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sugarflapjacks
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posted August 29, 2016 01:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
**singing**"thats the pisces in meee"
Hey! I know that song lol
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
i know what I bring to the table. I have no problem sitting at it alone.
Baby girl, you know yourself so well! You know, there are many people who can't say this because they aren't comfortable in their own skins. See we like our alone time, where we can think, dream, plan and really self-examine. There is alot to us than meets the eye! Having this attitude may sound conceited to some people, but it's not, it's what helps us to emphasize and be as non-judgemental as possible to others.

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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:

Its just finding the right blend of guy for me...
*Or maybe I have... hmmmm***

I like these thoughts. Think on the positive things and more will come!

I'm keeping my eye on this thread! I wish I had more insight on aquarian men. I'm hoping someone else will tell you more information on these guys!

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posted August 29, 2016 11:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sugarflapjacks:
[b] [QUOTE] Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
[b]i know what I bring to the table. I have no problem sitting at it alone.

Baby girl, you know yourself so well! You know, there are many people who can't say this because they aren't comfortable in their own skins. See we like our alone time, where we can think, dream, plan and really self-examine. There is alot to us than meets the eye! Having this attitude may sound conceited to some people, but it's not, it's what helps us to emphasize and be as non-judgemental as possible to others.
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It's been a struggle to get to where I am emotionally, mentally.

I got called conceited a lot when I was young... and that made me question myself and I changed so much. Now I am back to myself and very happy with myself. And anyone that says I am conceited, I smile and say ok... because that only means they do not understand me --- so I do not bother to explain myself. I go about my merry way LOL


* Aquarius man was a bit distant, then when he spoke it was alot. LOL. I laughed because its his intensity that I absolutely love.

I had a moment where I shared random thoughts with him, and in a way my intensity showed. I felt a little weird with it because I know its something other men have complained about or made me feel weird about. So I allowed myself to dive in BUT i also braced myself for the "blow" Needless to say, he surprised me. He actually encouraged me. Did NOT call me overly emotional or crazy or anything. He took it as is, took his time of course to really dissect it. And his reply, really amazed me.

He has told me more than once, he wants me to feel comfortable to talk about anything with him. I joked and said, IDK If you are ready to see what hides in mind...

In reality, the thought of letting him see in makes me a bit nervous. But slow and steady. I dont have to dive it...Just maybe dip in a toe and start there hahahah

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posted August 31, 2016 04:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
And his reply, really amazed me.

Wow! Very cool.

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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
In reality, the thought of letting him see in makes me a bit nervous.
Trust this!!! When the time is right, it will seem natural and he will more than likely have shared a few things with you before you have to.

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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
But slow and steady. I dont have to dive it...Just maybe dip in a toe and start there hahahah
LOL I hear you! Take your time, the distance helps in this aspect and plus he lives in his head alot, too!

Oh! I meant to tell you this before, there's a very famous Aqua Man/Pisces Woman couple that shows the chemistry and sexiness of this pairing! It's Paul Newman and JoAnne Woodward. I'm not sure if you like old movies, but check out a few of theirs if you like. They are GREAT together and from what I've read they were very compatible and had a wonderful life together.

These are three of my favs:

1) From the Terrace (very elegant and sexy (rental)) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAWGk-TUE0I

2) A new kind of Love (romantic comedy (FREE)) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GTL_86uOho

3) Long, hot summer (intense (rental)) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8C9p5gFhOc

There's a quote in this movie where she says she was kissed goodnight. And he says yes, he kissed goodnight and left. If was me, I'd stay til sun up!

LOL awrighty then!

So beauty, get you some popcorn, a bottle of your fav wine, invite your homies (or just cuddle up yourself) on a rainy day and watch!

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posted September 01, 2016 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Will do! I will check these out LOL

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posted September 09, 2016 04:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Sugar!!!

I haven't watched the videos yet -- but a little update...

We seemed to have slow down our talking. Actually, he has. LOL. I just follow his lead *wink* What I am noticing is we both said ... lets get to know each other. He wants to enjoy his newly single life and I have alot to do before jumping into a relationship - ok cool. LETS!

