|
Author
|
Topic: re advice on what to do
|
luckab
Newflake Posts: 4
From: houston,tx
Registered: Dec 2013
|
posted December 21, 2013 12:56 PM
  
Hi !I am new to this forum. I am a strong taurean female in the early 30's.I met this Capricorn guy while reading for my license exams 3 months ago.He is 5 years younger to me.This is not the first time I ever had a study partner and have excellent touch with them as my friends till today.But this one was quite different. We seemed to click right from the first day. Initially it was strictly studies. But one day he caught me singing and realized that I have other talents other than academics. The same talents which we both shared. He used to mention to me that I had the tactics to get him to my side with my punning compliments and that I was a unique piece who possessed all the talents he loved.He also told me that I was the only girl whom he took time to listen to all the emotional blah blah and that I was the one who taught him tolerance which he never had even for his sister. Also, he kept mentioning all along re how close he was to his sister and that how innocent both of us were. He also loved the fact re how close I was also to my sister and family.Don't get me wrong. He never flirted or misused our friendship in any way. But we shared the basic chemistry. Even without looking at my face , he would know when I was upset or angry and will never start studying till I was fine. Everyday after our studies, we used to have our own music sessions for almost 2 hrs where more than me he opened up re his college life, friends etc. Once he even asked my date of birth and photo to check my horoscope for career prospectus.It was then I mentioned to him regarding how I am mutually getting separated from my spouse after years of misunderstanding. He was totally understanding and our study and music sessions continued for at least a month. It was strange feeling which he dismissed initially but guess he also got drawn into it. One week before we decided to end the study, he mentioned that guys don't mention anything abt their friends to their siblings unless they are really close. A week later , he told me that he told about me to his sister ( that too early in the morning). Few days later, he mentioned that he wants to read on his own too as his exam was only 2 wks apart. We ended our study mutually. After that he only picked up the phone once normally when I called him . After that I had to leave him 2-3 messages before he would call me. This was then that he also wanted me to talk to his sister during one of the phone calls which I did. She was very sweet but we only stuck to her topics ( nothing abt her brother). Few days later, again he went back into his shell. Never responded to phone calls again. End of the day, I wrote a long email that how upset I was and then he responded back via text that his nature is like that and there's no offense from my side and apologized if his nature hurt me. After that I only called him after his exams just to know how he did. He never picked up the phone. I sent him an email again saying that there is no point in talking to him and went to sleep. I get a text re when my exams were at 3 am . He never responded to any of my questions re exam but only texted me for the dates of my exam. Eventually, I gave up and gave him the dates after which he wished GL and never responded to any of my messages after that. But I got notification that he is still awake and reading the messages.In the end after 3-4 messages , I told him that I am very disappointed and would never call or text him . i also mentioned that he will always be my best friend and that I will pray that he will get a job.No reply for that too and none so far even to wish me for my exams which I did 2 days ago.I sent him an inspirational poem a day before his exam for which he texted saying thanks and how I am preparing. Never replied back to the text.My question is : why he should he totally avoid me all of a sudden. Could have just carried on as friends which we were.Will he ever come back after all the common bond we shared for each other?Can someone kindly advice what I should do as I became really hurt by the way he is doing this to me but deep inside I did develop feelings for him. I know this is a long post but would appreciate if someone can guide me.IP: Logged |
Nine
Moderator Posts: 1655
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
|
posted December 21, 2013 01:25 PM
Maybe he's busy studying and preparing for his exams. See what happens once that is behind him.IP: Logged |
luckab
Newflake Posts: 4
From: houston,tx
Registered: Dec 2013
|
posted December 22, 2013 02:21 AM
He has already finished his exams and is now on the venture for the jobs.He also thinks that I finished the exams by the middle of this month although I had to postpone it. I too had initially dismissed his avoidance as exam stress but this seems to proceed even after that. He didn't even text me GL for the exam or text me to see how I did it . However he still maintains my friendship in social network websites where he asked me to add him on. I also never call or email him and am waiting to see how long he will take.
My intuition tells me that it is not ended. Wherever he is he still has not deleted my photo and thinks about me often like I do.Just like the way I feel for him, the wavelength would also make him feel it .When things happen naturally and avoidance was brought up by him only, it will surely prick him and he will surely come back . Especially when I am just carrying on with my own work and not troubling him. Kindly guide me if my intuition is true or i am just being too romantic in thinking being a taurean. The last time i texted him was 2 weeks ago just to apologize as my daughter sent him a missed call playfully over skype .I texted him a sorry and that it was a mistake and then wished him GL and stopped. My message was read within 10 minutes but he still decided not even to respond.
Is he tough because he is a capricon and is testing my patience and sincerity for him? Why should you all of a sudden avoid a person who was always only a true and caring friend even though we became really close.Is he taking some time to process whether he wants to carry on ? Really don't know. KIndly advice please!IP: Logged |
LucieLemonade
Knowflake Posts: 179
From:
Registered: Sep 2013
|
posted December 22, 2013 02:29 PM
Do you know any of his other placements? A Gemini Venus could mean he's not interested anymore. Or some other placement might make him the type that gets bored easily. IP: Logged |
luckab
Newflake Posts: 4
From: houston,tx
Registered: Dec 2013
|
posted December 22, 2013 05:43 PM
He doesen't have any gemini signs in him. He is a strong capricorn as far as I read him.IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 35747
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
|
posted December 25, 2013 11:09 AM
You might have said something that led him to believe it wouldn't work out.IP: Logged |
AriesLilith
Knowflake Posts: 233
From:
Registered: Aug 2013
|
posted December 30, 2013 11:24 AM
Have you ever asked why he has been avoiding you? Or he only answered that by saying that it is of his nature?Whether or not it is his nature to be distant, it doesn't seem that he is too into you now. You have been repeatedly sending him messages even if he did not reply, it's better to stop this and save your pride and treasure yourself better, than going after someone who is not too into you.
Also, even if he is serious about you, the fact that he might be avoiding you on purpose can show that he is not mature enough for serious relationships. And again, not really into you, coz someone who is would put more effort and not ignore the many messages you already sent. Also, not erasing someone from our network might not necessarily mean that he still cares - many people just don't bother go unfriend people they once knew from their social networks anyways. IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
