posted December 18, 2013 04:21 PM            

I am pretty confused by a Scorp (yeah another one lol). I met this guy on a dating site and after some texts, he invited me to his place. We had sex and i went back home. He gives me that hot/cold scorp treatment, which i don't like too much but can handle. Disappears and won't respond to texts, then sends me a picture out of nowhere, calls, or even texts me in the middle of the night. Other days we will talk for hours...I try to give him his space, not being demanding, but i am not playing the chase me game - i'm pretty open, he knows exactly how i feel. He said that he likes to tease me and make me want him and this is why he ignores my txts sometimes. We saw each other 5 times now and it's always at his place, and i always leave after. Staying over seems out of question but i am not asking lol Never went out together. After sex, which usually starts very fast as soon as i arrive, we would cuddle for an hour or so, he ones gave me a massage, even though i didn't ask for it. Last time he said he is tired and doesn't want to hang out but would like to see me for a quikie, so i came and as soon as we were done, i said i had to go. He asked why i'm leaving so soon lol I left anyway. As soon as i left, he texted me saying he wants me again...i said this was new to me and i kinda liked it because it doesn't make me feel as attached but leaves me well satisfied sexually. His behaviour during sex is changing, he's now being more sensual, stares in my eyes and kisses me during sex, holds my hands but he is doing it very carefully, kinda shy i would say, and he is definitely not the shy type lol He is a player. But he asked me if i could handle seeing him more cos he would like that, i said "try me" lol He doesn't ask questions about my life, almost never, and doesn't share much about himself. He did say that if one wants to share, he/she will just talk, and that words generally aren't even needed because people should read the actions. He also says i can ask for whatever i want but he will always do what he wants lol

He says he likes me, calls me pet names and appears to be a little jealous over my friendship with my ex. I told him many times that ultimately i want a relationship. I also had told him once before that i don't want to see him again because he doesn't seem like he can give me what i want (a relationship) and he got upset. Texted me few days later saying he misses me. He said he could see other girls if he wanted to but only seeing me at that moment and it is his own choice and that i should appreciate that. Also that he needs a woman that is stable and does't change her mind out of nowhere the way i did. He said it is hard not to want me all the time. At the same time he says he likes how i now use him for sex (and yea i kinda do, it is the best sex i could ever wish for!). We use bootie call term sometimes but then again says he's saving it all for me... I love that crazy sex we have but i do want a relationship sooner than later, i am just very confused if i should continue seeing him and see where it goes or cut all ties and look for what i want eventually. I am not someone who can look for a bf while seeing another guy, even if it's just a bootie call...I really like this guy, but he is hard to read with all those mixed signals and he is not making a move to make it a relationship. What do you guys think of all this?

I am cups, born on 4/20/83, i do combine characteristics from both signs. Example: I can control myself for the most time, such as knowing me as impatient, i've learned to control that too. I can be stubborn but i can accept compromise. Being dominating or being in control, like many Aries want to be, isn't really my thing. I can if i have to and usually succeed at it, but i would rather have someone else in charge, someone who can be trusted with it though.

He is 13/11/81

posted December 19, 2013 05:10 AM            

I am not aware of everything, but it seems like there is no emotional attachment, or mental attachment with either side. You know very little about each other. He is straight up trying to de-value you by saying he can have any girl he wants, but he is saving it for you. He ignores you and plays "games" to try and keep you interested. He enjoys it when you do the same to him, because that signifies that you are not his. Like all those other girls that he can have whenever he wants. You never stay the night, and when you meet, it's always for sex.

Is a relationship possible? Sure, anything is possible.

Do I think a relationship is probable? No. You don't know each other, and spend no time together other than sex.

You said you wanted something deeper, from the very small view I have from what you have said. I do not think you will find it with him, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Many people get into relationships because the sex is good. Sometimes it will work out, sometimes it won't. You're both in your sexual peak, so enjoy it while it lasts.

posted December 19, 2013 05:33 PM            

I do realize it is purely sexual at this point. But as for me, it is so because it takes two to tango. I'm not gonna demand to have it develop into a deeper relationship, in my opinion both should want it and naturally come to it. So at this moment Im just enjoying great sex. I know my intentions so does he, so the ball is in his court. I just want to understand if the little changes I see in his behavior actually mean that he may be developing something more than just sexual attraction. Or is it him being a player and doing/saying things that girls like to see/hear? He did say he is a bit jealous and also said it is not good because he shouldn't feel that way.

posted December 22, 2013 02:48 AM            

At any rate, try to put your sexual feelings aside for a moment and really think about what is it exactly that you want a relationship WITH HIM for? I mean, I understand the desire to be in one, most humans do desire that, but what is it about HIM that you think will be even more wonderful if he is exclusively yours?

I just did this pro/con kind of thing because since I haven't been speaking to my Scorpio (since sept. 24th) I AM thinking much clearer- without all that sex to confuse me! lol. Anyway, my PRO list had 3 things on it. You can guess what one of those was, I bet.
My CON list is two pages long.

So, I guess my advice, looking back at what I did wrong.. is if you really want to keep him, don't tell him how into him you really are. In my experience Scorpios are into the power play and once you lose it, that's when things go wonky. If you have it, or you at least share it, then he will stay interested.

P.S> This is a crappy way to live, so I hope you don't take my advice. Nobody should have to chase someone indefinitely, and hide their feelings. But as with quite a few Scorpios I know, if you break their rules, you're out. And if one of them is sex only, no relationship, then that's all you are going to be. I have heard it said that a Scorpio will decide in the first moments of knowing you where in their life you will fit and rarely do they vary from that.

posted December 23, 2013 12:13 AM            

I do want more than just sex with him. I should just say I'm in love lol but I went ahead and asked him straight up. I did tell him how I feel and that I just want to know if I should separate my feelings from sex. He said he has feelings for me and would like to get to know me better and spend more time. He also said he isn't sure if he wants a gf but he likes the sex we have. A bit confusing again but I agree, I appreciate his honesty and that sure goes on pros list lol

posted December 23, 2013 12:03 PM            

If you want a short fling/one night stand with someone, then sex away. If you want a relationship, then you have to get to know them first.

Have both of you ever tried to talk, WITHOUT SEX getting in the way? Have you ever gone to his place to hang out...WITHOUT SEX?

I've seen this time and time again. Heck, there are countless shows dedicated to stuff like this, and it's the same story everytime:
Both people started having sex right when they met, without getting to know eachother. One person decides they want a relationship, only to find out they were never compatible in the first place but thought they were cause they were so engulfed in the passion. Once it cooled down, and they actually had to talk without being in the bedroom, they realized they weren't compatible at all.
Same story, same ending, 99% of the time.