Umm... so I believe we are liking each other a lot faster than we thought. And at times I feel a bit overwhelmed... and coincidentally - he seems to back off at that moment. And then other times he backs off right after saying, I miss you! or recently it was "It feels good to talk to you, I am really glad for the friendship we are building" and then disappears for a week.


There is this "in and out".

The one thing I see right now is he feels, tells me what he feels, then backs off for a few days. The longest has been a week. When before we talked every single day. Of course, the everyday talks weren't feelings - it was the basic getting to know each other. Now its more getting to know past the first layer so feelings show more - he seems real reserved. I love that he will communicate it. The pulling back for a few days is where I'm like... why? That's how you feel - its ok. Own it!
LOL. Then again I am Pisces...I love my feelings!

I don't say it to him, I want him to show himself - not be different for me. I want to accept whomever I end up with for who they are, fully. Because that is what I want in return,

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posted September 22, 2016 12:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Beauty! Sorry I've been MIA, been travelling.

No worries about the movies, they'll keep. One thing about them, there does seem to be sexual tension brewing in alot of their scenes, (like they can't stand each other/very antagonistic) but they don't bring the release of that hot steam in the onscreen romance. I guess they save that for offscreen lol

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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:
"The pulling back for a few days is where I'm like... why? That's how you feel - its ok. Own it!
LOL. Then again I am Pisces...I love my feelings!

I don't say it to him, I want him to show himself - not be different for me. I want to accept whomever I end up with for who they are, fully. Because that is what I want in return,"


I get you here. I wish I could give you more advice on this man, but I'm kinda stumped, babygirl! For me, this type of man would be cool if I wanted a casual friend or needed a WHOLE LOTTA time to get back into a relationship. The mileage between y'all could be a factor too. The fact that you two keep in touch is great and that you can feel the sexual tension from him doing the "pulling back" thing is VERY good. With the distance, you two could be friends forever (if that's what you want). To really get to know someone, you need to spend time with them, and this is where it gets a little hairy due to the distance (for me). But since you guys have an understanding, that you are going to take it slow, then it's probably ok. My question would be, what are y'all both looking for in this connection? After several weeks/conversations, the small talk is over, do you guys have enough in common that will keep the both of you interested -- esp. in between his "retreats"? lol
When he pulls back, do you wait for him to call you, or do you contact him? I think that he is quite interested in you, but may have insecurities about you. That isn't a bad thing for him to be a bit unsure of your feelings for him, he needs to have you on his mind
Does your "easy like Sunday morning" vibe may come off as "take it or leave it" lol no, just kidding. Plus, he's got the same "live and let live" paradigm, so he's cool with that. But I believe if y'all were closer, the bond created by you both being free spirits would naturally grow stronger. Speaking of bonding (I said it, not you ) Have you stopped being open to meeting other guys/him meeting other women? Forgive me if we already went over this, I'm a little jet-lagged, but I wanted to pop in to see what I missed!

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posted September 23, 2016 12:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Sugaaaar!

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Originally posted by sugarflapjacks:

Does your "easy like Sunday morning" vibe may come off as "take it or leave it" lol no, just kidding.


LOL! Actually this did cross my mind... and I've slightly adjusted to make sure I am not coming off cold...

When he would pull back, once or twice I would check in and ask if all was ok. But when I saw that's how he works I stopped reaching out and just let him be. And eventually he would come around and I would be warm and welcoming. Never questioned why he pulled away. Figured he would tell me on his own if it was important. And most of the time he would. And the ones he didn't I still didn't ask. I felt the same thing you said... him being unsure and it takes time. And we have time.


Updates... Hmm... well I am happy to say that his retreats after sharing feelings have lessened, significantly! They would be a week at a time... now at most two days, usually just one. We were initiating contact pretty evenly at first. But he is initiating a lot more now. I thought maybe I lessened but nope... he beats me to the punch now. LOL I really like that. And just like Randall said... he is becoming more comfortable sharing more.

