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Topic: Are some relationships pointless?
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bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 771
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 01, 2014 10:33 AM
  
I always felt like I entered relationships for some kind of reason. Like an outer force drove me to that point in time and I was destined to meet that person. To either be a potential soul mate or just the kind of soul mate that teaches me a lesson then dissapear from my life forever. However now that I think about it I feel like most people I was in relationships wth just took from me and I didn't gain anything. No lessons. Nothing good.Are some relationships just completely pointless? Like there is no reason at all for you two meeting and there is no reason for you being together except to pass the time. Are there some connections where the whole purpose is to take from one person and give to the other exclusively? IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
Knowflake Posts: 299
From:
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 01, 2014 04:39 PM
I feel exactly like that. Every time they take more than they give.IP: Logged |
charmainec
Knowflake Posts: 8746
From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 02, 2014 03:29 AM
There's a reason why certain individuals enter your life. There are lessons to learns no matter how pointless they appear or painful they are.IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
Moderator Posts: 691
From: One World
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 02, 2014 06:59 AM
quote:
Originally posted by charmainec:
There's a reason why certain individuals enter your life. There are lessons to learns no matter how pointless they appear or painful they are.
They serve as experience, so you can look back and think; this is something I won't put up with again. Or, this is something I want in a relationship in the future. It's unlikely that we will get things right the first time, even less likely that it will be with our first partner. Experience, and reflection, will help you to know who you are in a relationship, and what you want. ------------------
Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 48302
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 02, 2014 11:31 AM
quote:
Originally posted by charmainec:
There's a reason why certain individuals enter your life. There are lessons to learns no matter how pointless they appear or painful they are.
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 48302
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 03, 2014 03:45 PM
No one is pointless.IP: Logged |
Odette
Moderator Posts: 4888
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Registered: May 2012
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posted December 04, 2014 06:21 PM
I've always felt like I learnt a lot from the people I got close to, sometimes even from acquaintances - or anyone who had an impact on my life.
When I look back on things I can usually figure out what I learnt from the experience.
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Are there some connections where the whole purpose is to take from one person and give to the other exclusively?
I doubt it, because I've never had this experience.
Maybe you are just upset over the way certain people have behaved and for that reason you're not -open- to the idea that you learnt something from knowing them. Or maybe - the lesson you are supposed to be learning is to value yourself and stir clear of those who keep taking and don't give. quote:
Originally posted by charmainec:
There's a reason why certain individuals enter your life. There are lessons to learns no matter how pointless they appear or painful they are.
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bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 771
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 04, 2014 06:32 PM
Hm yeah. Maybe it's just me that never learned.IP: Logged |
ash20
Knowflake Posts: 721
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Registered: Mar 2013
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posted December 05, 2014 11:54 PM
Not if you choose to learn something from them. IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 3162
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted December 07, 2014 03:56 AM
quote:
Originally posted by bansheequeen:
Hm yeah. Maybe it's just me that never learned. ....
Bansheequeen  .... learned, to "Receive?" (music) It Hurts Like Hell (Aretha Franklin) [4:18] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bF5G2zmjQjY IP: Logged |
ikja
Knowflake Posts: 418
From: London, UK
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted December 28, 2014 12:54 PM
I honestly think that you meet everyone for a reason. Some people teach you want to do, and some people teach you what not to do. Some people enter your life to encourage you to stay the same, some people force you to grow/change.Even if the lessons in your case are not obvious because they are not bad ... I would encourage you to think a little deeper. Some of the lessons, may be good ones therefore, no need to cause you upset. For example, I am only starting to realise that one of the things that I have learned is that I am actually capable of loving someone (unconditionally - hmmm). Maybe the person was not the right person (because he did not reciprocate or give me the love that I needed) but I now know that I have the ability to love. That is a beautiful thing and something that I have had to sit down and work out for myself. IP: Logged |
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