posted July 21, 2015 06:50 PM            

So, in May my relationship ended after six years. In June, I registered on a dating site and that is where I met this Scoprio guy.
He seemed funny and interesting, so I took the courage and sent him a message.
Also, I'm a Pisces and heard that these two signs can work out pretty damn well.

So, we start talking on Skype, it goes pretty well apart from one disagreement. Since my last relationship was a bit toxic, I get very defensive when people treat my opinion badly.
But, we got past that and had a really interesting talk, when he opened up about his fears regarding relationships. That, if people can break up after 5+ years, what is the point in trying?

Following that, we only had some short, casual talks (he is a busy person). Then, came a turning point when I asked him if he is interested at all, because he never initiated conversations. Turns out, my timing was bad. There was already someone else in the picture when we started talking, don't know if date, or just an ex, because I didn't ask for details.
He aplogized, saying he doesn't like keeping more irons in the fire and he doesn't expect me to wait for him to make a decision. I thought it over, and decided to keep talking with him. But I tried to keep in mind, that this could easily end with me getting dumped.
Over the time I grew more frustrated and bored with this situation and yesterday I had reached the conclusion that this is going nowhere. He is obviously not interested, didn't even ask me out on a date, and just doesn't have the guts to cut me off completely.

But guess what, today for the first time in three ******* weeks he started a conversation. I was baffled.
He grabbed a few beers with a friend and got emotional. Opened up again, and shared his rather sad views on life. He called me cute, when I told him he can talk to me about these things, and seemed eager to do so. Then he took a shower, and apparently had a change of heart, cause he eluded my questions. He did ask about my problems though.
Then, I just knew he will "escape" and I was right, he told me he needs to go, because he feels sleepy. To my reaction, he said "you are better off without me ". Great.

Okay, I get it, possible emotional trauma left him suspicious and he finds it difficult to come out of his shell. This, or he is just manipulative.
Sadly, since I am so damn empathetic with other people's pain I'd feel bad for quitting now. However, I am no one's emotional trash can or plan B.

posted July 22, 2015 01:25 AM            

Oh, damn. This is such a shame.
Aquacheeka, I don't know where these quality men are, the ones registered on dating sites are either boring or ugly. Or both.
LexusVirgo his planets are:

posted July 22, 2015 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by bumblebee:
Pisces girl here. Also scorpio man. 6 years already and he had not make move, only pushing me over the edge.

Do not waste your time. Be smart. I wasn't.

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posted July 23, 2015 04:30 AM            

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Originally posted by ladygagarin:
Six years? D: Oh dear. Don't waste any more of your precious time on him!

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posted September 29, 2015 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
There is a term black women use for men who are a lost cause and will inevitably waste your time and drag you down with them into an endless abyss of misery; it's called DBR. It stands for "damaged beyond repair." I think this phrase needs to go global. You need to read the signs when you have encountered a DBR male and move the **** on and let him be some other poor person's burden. Don't waste your time on garbage when there are plenty of quality men out there.

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posted September 29, 2015 07:19 PM            

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...when he opened up about his fears regarding relationships. That, if people can break up after 5+ years, what is the point in trying?...

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Ummm, was this in reference to your breakup in May?

How old is he? He sounds like a teenager. If you two aren't teenagers, I highly suggest cutting your losses and moving on.

You just left a 6 year relationship. Have FUN hun! When I left my ex after 5 years, I spent a lot of time with my girlfriends and dated super casually once or twice - it really helped me "get my groove back" so to speak . Sure, I knew nothing would develop with the guys I went out with, but the guys were fun and the dates I did go on were care-free and energizing. I highly suggest you avoid the "dark and dangerous" types for a while and focus on what makes you feel good. Keep your energy up and you'll attract a partner who will support and compliment you...instead of someone like this guy who wants to take what he can without giving anything.

posted September 29, 2015 07:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
There is a term black women use for men who are a lost cause and will inevitably waste your time and drag you down with them into an endless abyss of misery; it's called DBR. It stands for "damaged beyond repair." I think this phrase needs to go global. You need to read the signs when you have encountered a DBR male and move the **** on and let him be some other poor person's burden. Don't waste your time on garbage when there are plenty of quality men out there.

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You rock so hard, Aqua.