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posted March 25, 2014 04:43 AM            

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My love life hurts at this moment. I never really met a man I truly feel connected to. I always have to convince myself they are good for me or I am attracted to them. I ran into a Cancer man I had not seen since high school and we ended up chatting. He was working and I was on a date (I was bored to death) so we couldn’t talk too much but the chemistry was amazing. He left without saying good bye, but later a mutual friend came and inquired if my date was my BF (I said “God No”) and he said my Cancer friend was interested in catching up and if I was down he wanted me to have his number. (Why he didn’t ask himself, I never figured out) I texted him that night and he texted right back and before the end of the night asked me to dinner for a few nights later. Within the next 48 hours we texted each other over 400 times and talked on the phone 7. He wanted to buy me mani/pedis, clothes, wash my car…. I politely declined them all. But I did finally agree to meet him up a night early with his friends. We had an absolutely wonderful time! He told me he had only felt a connection like this 1 other time about 10 years ago. (we are both 34) He wanted to know everything about me (of course I kept stuff back) the more he knew the more awesome he thought I was. He wanted me to come home and watch a movie with him…. Spend the entire next day with him. I had to decline. I had family obligations and I had to protect my heart. He seemed so bummed. I couldn’t help start to trust he really was into me. I met up with him the next night. At dinner he asked me to move with him in October? When is it too early to get married? And if we could get and apartment together no? (we had a few drinks for I just blew it off) But when he started to drop the L word … I told him I wouldn’t take him seriously until he was sober and he looked me straight in the eye and did it again and I laughed. After that we went to a party, where it was all his friends plus his family  He introduced me to everyone as his girlfriend and I just smiled. I was on some sort of crazy high. I would normally be running for the hills. There was something so charming about it. The next place we went he even told the bartender we had been married for 8 years, just to make me laugh….. and I did. But I did get to the point where I needed some space. So while he was talking to some friends I told him I was so to watch the last few minutes of the game at the other side of the bar and HE SAID NO!!! So of course I did. When I did he did text me to come give him a kiss and then two more times and called me three. With some alcohol in me and everything else that had happened, I felt the need to assert my independents, so I didn’t move and motioned for him to come over to me. And his ***** switch flipped! When I went back over he had gotten the check and said he had spent like $300, so asked if I could help. I said sure, I had not brought enough cash (anyway, he and kept saying I would never pay for anything when I was with him….blah blah blah, but from the beginning i told I don;t date guys for their money) I offered to go to the ATM, he told me to forget it and we left. Went back to his place to watch a movie and he was a snippy ***** and I remained sweet and pie. Then this morning I got a text saying he wanted to just be friends because he couldn’t handle that I didn’t have enough money to pay a small bar bill. I said “Totally Cool. I will get you that $40.” But honestly I am hurt and totally confused!
I know what you are think…. Run from the unstable douche…. But he made me start to fall and I am not sure what I should do. Our compatibility chart said we were pretty great. The chemistry was crazy and I have never had a connection like that! It sounds so crazy and I am completely embarrassed but I miss him and I feel like I never existed to him and I am having trouble wrapping my head around the fact he is gone.

His

Sun Cancer 11.08
Ascendant Virgo 17.26
Moon Libra 22.45
Mercury Leo 7.02
Venus Gemini 26.42
Mars Gemini 5.24
Jupiter Leo 11.20
Saturn Virgo 9.33
Uranus Scorpio 17.08 R
Neptune Sagittarius 18.31 R
Pluto Libra 16.28
Lilith Leo 29.18
Asc node Virgo 10.12

II Libra 12.11
III Scorpio 11.49
IV Sagittarius 15.17
V Capricorn 19.23
VI Aquarius 20.29
VII Pisces 17.26
VIII Aries 12.11
IX Taurus 11.49
Midheaven Gemini 15.17
XI Cancer 19.23
XII Leo 20.29

Mine

Sun Capricorn 6.41 Ascendant Leo 4.12
Moon Taurus 12.54 Mercury Sagittarius 23.27
Venus Aquarius 7.44
Mars Virgo 13.26
Jupiter Virgo 10.15 R
Saturn Virgo 26.57
Uranus Scorpio 23.54
Neptune Sagittarius 20.50
Pluto Libra 21.35
Lilith Virgo 19.10
Asc node Virgo 0.38 Cancer 3.11

II Leo 24.20
III Virgo 18.58
IV Libra 20.07
V Scorpio 26.54
VI Capricorn 3.11
VII Aquarius 4.12
VIII Aquarius 24.20
IX Pisces 18.58
Midheaven Aries 20.07
XI Taurus 26.54
XII Cancer 3.11

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posted March 25, 2014 05:16 AM            

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Welcome to LL.

Moving this to Soul Unions.

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posted March 25, 2014 08:22 AM            

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why did you do this ? "I felt the need to assert my independents"
it needs to be done at some point, but i think it was at the wrong place and wrong time..

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posted March 25, 2014 11:12 AM            

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I'm sorry you're disappointed, but it seems like you dodged a bullet. His behavior was extremely bizarre and you were very reasonable.

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posted March 25, 2014 01:49 PM            

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USC277 - I told this Cancer guy in the very beginning I need my space sometimes, just 20 min or so. He was completely agreeable and said "oh, I can give you space". The whole time we were together I felt even though he was all about me, it was really all about him and I needed a minute for me. Most guys would think it was cool I wanted to watch basketball for 20min. I think his biggest issue was i ended up talking to the bartender while I was watching to game... even though I kept asking him to come over. I just needed him to do something I asked, not the over way around. And if it is about the $ ...ASS!

LeoLady82- I agree... but unfortunately sometimes the heart wants but the heart wants . And I tend to be attracted to different and bizarre, complicated (I blame it on Venus in Aquarius) And the attraction was undeniable ( our Liliths crossed each other)....But I will put my good little Cappy girl face and hooves back on and move forward with out a word or a scene. Do I want to explain myself? Figure this all out? Give him a piece of my mind? Remind him how much fun we had? HELL YES! but I wont. I just feel he wouldn't care. Like this was a joke to him and he never really cared. I never really happened to him. I picture him out there laughing with friends and I am him completely distracted and left feeling empty.

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posted March 25, 2014 11:53 PM            

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I'm sorry to hear he acted that way. Maybe it's best if you move on… his behavior was a little strange to be frank with you.

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posted March 26, 2014 03:56 AM            

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when were friendly to the women we want to actually date, its often because we're looking for more than sex, and actually like who you are. its not some deceptive practice intended to fool you into sex...

i'm a water sign, and if a woman i was on a date with decided to take time off while we are on the date,,,i would get annoyed..do it when the date is over..

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posted March 26, 2014 01:18 PM            

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I don't even need to read the charts to say " Run from the unstable douche"....

As was said above. You two are not compatible. Be thankful it ended sooner rather than later.

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posted March 26, 2014 01:23 PM            

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Not a problem... Chapter closed! He received the money I sent back and threw a huge tantrum! I called a spade a spade a told him to lose my number. Just hope I don't get stalked or worse:-/ but No Problem with being done!

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posted March 27, 2014 02:39 PM            

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Post your birthdates?

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posted May 08, 2014 02:39 PM            

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With Moon/Pluto conjunction in 2nd house- you best believe that this is all about "possession".

Pluto adds intensity and a tendency to "fly off the handle" when the individual doesn't get what they want; in this case,doing what they want you to do. You dodged a bullet

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