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I'm so cappy
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From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
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posted May 03, 2014 02:35 PM
  
To me it's like keeping the other person on a leash and potentially expecting to gain something in case of divorce or a better social status. It would feel like contaminating the love between me and my man. Screw contracts, I want a pure, real connection.------------------
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Cuteleo85
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posted May 03, 2014 06:34 PM
I disagree  the meaning of marriage, like everything else, is arbitrary; it can be whatever you want it to be. I've never been married, but if I ever do, it's going to be because I want to make that relationship extra special; as to say, "this person is nothing like the others who came before him." To me, it's about that vow and making that commitment believing you will never need a divorce because you truly believe you're only going to be with that person and no one else. I wouldn't want to marry someone because I want to put a leash on them; that's silly! If they wanna leave they will, it's not about security per se; it's about knowing what you want and not being afraid to make a bold statement. I also don't care about diamonds or big weddings; I think I'd want the whole thing to be very simple and intimate, but that's because, again, I wouldn't marry just to get married. Just my $0.02 -  ------------------
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
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posted May 03, 2014 10:55 PM
It does tend to suck the fun right out of the room.IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted May 03, 2014 11:48 PM
I know I would become complacent and lazy in a relationship if I married the guy.So I prefer to just be someone's girlfriend. I'm a much better person that way. IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
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posted May 04, 2014 12:13 AM
Even that seems to court constraint.IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
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posted May 04, 2014 12:16 AM
I think I like to Dream that I am somebody's girlfriend.  
That's where I'm happiest! IP: Logged |
Cuteleo85
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posted May 04, 2014 05:06 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
I think I like to Dream that I am somebody's girlfriend.
That's where I'm happiest!
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lotus_flower
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From: Virginia
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 04, 2014 06:48 AM
I think marriage is a mixture of legal incentives and romance. I think it is a LOT harder than anyone can know until you get in it, but I think it is also the most beautiful thing if two mature people care about each other. I do hate though people in my generation are idealizing marriage again. I feel like people don't realize it's not a big party and changing your name on FB like the day after you are married. Ugh. LOL. IP: Logged |
Jerseyshore
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posted May 04, 2014 04:34 PM
I speak from experience and boy it is tough! People don't realize it isn't all flowers and sunsets. It takes work, communication & desire to succeed on BOTH parts. Having said that I doubt I'll ever marry again - I much prefer the idea of living in sin, ha! IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 05, 2014 02:12 PM
So do I.IP: Logged |
Tulipe
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From: France
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted May 05, 2014 05:41 PM
Cappy, that leash comparison is like trying to tame a wild dog  . I look at marriage as freedom within a structure, lay down your foundations and build your life together is romantic to me. ------------------
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 6939
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 22, 2014 06:25 PM
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
I think I like to Dream that I am somebody's girlfriend.
That's where I'm happiest!
Do you have a Pisces Dsc by any chance?  quote:
Having said that I doubt I'll ever marry again - I much prefer the idea of living in sin, ha!
Let's unite in sinning
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I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted May 23, 2014 04:11 PM
Well, I have the diametrically opposite viewpoint.I find it immeasurably enrichening. My 20th anniversary is on Tuesday, and I wouldn't have it any other way. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 23, 2014 04:31 PM
quote:
Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
To me it's like keeping the other person on a leash and potentially expecting to gain something in case of divorce or a better social status. It would feel like contaminating the love between me and my man. Screw contracts, I want a pure, real connection.
Yep.
No wonder your DSC is on my Jupiter. lol
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Ellynlvx
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posted May 23, 2014 04:51 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
I think I like to Dream that I am somebody's girlfriend.
That's where I'm happiest!
Do you have a Pisces Dsc by any chance? I do believe Neptune is in Descent, yes. IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
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posted May 23, 2014 04:54 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Well, I have the diametrically opposite viewpoint.I find it immeasurably enrichening. My 20th anniversary is on Tuesday, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Congratulations!
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 6939
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 24, 2014 07:10 AM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Yep.
No wonder your DSC is on my Jupiter. lol
I'm glad you agree But what do you mean? ------------------
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Aries23Degrees
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From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 26, 2014 01:28 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
To me it's like keeping the other person on a leash and potentially expecting to gain something in case of divorce or a better social status. It would feel like contaminating the love between me and my man. Screw contracts, I want a pure, real connection.
Wait. This sounds like Moon/Mercury/Venus aspect with Uranus. I have Moon/Uranus quintile and I concur. But this reminds me of "Shall we Dance?" when Susan Sarandon's character was asked the same question on marriage. The question being ;Why all the fuss over a piece of paper? And then she responded, 'We need a witness to our lives.There's a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness".' I was sold.
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LeeLoo2014
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posted May 27, 2014 08:58 AM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I'm glad you agree But what do you mean?
Similar morals, philosophy, views on marriage. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 27, 2014 08:59 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Wait. This sounds like Moon/Mercury/Venus aspect with Uranus.I have Moon/Uranus quintile and I concur. But this reminds me of "Shall we Dance?" when Susan Sarandon's character was asked the same question on marriage. The question being ;Why all the fuss over a piece of paper? And then she responded, [b]'We need a witness to our lives.There's a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness".' I was sold.[/B]
I like this one, thanks.
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 6939
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 27, 2014 10:12 AM
I feel like puking, thanks  ------------------
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