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Topic: Has over-interest in astro compatibility destroyed your relationship?
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Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 512
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 16, 2014 01:07 PM
  
I was just wondering.Years ago I used to be very intro astrology and for a while went through a period of doing composite charts and synastry with several romantic interests. Weirdly enough once I'd seen what our relationship was like in astro terms, the magic/spark completely died between us. I think it definitely had something to do with my need to analyze the relationship, I think it seriously sucked the creativity and spontaneity out of it. So I stopped doing it. Anyone else had that experience? I don't want to appear negative here, just curious to see how what affect this has had on others' relationships. Or conversely, has the REVERSE happened and it actually improved your relationships? IP: Logged |
Hera
Knowflake Posts: 8636
From: Olympus
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 16, 2014 02:46 PM
I went through this. I still look at charts, but I've switched more to electional astrology and similar branches. I no longer cling to a certain aspect to make or break my relationship, though I do think it's good to be aware of the energies at play. A relationship involves two people, who have the choice of handling those energies one way or the other. A relationship shouldn't be validated or invalidated by astrology, if you ask me. I also don't believe it has any importance on the development of the relationship whether you conform to the N rules of twin flames or not. ------------------
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Abc333
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted February 16, 2014 04:03 PM
It's a double edged sword for me. It's pretty disappointing for me when I look at either a synastry or a composite chart and see some really detrimental aspects but, at the same time, it helps me to prepare for whatever it is that those aspects bring in advance and how to deal with them if I decide to stay with that person.I'll usually look at the other person's natal chart first to get a view of what kind of person they are and decide from there. If I happen to see something in the natal chart that seems forboding, I won't pursue anything with that person, at least not on a romantic level. I've actually had this happen once where I looked at someone's natal chart and all the signs of a "player" with a phobia of commitment stood out. I went against my better judgement and a few months down the line, when I wanted clarity as to what we were, he just kept saying "I don't know" and "I'm just having fun". That's when I learned that if I get a feeling about a person's chart, I better listen to it. For example, if I see something that represents difficulty in communicating, it helps me understand the issue and how to deal with it and work past it. Before I began learning astrology and how to do all of this, I would have just gotten ****** and argued with the person instead. ------------------
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Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 512
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 16, 2014 10:00 PM
Interesting answers. Thanks  I usually don't really find out their natal chart until I'm "involved" but then if the relationship hits a rough patch and leaving me confused, I am often tempted to do the whole composite chart thing to see if the relationship shows potential or not and whether there are any significant conflicts in our synastry. Obviously I also look at their own natal chart to see what conflicts they might have within themselves. The latter especially usually gives me a measure of understanding them better and often explains a lot about their behaviour. But sometimes, although it helps you ACCEPT the differences between you and bring a certain peace to the relationship, you also need those inexplicable sparks that drew you together in the first place! I don't know really, I'm an analytical Virgo Sun/Mercury so my natural tendency is to want to know in relationships that have had "issues". Not with everyone though. IP: Logged |
CappyLove
Knowflake Posts: 152
From: Ireland
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted March 06, 2014 12:05 PM
Well I have gotten into reading charts the past few months its been making me insanely obsessed to the point that I read so much bout it! In the end it has left me more frustrated because the charts say different things!! I have gotten synastry, composite mid-points, composite with ref points, davasion and horary... Now the good part is understanding my partner better and the problems that might arise and prepare me to deal with them in a better way. However it has made me stubborn and trying to look for the final final conclusion. Tarot says yes, synastry looks good...composite is complex and davasion is a bit better but missing a few aspects...horary says no! In a way it has made me upset because this guy is amazing! The charts are very intense and I like intense and I am not willing to let this go without blood, sweat and tears first!!
The idea of him being my husband warms my heart! The asteroids I guess in this play a big part too! If anything I feel more determined to make this work! I won't break up with a man unless I see that there is no point to the relationship. IP: Logged |
LoadedPistil
Knowflake Posts: 1088
From: NJ, USA
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 08, 2014 07:45 PM
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babybull82
Knowflake Posts: 176
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted April 10, 2014 06:20 PM
I'm finding that I do miss being blissfully unaware of potential problems that may arise or outcomes. I know knowledge is power, but too much knowledge sometimes can cause self fulfilling prophecies :-(IP: Logged |
Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 512
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 10, 2014 10:21 PM
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Originally posted by babybull82:
I know knowledge is power, but too much knowledge sometimes can cause self fulfilling prophecies :-(
Yes I kinda agree with this.
Also just because you might have an amazing composite chart with someone, for example, doesn't mean the relationship won't end. I sometimes find I get blase about it and a bit lazy, then the interest or spark goes. lol
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AscTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 993
From: Pretoria, Gauteng,South Africa
Registered: May 2009
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posted April 26, 2014 03:44 AM
No. Not at all. Its actually enhanced it.For me, astrology is much like every other theological discipline; it is first the experience that matters and then perhaps the analysis of that experience(if necessary to understand the dynamics) later. When my knees go weak and my heart flutters, I don't have the inclination to think about Moon positions. When the sweet taste of a kiss is lingering and the arms envelope every part of my body to remind me once more"I am loved"-who cares about where Mars is placed? I savour that isht. I savour it big time. Its only when I'm really interested in understanding my mate that I consult. And this is not because I want to look for "deal-breaker" aspects , but to supplement the relationship. I've been pleasantly(and heavenly) surprised by all my relationships. Moon in Capricorn? Love you lots. Moon in Aquarius?Adore you so much.Saturn in Cancer squaring my Mars in Libra? I don't care. Bring on the loving. Yeah baby!!!
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