being with them (and yes, as much as people do not care for that word, the emotions that are tied in with thinking of one's twinsoul is an obsessive quality) causes the exact opposite of what they want to happen. In constantly thinking about this one person, the intense desire and 'want' actually keeps them apart.

This is what letting go is all about. It means letting go of all desire to be with that person, letting go of constant, intense thoughts of them, and of letting go of constant intense thoughts that reunion is going to take place. Letting go does not mean having to stop loving the person, nor does it mean one has to abandon that inner voice. What it does mean (imo) is to let go of everything associated with expectation. It means still loving the person, but having the courage to love them enough to allow them to follow their path in life, and having the courage as well to follow their own. Some believe that they have let go once they have stopped contacting the person, but that is only the first step. The true experience of letting go means taking all focus away from this person and redirecting it, first to onesself, and then redirecting it to others around them...family, friends, people in need. It means detaching completely from the one they call their twin, with the faith and courage in knowing that God/theUniverse/Spirit always allows what is best for them to come into their lives.

I tend to believe that the true meaning of twinsouls expresses itself once a person has learned to channel that love into all that is around them in life. When a person has finally reached the day where they are completely content to accept whatever is to come their way, and when they feel the desire shift from that of longing, or wanting, any one particular person, to instead being fulfilled with the simple act of breathing and being alive regardless of who or what is in their lives, then the Universe opens up its treasure box of gifts to them. Love should never be about heartache and desires yet unfulfilled; these things are dependent emotions, and are disconnected from the true meaning of spirit and the twinsoul experience. When that feeling of want is still with the person, then that, to me, is an indicator of a need that is alive within them...a 'hole' that is lacking something. But no one outside of them - twinsoul included - can ever fill that hole. The real irony is that craving to be with one's twinsoul is actually a signal stating that the person has not yet learned how to fulfill their own self. This is the toughest part of letting go...in recognizing that fulfillment comes not from any other person, it comes from within.

I think that the important thing to do is to ask yourself the following:

What is it that I am missing in my life?
Why do I feel this intense need for this other person?
Why do I feel that only he/she can satisfy this desire?
What will it take for me to fulfill my own self?

These questions can be tough to answer, for many people will answer them with the wholehearted belief that their lives are fulfilled, that they are doing all they can to be happy, and yet they still need that other person. Yet I do believe that if this were true, then the desire...the longing...would not be there. The love would still be there, just as strong as before...but the longing and the need to be with the other person would be gone.

One final suggestion...the word 'twinsoul' in itself can be debilitating. In stating constantly that 'xxx' is my twinsoul, it creates not only a core belief that the other person is the only one who will have the answers to their complete happiness, but it also creates an attachment....my twinsoul...my beloved...my possession, if you will. I am not advocating that twinsouls do not exist, as I still do strongly believe in it myself, but...by calling that person 'my twinsoul', if one still has longing in one's heart, then that term 'attaches' the other person to them and makes it almost impossible for detachment, or 'letting go', to occur.

I believe the secret to life lies in finding one's passion within, then pursuing itself with fervor. The rest, given time, will fall into place as it should. 'Twinsoulship' has never been about finding or being with one's 'twin'; it is about finding oneself. That is when the greatest love of all will take place, and that is when all want, need, and desire for another will dissipate.
Wondering"

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posted November 09, 2013 12:10 PM            

I completely agree...

posted November 09, 2013 12:31 PM            

I love this last bit!
Yes, its all about the SELF-connection, first and foremost.

posted November 11, 2013 12:06 AM            

So yeah give me tons of awesome stuff and I will be grateful for sunshine inter alia

I don't like the whole "namaste mindset" either. Seen ugly cringeworthy stuff, seen ugly people doing cringeworthy things... Not quite willing to channel my love at them, can't see the point.