He has a son and at the times he is with his son I wouldn't speak with him. Now he does. Makes it a point to contact me during that time. Or even the other night... I know guys with their sports. He mentioned his team playing i said... Ok, night! He replies... no I still want to talk to you. I went to bed anyway because he was having a night out with the guys and I like being left to myself when I am out with friends. The next morning before I woke up I had a wake up message and the entire day he spent in excitement sharing about the game, how his team won, how we will go to a match when I go back, and saying i need to learn soccer. (I don't have much interest in soccer but I really enjoyed how excited he gets over it). So its been a good mix of hearing from him alot more often, and getting included into more of his likes and what he wants me to learn, and less distance.

I do agree with you - we would need that time together. But the distance seemed perfect at first because we both are in no rush to jump into a relationship. Its now that it seems to be bugging us. It bugs me at times but I also enjoy it because it helps me focus on what I really want to build in a relationship. So I look for the good.

The other day actually he left me a message saying he misses me and is thinking of me, but lets not talk about this now because he is unable to do anything about it right now. I smiled. And understood the feeling. So we both choose to focus on the good now and enjoy what it is right now.

However... I do have plans on moving to his country. But it wouldn't happen for another year or so. (Doing my MBA first and saving money). These plans were in effect before him. I have never mentioned them to him or many other people actually. Not to other people because ppl are very negative and I don't like it, plus I am very private. Not to him because I didn't feel it was time to say that just yet.... I planned to tell him later on. IDK I assumed the conversation would happen later in the year or next year. I wanted it to naturally go there...And so it did. BUT it happened alot sooner than I expected. We had a conversation earlier this morning via voice messages where I kinda blurted out "thats exactly why I plan to live there for a few years".

The conversation stopped there. (*blush*) So now to see what his response will be to that.

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posted September 23, 2016 12:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And i missed your other question! The bonding LOOOOL

I haven't asked about that. We said "lets get to know each other and see where it goes". So that's what I am doing. I like the traditional male leading...and I am giving plenty of room for that. He did ask me about a week ago if I was seeing other guys. I did not ask in return.

Also because of the distance I guess I assume its natural that we should still be open to other people. I am open, however, I am not actively looking.

I start my MBA accelerated program in a few weeks and I am focused on making my plans happen (to relocate). So finding a man is at a standstill. Hahaha. Plus, I recently got out of the Scorpio deal so I want to take some me time.

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posted September 27, 2016 08:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:Hi Sugaaaar!
Hey Beauts!!
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25: LOL! Actually this did cross my mind... and I've slightly adjusted to make sure I am not coming off cold...
Oh, no worries about that. People can't accuse Pisceans of being cold unless they have ticked us off.

You guys are getting along just peachy-keen to me! And to hear that his "retreats" are getting shorter can't be a bad thing. Since he has a son, that could have been why he was a little slow moving too, so the fact that he wants you to get to know his son (albeit over the phone) shows, imho, that he's got you on his mind for more of something meaningful.
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25:The other day actually he left me a message saying he misses me and is thinking of me, but lets not talk about this now because he is unable to do anything about it right now. I smiled. And understood the feeling. So we both choose to focus on the good now and enjoy what it is right now.
Yes, I think he's trying hard to deal with the distance, maybe more than you, esp. since how it feels about you. It shows in how he is calling you more often and letting you into his personal life (with his son) even though it's over the phone. Aqua, Sag, Pisces and Gems (maybe caps, too) I think can naturally better deal with long distance relationships and be more positive about them. His moon will harass him tho, but it will pay off when he gets to see you again! Did you meet his son in person before you left his country?
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Originally posted by ricanbeauty25: We had a conversation earlier this morning via voice messages where I kinda blurted out "thats exactly why I plan to live there for a few years".

The conversation stopped there. (*blush*) So now to see what his response will be to that.


. He's probably hoping you mean it about living there!

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posted September 27, 2016 08:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Congratulations on starting your MBA program! You're taking the accelerated path? I take my hat off to you. That's kick-ass! lol

I was wondering if he was going to ask you about other guys. So if you guys haven't made any "official" commitment, it's probably not an awkward question. But if you don't feel comfortable asking him, then there's nothing wrong with that. It's interesting that you would say you are open to it. I totally understand your wanting to take it slow after a breakup, esp. if it was a long term one that recently ended. But you don't have to go into that here, one pisces to another, we know.

