posted September 03, 2014 05:43 PM            

I was so mad, hurt and humiliated. All I wanted at the time was for him to realize the mistake he made. I wrote that letter and a bunch of other stuff which I kept in a box.

Then one day I got extremely mad and tore these letters (August 2014). I felt an immense relief and that's when I started moving on although me getting mad had nothing to do with him. I kept those torn letters though.

I burned them two weeks ago and I genuinely felt like I was moving on. I had the strength to burn them. I felt such relief and I started focusing on other things afterwards. I barely thought of him. I no longer felt the pain I had been carrying for months (even a year, as he had hurt me before). It was a major relief. My feelings became completely neutral after I did this.

I kept the ashes in a box until I was ready for the final step. I just didn't want to fully let go just yet. Then last night, I went to a nearby river and spread the ashes in the river to mark a turning point. I said a little speech before spreading them. Today, I woke up with grateful feelings. Grateful that I met him, that he was a part of my life and that I am looking forward to what's next. I still miss him deep down inside but the crazy feelings are gone. I'm just happy I was with him and I learned a lot from him.

posted September 05, 2014 03:26 AM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
I burned the whole phone.

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Haha. Good one! I did throw my phone in the trash and changed my number.

posted September 05, 2014 05:42 AM            

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Originally posted by ash20:
Did this over the weekend with some friends and at first I felt better but now that i'm back home i'm still kinda thinking about him, not as much but he's still there.. Has anyone else done this and did it work over time?

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Write letters. Each time you feel bad, write. Then keep them and only burn them after 30 days.

So if you write a letter today when feeling angry, you burn it 1 month from today.

If you write another one 2 days letter when feeling sad, you burn it 1 month from then etc.

posted September 05, 2014 07:51 AM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
I burned the whole phone.

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I froze the names of a few people, to freeze their negativity towards me (nobody on this board). I felt this anxious fluttering in my chest, two days after my dog died, and thought, "That's IT!!!" and made a small list, and stuck it in the freezer.