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Topic: Heartbreak..... How to help someone? What not to do?
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Einfühlung
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: Lily of The Valley
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted April 26, 2015 06:06 PM
  
After an hour of talking to a dear cousin of mine, a person whom I think is closest to me, I am left with a heavy heart for her. Her boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with her yesterday. Why? Because he went out on Friday for a welcome back party. He told her he got blackout drunk, and cheated on her. (The Pluto retrograde might have an effect on this too)
I didn't know what to say. I was just shocked and sad while she cried her heart out through the phone, explaining the situation with words I couldn't understand. I wish I lived closer so I can comfort her and take her out to get her mind off it, but we're a 10 hour drive away. Even if someone came over, her mind would be still clouded with thoughts. She called a friend over, she got a little bit better, but when the friend left to work she got all sad again and called me. I am not good with words, only my actions tell them. It would be better if I actually knew what she wanted me to say. "It's okay, you have more years ahead." "I'm here for you, take your time." "So he did this and this? Ah I see.. Go on" "I love you, I'm here for you." and asking things related to work and school to get her mind off it a bit is all I said. I guess this is enough to help her, right? I feel like she called the wrong person. Trying to help someone get over a broken heart is hard.. This is the first time I've been through this. Having been broken hearted before myself, I can relate, and I've told her my experience of being cheated on (I still don't know for sure if he cheated on me) and knowing that it's really tough but she'll eventually get over it, even if it's not now.  I'm lost at this. If anyone has been through trying to comfort a friend from far away, what did you do? Did it work? I know it's up to the broken hearted person to mend their own broken heart, but how do you support them? I'm thinking about texting her more words of comfort, since writing helps sending out what I'm trying to say more meaning than talking. I know she'll need it. IP: Logged |
Vajra
Knowflake Posts: 1738
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posted April 26, 2015 06:57 PM
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Einfühlung
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: Lily of The Valley
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted April 26, 2015 08:50 PM
Her moon is in Gemini. I don't know her birthtime but I've put in different times to make sure that her moon is in Gem. Definitely in GemIP: Logged |
Vajra
Knowflake Posts: 1738
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posted April 27, 2015 06:30 AM
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Einfühlung
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: Lily of The Valley
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted April 27, 2015 09:46 PM
I see. Sounds like talking on the phone is a better option than texting? Thank you for the advice. Especially on not worrying about what to say. She has finals to deal with, though. I don't want to distract her too much. Agh, the dang guy just had to do this at the most crucial time in her life. :/IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 72120
From: Saturn next to Charmaine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 28, 2015 12:14 PM
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Einfühlung
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: Lily of The Valley
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted April 29, 2015 03:57 PM
that's a cute icon Randall😊IP: Logged |
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