Do you especially like his country or would you be wanting to live there because he's there?

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posted September 28, 2016 12:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sugar, how was vacation!!!

And thank you, I am super excited about the MBA. Yes... one year and 4 months accelerated MBA with international business, plus still taking my portuguese courses. I will definitely be a bookworm LOL

I like the little green jumpy thingie! LOL

I love his country, before meeting him. Haha! I was taking Portuguese lessons for two semesters before going to visit. I had it in my head that I would live there a year or two before even visiting. Then when I visited for a month, within a few days I felt at home. And I was like... Oh yeah...this is for me! lol.

I did not meet his son. I wouldn't have wanted to either.(*embarrassed face*) (side note: I really need to learn how to make these emojis! haha) I am really weird about those things, esp with children.

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posted September 29, 2016 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I WISH it was vacay, but it was for work. But I'm taking one this month, so looking forward to some "west and weewaxation".

Well, you know what? All the more better then that you fell in love with his country before meeting him -- he was a "value-added" lol

You can get the emojis (here they are called Graemlins, I have NO idea how to pronouce that!) I use right here on Linda. The "green jumpy thingy" (that's cute!) is called "bounce". When you are typing your posts, right under the "Your Reply" text on the left of the textbox you will see 3 links:

*HTML is OFF/ON
*UBB Code is ON/OFF

Smiles Legend

Click the last one (or the link above) and you will get to a page listing all Graemlins mapped to what they mean and how to type them.

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posted September 29, 2016 12:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you are the best Sugar!!

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posted September 30, 2016 01:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LOL!

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posted October 01, 2016 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We have easy ones.

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posted October 02, 2016 03:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Easy smilies, I meant.

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posted October 04, 2016 04:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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We have easy ones.
Yes and as you say on that page "sometimes words alone do not suffice."!

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posted October 05, 2016 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Indeed.

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posted October 09, 2016 03:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote


I love it!!!

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posted October 16, 2016 03:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sugarflapjacks     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sending positive thoughts your way, beauty!

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posted October 19, 2016 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I FEEL THE LOVE RANDALL AND SUGAAAR!

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posted October 19, 2016 03:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sugar, vacation yet??? LOL

I started the program this monday... Jeez... it will be an intense year. But its alright... the pay off will be even greater


Aquarius and I are still speaking consistently... yay! And opening up more, on both ends. I know I can be closed off at times... heh
(admitting it you guys, no one else, haha)

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posted October 19, 2016 04:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ricanbeauty25     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Right now he is in the process of waiting for package I sent him...

I am crafty, and I like to give a little differently. As you both are Pisces, I am sure you will understand. :P

I like to learn the person and give tailored to their likes, so I like to make things or make themed gifts based on their interests.

Anyway, I have learned the hard way that many people do not appreciate those detailed gestures. They rather a gift card or some store bought brand name gift that shows no interest in their personality. The more expensive the better in their eyes. And in essence by not accepting the way I give, I feel they don't fully accept me as I am... because it is part of who I am. But hey we all make adjustments, right? LOL

So in a way this is a gift for him (because it literally popped into my head and I was like OMG I am making this) and its also opening up about how I work as well. Like... hey its me, take it or leave it. Its really important for me to have a relationship with acceptance of personality traits.

He has been attempting to guess what it is for the past two week and finally he gets it Friday... we are both super excited.

So its a two part gift... a movie themed care package with movies, candies, popcorn, a cute retro popcorn holder, and the box inside is painted black and has different movie designs (some tickets, lights camera action, reels, etc) It came out adorable! The second is a wall clock I made with the numbers being replaced by heineken bottle caps (he loves heineken lol). It came out so kick-ass! I wanted to keep it.

So honestly, I have been torturing him because in the end he will never guess what is it. But it makes me happy to see him so giddy for a little gesture. LOL

How are you guys Sugar and Randall!

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