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rosyheart
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posted June 16, 2014 01:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rosyheart     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's a guy I've known for 5 years, and I've always secretly really liked and admired him. In the past I was able to keep my feelings for him private and in check. Fast forward to now and I cannot get him off my mind, which is weird. We barely speak in person, just a lot of eye contact and body language. We worked together so I am comfortable around him. However lately whenever I see him I freeze up and become very nervous and shy.

He's been appearing in my dreams, too. Usually there's a scene of him and I smiling and holding hands. Immediately after having these dreams I usually run into him maybe 2 to 3 times a day. He tries to initiate a convo in person but I am too shy. As a result he becomes really quiet but likes to stare when he thinks I'm not looking.

I don't speak to him but in person but I contact him via Facebook. We chat occasionally through there but I am usually the one to get the convo going. The last message I received from him was "good luck!" The following day my friend told me "good luck". Then I went shopping for a pendant and couldn't find it and the clerk said "good luck!". I get into my car and see a lady bug crawling up my windshield. I drive to a park and spot a guy fishing and I ask him if he caught fish and he tells me that he caught two Chinese coy fish which symbolize good luck.

Can someone tell me what's going on? After these experiences I have not been able to get him off my mind ....

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Whenever I try to avoid him completely, he reals me back in again by saying hello or looking at me a certain way. Immediately afterwards I feel like I cannot get him off my mind and the feelings I have for him become stronger and overwhelming. Not sure what I should do. I like him but if the feelings aren't mutual I will leave him alone.

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rosyheart
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posted June 16, 2014 01:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rosyheart     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I also want to add a HUGE THANKS to anyone who actually takes the time to read my post and respond !

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Doux Rêve
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posted June 16, 2014 02:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Try to become friends and get to know each other, perhaps?

If you don't overcome your shyness/nervousness, I doubt you'll ever get an answer to your question.

From what you say it seems that he has noticed you and probably has some interest in you. So I think it's pretty safe, for now.

Try to talk to him IRL and spend more time in his presence; it should become clearer then where you two stand.

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Mystic Melody
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posted June 25, 2014 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystic Melody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have experienced this more than once and I see it as "the carrot before the horse". It is something to draw you forward or keep you on a certain path. The person might not be the destination, but their presence draws you to certain places or causes you to remain at a certain job or certain friend group, whatever, for whatever mysterious reason. I think at the very least they are soul friends and some restrictive Saturn aspect is in place that keeps the two of you close yet repelling like a magnet when you get "too" close. It's like you aren't meant to get together and live together and do that sort of one on one soul work, but you are meant to learn something that propels your further into your destiny.

That being said, I would love to hear this situation explained from the perspective of a male since I usually only hear it from females or men who are attracted to other men.

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SDragon
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posted June 26, 2014 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SDragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, he's into you. Guys are visual creatures. If he didn't like you or wasn't attracted, there wouldn't be much eye contact and staring.

You're sending mixed signals so he can't tell if you want to be more than friends. You said you used to be comfortable around him but now freeze up or become silent. If I was the guy, I'd be wondering whether you had a boyfriend or SO and didn't want to give me the wrong signals.

You say he reels you back in but from your Facebook convo's, I'd say you're the one reeling him in. Lol. Trust in your feelings and yes, the universe liked to give us signs all the time.

Best wishes

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sugarflapjacks
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posted July 01, 2014 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by rosyheart:
He's been appearing in my dreams, too. Usually there's a scene of him and I smiling and holding hands. Immediately after having these dreams I usually run into him maybe 2 to 3 times a day. He tries to initiate a convo in person but I am too shy. As a result he becomes really quiet but likes to stare when he thinks I'm not looking.

I think you should follow the feeling of your heart that those dreams bring. Smile, relax and enjoy that energy, it will expand. That's why you are running into him several times a day after a dream. You are drawing him in.

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sugarflapjacks
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posted July 01, 2014 12:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by SDragon:
Yes, he's into you.
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