posted May 15, 2014 12:52 AM            

I need advice on a Libra man. I interacted with a lot of Libras, but never actually dated or seriously talked to one.

I met one last Thursday at a bar. He was with his two cousins. We clicked and started dancing. After we were done dancing for a little bit we went to go get a drink. One guy that was hanging out on the side of the bar told us that we were a cute couple. We told him thanks, got our drinks, and went back to the dance floor.

After we were done dancing for a little bit, the Libra told me he wanted to take me on a date by the beach and asked me for my number. When I was putting my number on his phone, he told me he really liked what the guy said about us being a cute couple. One of his cousins was talking to a girl at the bar. When the girl start talking to the Libra, he introduce me as his girlfriend. I went along with it and shook the girl’s hand. I didn’t think too much of it. I just went with the flow.

ANYWAYS, that night he was a real gentleman. He gave me lots of compliments and told me the way I was dancing, I needed to visit his mother LOL
He even got a little jealous when he found out that I knew a lot of people, particularly guys (its a small college town!) I knew them, but I haven’t done anything with them. I had to reassure him a little bit.

Honestly, I had a really great time with him. His family was nice and we did have a lot of deep connections with each other. Of course we made out. We wanted to have sex, but he resisted and wanted to wait until we actually had our first date. (It’s been a while since I heard that one before!)

After we said our goodbyes, we text each for a little bit and went to sleep. I had school and he had to work. The next day he text me first. We couldn't really talk since he was at work so I told him he can talk to me later. Saturday no contact, I went to a concert with friends and he was probably busy. Sunday I asked him if he was free to hang out next week. He replied saying Wednesday he was free. I told him okay I had to do some errands, but I'll be free during the mid afternoon to hang out. No reply. Monday, we didn't contact each other. On Tuesday, I texted him asking if he still wanted to hang out on Wednesday. No reply. Today he didn't reply, so we didn't hang out today.

Is this a typical Libra trait? I know they are famous for their disappear act. I don't mind because I need space too, but he could have at least told me that he couldn't meet up with me. I honestly thought he was the real thing, but I don't know now.

Any advice? I'm giving him space. No contact whatsoever. If I don't hear from him again, that's okay. I'll just take it as a lesson and move on. Thanks!

-Phoenix

posted May 15, 2014 10:15 AM            

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Originally posted by whitewitch111:
I would honestly go more with his moon sign for this one.

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Yeah, I wish i could see his chart but I don't have a lot of information. I just know he was born on October 14th. I don't know where and what time he was born.

posted May 15, 2014 11:56 AM            

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Originally posted by ScorpPhoenix:
Yeah, I wish i could see his chart but I don't have a lot of information. I just know he was born on October 14th. I don't know where and what time he was born.

I went to check my birthday compatibility and he's on my on and off again attraction. Idk, im not trying to think about it too much. If he doesn't contact me, its not the end of the world.

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Do you at least know the year he was born?

posted May 15, 2014 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Cuteleo85:
Do you at least know the year he was born?

Hard to say like that many men would act like that ....sorry

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1991. I think I know where he was born, but Im not 100% sure. Honestly everything went so fast, I couldn't get much information.

posted May 16, 2014 08:15 AM            

Until then.... the best advice EVAH...

posted May 16, 2014 03:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
I think it is more of a man thing than a Libra thing. From what I've read (if he is not a complete con artist/player but you didn't sleep together so let's count that out for now) a man can actually become frightened at his overwhelming emotions and has to take a step back and process his "stuff" and figure out if he is ready to jump into a serious relationship. He may have felt that way about you naturally and his Libra "partnership" instinct kicked in... but then a guy friend gently (or not so gently) reminded him of the last time he did this and jumped in too fast and the heartache that came later and he started wondering if he is ready etc. Then when he was freaking out he tried to send a quick text to keep the option alive... then you seemed to want a little more and then asked if he wanted to meet up... and he started retreating faster.
Wait a few days and then send a happy text saying something along the lines of "that funny joke/song/whatever we heard that night came on again and I laughed and laughed". Something super light that leaves him a path back to you that he can take when he is thinking correctly and feeling strong and confident enough to take it... when he has made "the decision" (*said the Libra)to go forward with his intense feelings. k?

Until then.... the best advice EVAH...

BREATHE

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LOL you are absolutely right! We did go a bit too fast so I can understand when someone needs space from that intense moment. Being a scorpio, I think too much. I can think of so many possibilities of me doing something wrong, etc.

I'll just give him some space. I have some errands to do anyway. I don't know if I want to initiate contact again but we will see after a few days.

posted May 29, 2014 04:34 PM            

So I understand your frustration coz you are like "what's the hold up? Let's do this already!"

The Libra I'm seeing has his Moon in Scorpio to my Moon in Cancer and is a number 3(like me), so intellectually we were on fire the first day we met. I liked him

But then, he started to pull back(like yours is doing), play roundabout games and I got very confused. Did I come on too strong? But he went along with it? What happened?

I think Libra can be the most evasive and difficult position to start a relationship with; as they tend to weigh the pros and cons of everything- even a relationship that hasn't happened yet.

They are sensitive people and quickly get attached and I guess it's one thing that they avoid doing; getting emotionally attached to someone quickly only to get their heart broken.

Your Libran is the erratic 5;.
The number 5 is the most dynamic and energetic of all the single-digit numbers. It is unpredictable, always in motion and constantly in need of change.

I think that ,in this instance, he could be behaving like a typical Libra; sorting the cobwebs from his mental state and trying to make a decision on how he feels about you. It'll take time.

When the Libra I'm with did that,I also got gatvol of all that and decided to distance myself from him.

