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Topic: My Sagittarian Ex
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted May 31, 2014 02:14 PM
  
I will probably always love this man, but I broke it off because I recognized that he was not ready to commit and he was trying to control and limit my responses. Asking me to change(and by golly, I was malleable) but never doing anything in return and even telling me who specifically I should become like to be in better support of him.Even then,
I still believe he had genuine love for me. I think sometimes I'm romanticizing our involvement because I miss him. I miss the familiarity of him. The poison of love still flows through my veins and I'm watching it fall to the ground as the days pass by. I logically recognize it's for the best. My heart still fondly wants to recall him. I want to punch my heart in the butt and tell it to shut up. Ugh, it's been one month and one day since I broke up with him x__x. IP: Logged |
Brobian
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Brewster , Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 31, 2014 04:05 PM
I believe that, I mean not to offended with my bluntness here, he hadn't truly loved you. If he were wanting or demanding that you change who you are, which is pretty much impossible, then he didn't love you for the lady that you are. When you feel love then you'd love them to much to even ask them to change.------------------
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted May 31, 2014 04:41 PM
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Originally posted by Brobian:
I believe that, I mean not to offended with my bluntness here, he hadn't truly loved you. If he were wanting or demanding that you change who you are, which is pretty much impossible, then he didn't love you for the lady that you are. When you feel love then you'd love them to much to even ask them to change.
I need to hear that. I think I am romanticizing what shouldn't be romanticized. It's disheartening to stand before the truth. I'm trying not to fall to my knees in front of it. IP: Logged |
Brobian
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Brewster , Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 31, 2014 04:48 PM
It is but a bump in your road of life. You gave it your best but it wasn't meant to be. I would try not to allow your emotions to take over you when you did all that you could. I assure, if he were trying to change you so quickly, he isn't the type of man who deserves the true you anyways. ------------------
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted May 31, 2014 05:11 PM
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Originally posted by Brobian:
It is but a bump in your road of life. You gave it your best but it wasn't meant to be. I would try not to allow your emotions to take over you when you did all that you could. I assure, if he were trying to change you so quickly, he isn't the type of man who deserves the true you anyways.
Thank you sincerely for the words of encouragement  .
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Brobian
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Brewster , Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 31, 2014 05:20 PM
Milady, you are unique, because your personality traits make you exactly who you are. It is your life signature and no one will have your exact same one. Let's say we sit and watch a blossoming flower, a rose if you will, as it slowly blooms open through time and then, finally, it's beauty is laid open for us to behold. This rose is akin too you because there will never again be another rose just like you. Your beauty is special, because it was created a specific way. A way so precise, so magnificent, so exalting that only you were allowed to have it. IP: Logged |
Brobian
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Brewster , Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 31, 2014 05:27 PM
If I desired to love you, to take you and make you my life, I could never expect you to change, not one tiny little ounce. If there was a habit or trait of yours I didn't like, then I would be the one who'd have to make a decision. My options would be to either walk away in an harmless manor, or to change myself to adapt with you. It would never be seen, at least not through my eyes, that it were you whom needed to change. Honestly, that's just selfish to expect someone to change for you. ------------------
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted May 31, 2014 07:38 PM
I feel a bit embarrassed to read your past two posts. They seem very personal and intimate to me.Again, thank you sincerely for your words. IP: Logged |
Brobian
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Brewster , Ohio USA
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted May 31, 2014 10:01 PM
I wholeheartedly apologize to you if my words were offensive or upsetting, this was in no way my intentions with them. I just wanted to show you that you've no reason to change who you are for anyone. However, if you found any inspiration in them, you are very welcome, Milady. ------------------
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 01, 2014 07:18 AM
They're not offensive, just rich in flavor. I'm not used to the taste, aka expression.Lovely sentiments. IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
Moderator Posts: 605
From: One World
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted June 03, 2014 04:06 AM
What did you love about him, or why were you in love with him?If you look at these things, and then all the things that were perhaps not so good. Such as his desire to "limit and control" his "inability to commit". As you suggested, it may be that you miss companionship and someone. Maybe you're a relationship person or think that is something you want. - From someone who is jaded at far too young an age. ------------------
Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams. IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 2301
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 03, 2014 03:08 PM
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Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
What did you love about him, or why were you in love with him?If you look at these things, and then all the things that were perhaps not so good. Such as his desire to "limit and control" his "inability to commit". As you suggested, it may be that you miss companionship and someone. Maybe you're a relationship person or think that is something you want. - From someone who is jaded at far too young an age.
He is the most intelligent man I've ever met and we could talk about many things. He was not turned off by my need to talk about many subjects. He was also gentle and sweet. He moved very well and was graceful. A lot of our relationship was online and it hurt too much to continue it like that. Idk, I think about him still and miss him the person. He talks like an ass online though and kept a lot of things to himself that he was scared about, but only said when he was angry with me, so we never could discuss it openly. He wanted to marry me and act as a father figure to my child, but he also did things in direct contrast with that, like listing reasons why he refused to visit overseas to meet my family on my cost, despite the fact that he's been to America several times, even as an exchange student in high school. Different things like this that made no logical sense to me. I am a relationship person, but right now, I don't want to be in a relationship. I wanted to marry this person and fall asleep to him every night and wake up to him every morning. I just don't know anymore. I feel differently about him than I did about my ex when I separated from him. Maybe I jumped the gun by dumping him, but it was unrealistic to expect him to try and compromise when he had clearly shown to me several times he was willing to crap on me. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Moderator Posts: 8184
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 05, 2014 01:58 PM
Sometimes it takes a lot of time to get over someone (a month is a pretty short period of time, imo).Don't worry and take it easy. It's okay to still have feelings for someone you once loved.
With time, it'll pass. IP: Logged |
Lindaland
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