posted July 05, 2015 09:50 AM            

One in particular had an immense impact on me.
I was in high-school and that guy started paying attention to me and teasing me, and one day even confessed his feelings in a rather clumsy way, during class. I thought he was playing, because he had that kind of personality. Or that it was a bet. Basically I didn't believe he really liked me because we had barely talked to each other and besides, I thought he was very good-looking while I was plain as fu** (in my view).

Fast forward a few months later, I develop strong feelings for him but am too shy/insecure to ever initiate any kind of contact. We remain distant but seem to share a kind of 'hidden' connection that only we knew was there.
The next year he changes class and we barely see each other.

Then he moved cities and I confessed my feelings to him by text (yes, bad idea) and he never replied to that.

We once had a phone conversation where I wanted to talk things out but he denied ever liking me 'in that way', though I could tell he was lying to push me away.

Anyway, that was the end of it; I'd never suffered so much in my life. It was a wonderful and tragic experience, something that, I believe, happens once in a lifetime, when you're young and feelings are so intense it makes you go mad.

posted July 06, 2015 01:56 AM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
That sucks four does anyone else have any stories?

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I do. I'll probably talk about it one last time to close this chapter so to speak. It will be therapeutic!

posted July 07, 2015 05:31 AM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
He sounds like an overly confident jerk.. I hope you and your Leo work out. He sounds so shallow for Pisces.

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Thank you for reading my story Lexus!

The worst part is that I sent him a birthday greetings text a few days after our last date and he didn't even have the decency to send me a "thank you" text. He ignored it.

He didn't deserve all the attention I gave him. That most definitely was a lesson learned. Sometimes unrequited love is meant to bring your weaknesses to the surface so you can heal them. It was a painful but healing experience. I needed to learn how to "love" myself more than I would love any man, so that I can bring my self-worth to the level where I can stand up for myself and kick to the curb any man who dares to disrespect me the way he did.

posted July 15, 2015 02:29 AM            

Although I guess I could add some other things to the unrequited list... e.g. unrequited like, unrequited infatuation, unrequited delusional projection of stuff onto a person you barely know...

posted July 18, 2015 04:41 AM            

I met him properly when I was 15 at a public rave (party). He was a friend of one of my friends at the time. During the party, he got robbed by a group of lads and was punched too. Obviously, this hurt his ego/pride, but being the type of Aries Moon that I am, I tried to make him laugh and feel better.

He appreciated this and when we were going home, I asked for his number to check up on him and make sure he was ok. We ended up building a really good relationship, and I developed feelings for him. It wasn't helped by the fact that a number of my school friends soon found out who he was and started to build relations with him. I was jealous, because I felt like I had worked for the relationship. Invested time and got to know him properly while everyone else just joined in without doing anything!

Eventually, I told him how I felt in a drunken state and he said that we were really good friends and that was it. Obviously I was devastated, but he still wanted to continue the friendship. We used to meet up etc. and literally get on sooooooooooo well. We liked the same music and we were both rather witty. His love for music and my love of dance really bonded us together. He was literally my best male friend and I was his.

As the years progressed he met one of my friends and at the time, I encouraged him to date her because I didn't realise that things would change. I also didn't realise that I would be jealous. Basically, both things became apparent and we stopped being ok with each other. I went off to university and during those three years, we exchanged messages to the effect of 'I love you and miss you.' He broke up with his girlfriend, by this time my ex friend and things were ok.

Then I sabotaged myself by telling him that I liked him again, but then listing all of my concerns which were insecurities tbh (which obviously made him concerned) and then I panicked and things went downhill again. Since then, there have been many reconciliations and many fallouts. There have also been mixed message statements from him like 'I don't want to ruin our friendship' and his constant interest in my love life whenever we do speak - it's odd.

The type of person he is now... he is someone who appears to be able to live without me. He talks to all of these typically attractive girls and I just find him disloyal and fickle. It is sad that we never worked out, but I can see where my temperament and his hesitation ruined things.

posted July 19, 2015 02:43 PM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
Ikja, I know how you feel I have Venus square Pluto in my natal unrequited love is a theme.
Sounds to me though that you friend really does love you a lot he's been friends with you for ten years.. Maybe he just needs to get his head out of the sand and realize you always been there for him.

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posted November 20, 2015 02:17 PM            

I haven't suffered that much in love though. In fact I wish I had had more love interests for the experience, but I simply never paid that much attention to it when I was a student.
My first crush happened when I was around 8 or 9. Seriously. And I though he would be the ideal husband, I could totally picture it. However, I was a shy girl, with not many social skills and he was intelligent, flamboyant and extrovert. He couldn't go unnoticed everywhere he went so he naturally caught my attention. He seemed interested as well, but nothing ever happened for four years that we were together at school (not even a kiss). I was too shy to know how to handle the situation. However, for years he remained in me as a platonic love and in a positive light. Somehow he had been a good influence in my life, because he helped me be more self-confident.

However I've seen him recently. He has changed so much! Trying to love him now is like loving almost a different person. He still has the spark the that got me attracted to him, but I see more of his true nature now than before when I was infatuated.