But when I heard we were attending the same party, I deliberately "sexified" myself: I made sure that I looked unbelievably gorgeous and I managed to attract a lot of attention.

It seemed to have worked as this action quickly alerted him that, though I love him, I won't be holding a candle waiting for him to decide that he likes me too.Libra is Venus- ruled so they are suckers for looks.

He called me the day after the party and said that he wanted us to officially start dating. Done!!!

posted July 03, 2014 03:22 AM            

Sorry for the late update! I've been busy with school and work. I didn't have time to check my posts LOL So me being the stubborn scorpio that I am, I got so fed up with his bs and deleted his number. Before he started being distant I added him as a friend on snapchat. When he stopped replying to me, he unfriended me..wth? Dramatic much?

After finals my friends and I decided to go out to the bars to celebrate. Guess who I see? Him and his cousin (its been about two or three weeks since the last time I’ve seen him) The cousin seen me first and told the libra that I was here at the bar. He turned around and gave me an awkward hi. I just said hi and went to hang out with my other friends. He probably thought I was going to yell at him (I was thinking about it...jk my cancer moon would not allow that to happen) I was just trying to have a great time since I was done with school. I didn't really see him that much but I caught him dancing and flirting with another girl. Whatever...

Anyways, after I was done with the bar, my friend and I wanted to go home and rest. As soon as we entered the restaurant (the restaurant has a back door that leads to her place) the libra and his cousin was exiting out of the restaurant. When we walked pass each other, he gently touched my shoulder. Not trying to think too much of it but okay? I swear I don’t understand guys at all.

Now it’s been three weeks and I haven’t heard from him since. I deleted his number. If he wants to contact me, he can. If not, it’s not the end of the world I believe everything happens for a reason. If I had dated the libra right now, I wouldn't have many fun experiences and meet a lot of people that I know now. But damn he knew how to dance and keep up LOL oh well...

Thanks for the advice guys! I'll definitely keep that in mind if I meet another libra. I’ll keep you updated if anything changes.

Peace and Love,
ScorpPhoenix

posted July 03, 2014 03:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I'm dating a Libra guy and I have to tell ya, it almost didn't happen because he was playing "footsy" so much.

So I understand your frustration coz you are like "what's the hold up? Let's do this already!"

The Libra I'm seeing has his Moon in Scorpio to my Moon in Cancer and is a number 3(like me), so intellectually we were on fire the first day we met. I liked him

But then, he started to pull back(like yours is doing), play roundabout games and I got very confused. Did I come on too strong? But he went along with it? What happened?

I think Libra can be the most evasive and difficult position to start a relationship with; as they tend to weigh the pros and cons of everything- even a relationship that hasn't happened yet.

They are sensitive people and quickly get attached and I guess it's one thing that they avoid doing; getting emotionally attached to someone quickly only to get their heart broken.

Your Libran is the erratic 5;.
[b]The number 5 is the most dynamic and energetic of all the single-digit numbers. It is unpredictable, always in motion and constantly in need of change.

I think that ,in this instance, he could be behaving like a typical Libra; sorting the cobwebs from his mental state and trying to make a decision on how he feels about you. It'll take time.

When the Libra I'm with did that,I also got gatvol of all that and decided to distance myself from him.

But when I heard we were attending the same party, I deliberately "sexified" myself: I made sure that I looked unbelievably gorgeous and I managed to attract a lot of attention.

It seemed to have worked as this action quickly alerted him that, though I love him, I won't be holding a candle waiting for him to decide that he likes me too.Libra is Venus- ruled so they are suckers for looks.

He called me the day after the party and said that he wanted us to officially start dating. Done!!!

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Lmao, I was looking good that night too girl! Not for him though (I didn’t know he was going to be there. he doesn’t usually go out bars in my area) I'm glad everything worked out for you!

Unfortunately, the night that I’ve seen him was really weird. I can't explain it but the energy that I was getting on that day was really different. People was just off (maybe because of the full moon in Sagittarius?)

posted July 04, 2014 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by ScorpPhoenix:
Update:

Sorry for the late update! I've been busy with school and work. I didn't have time to check my posts LOL So me being the stubborn scorpio that I am, I got so fed up with his bs and deleted his number. Before he started being distant I added him as a friend on snapchat. When he stopped replying to me, he unfriended me..wth? Dramatic much?

After finals my friends and I decided to go out to the bars to celebrate. Guess who I see? Him and his cousin (its been about two or three weeks since the last time I’ve seen him) The cousin seen me first and told the libra that I was here at the bar. He turned around and gave me an awkward hi. I just said hi and went to hang out with my other friends. He probably thought I was going to yell at him (I was thinking about it...jk my cancer moon would not allow that to happen) I was just trying to have a great time since I was done with school. I didn't really see him that much but I caught him dancing and flirting with another girl. Whatever...

Anyways, after I was done with the bar, my friend and I wanted to go home and rest. As soon as we entered the restaurant (the restaurant has a back door that leads to her place) the libra and his cousin was exiting out of the restaurant. When we walked pass each other, he gently touched my shoulder. Not trying to think too much of it but okay? I swear I don’t understand guys at all.

Now it’s been three weeks and I haven’t heard from him since. I deleted his number. If he wants to contact me, he can. If not, it’s not the end of the world I believe everything happens for a reason. If I had dated the libra right now, I wouldn't have many fun experiences and meet a lot of people that I know now. But damn he knew how to dance and keep up LOL oh well...

Thanks for the advice guys! I'll definitely keep that in mind if I meet another libra. I’ll keep you updated if anything changes.
Peace and Love,
ScorpPhoenix

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Oh well. His loss