posted May 11, 2014 03:35 AM            

I've been talking to a Virgo. Not sure what to think about it. He was talking to me a lot at first, but not so much currently. We were hanging out Wednesday because I was helping him with an essay. When I was going to leave for class, he asked me to stay with him, so I did. We spent four hours together that day.

I feel like he's still interested, but Idk. Haven't really heard much from him.

Possible he lost interest already? Is it normal for Virgos to play hot and cold? Should I just ignore him?

posted May 12, 2014 02:23 AM            

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Originally posted by ash20:
I think it's normal. Virgos kinda need their space. Maybe he's analyzing you? Don't completly ignore him though but don't always txt or call him either. Check in with him every once in awhile but for the most part let him come to you. And DON'T play games!

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No, I don't play games with guys. If I'm interested, I won't hold back.

I think I have a tendency to get obsessed, so what I've been doing lately is just like texting him twice then just pretending he doesn't exist. If he comes back via texting me back or something else first, then he exists again.

In the meanwhile, my brain goes into overload x__x.

posted May 12, 2014 03:43 AM            

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Originally posted by ash20:
With the job thing i've had something similar happen with a virgo too. I think they want to be able to keep their eyes on you and know where you are and what you are doing lol. It's like they want to keep you close by

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I know that makes sense with one Virgo guy that asked me. I felt like he was trying to create a logical reason to justify seeking more time with me.

posted May 12, 2014 03:44 AM            

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Originally posted by ash20:
And i wasn't trying to offend you when i said don't play games it's just that i lost mine that way.

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I didn't take it offensively. My ex was playing too many games with me, so I can understand how frustrating that can be.

posted May 12, 2014 10:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
You broke up with your boyfriend on 30th april, and are already ready for a new relationship (or affair)?
I wish I could be more like that. *sighs*
Just closing one chapter and moving on without looking back. That would be so nice for a change.

sorry I know that is sort of not the topic.

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Before this, it took two years to leave a previous relationship.

My relationship goal is to find an equal partner to settle down with. Neither partner wanted to settle down, though they claimed they wanted to put down roots with me. When it becomes clear that they are not interested in what my bottom line is through action, not words, then I have to acknowledge their actions.

posted May 12, 2014 10:51 AM            

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posted May 13, 2014 11:38 AM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
I broke up with my boyfriend on April 30th. Though I love him, it wasn't working out and we argued more than we got along.

I've been talking to a Virgo. Not sure what to think about it. He was talking to me a lot at first, but not so much currently. We were hanging out Wednesday because I was helping him with an essay. When I was going to leave for class, he asked me to stay with him, so I did. We spent four hours together that day.

I feel like he's still interested, but Idk. Haven't really heard much from him.

Possible he lost interest already? Is it normal for Virgos to play hot and cold? Should I just ignore him?

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Don't do it!!! Don't do it child.

You just got out of a relationship that didn't work- you may be feeling vulnerable right now and looking for someone to give you that boost of confidence i.e romance you, give you attention and generally make you feel the way that you were supposed to feel with your ex.Why not take time out and chill?

If this Virgo man that you just met is showing interest, why not take the time to get to know him first? As a friend?

posted May 13, 2014 02:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Don't do it!!! Don't do it child.

You just got out of a relationship that didn't work- you may be feeling vulnerable right now and looking for someone to give you that boost of confidence i.e romance you, give you attention and generally make you feel the way that you were supposed to feel with your ex.Why not take time out and chill?

If this Virgo man that you just met is showing interest, why not take the time to get to know him first? As a friend?

Do you really think that you are ready to jump right into another relationship? I mean, its only been 1 day that you two spent and it sounds to me that you are already planning your future with him-by examining the dynamics of his character.

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Thank you for saying that to me. I have a tendency to overthink and I usually regard men this way(like examine if they are marriage material).

I had a long talk with my teacher last night who said the same thing.

Friendship is fine with me. I'm just so meh right now. My teacher pointed out that I need to have an idea of the healthy model of a relationship partner.

posted May 13, 2014 02:39 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Ceridwen:
[b]You broke up with your boyfriend on 30th april, and are already ready for a new relationship (or affair)?
I wish I could be more like that. *sighs*
Just closing one chapter and moving on without looking back. That would be so nice for a change.

sorry I know that is sort of not the topic.

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Before this, it took two years to leave a previous relationship.

My relationship goal is to find an equal partner to settle down with. Neither partner wanted to settle down, though they claimed they wanted to put down roots with me. When it becomes clear that they are not interested in what my bottom line is through action, not words, then I have to acknowledge their actions.

I usually try to do the best I can to save it. If it looks hopeless, I start clearing everything up and prepare to walk away. I don't leave a relationship unless I'm 100% sure in my own mind that it cannot be salvaged as is, like usually, the partner has to do an action that is like a final slap in the face. By the time I walk away, it's because I've exhausted the options in my mind on trying to solve the problem. I'm not sure if there's something in my chart that explains this.[/B][/QUOTE]

Oh I understand that. The separation had actually taken place long before, at least internally, and you have already gone through all the stages, I suppose. Yeah, that I get.

posted May 13, 2014 04:50 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
My teacher pointed out that I need to have an idea of the healthy model of a relationship partner.

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posted May 13, 2014 04:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Oh I understand that. The separation had actually taken place long before, at least internally, and you have already gone through all the stages, I suppose. Yeah, that I get.

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Yeah :-/.

When I started checking out, I kept pleading with him to be kinder to me so I could convince myself that leaving wasn't the best idea, that it could get better. He didn't care. Every time I mentioned how I felt myself pull away from him, he would get hurt and then start blaming me for everything.

posted May 13, 2014 04:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Yes, yes, yes. This is also what I wanted to say- but didn't want to get preachy

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I think when it comes from a good place rather than a condescending one, it makes me feel good to see someone cares.