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Topic: Friends = Soulmates
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teasel Knowflake Posts: 11602 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 26, 2018 07:34 AM
I'm reading a book called Text Me When You Get Home, about the friendships between women - how they've been dismissed so often over the years, as something to tide you over, until you meet a man, and get married. I'm really enjoying it. Friendships have always been important to me, and I never understood why women disappeared once they fell in love. But then I've never understood why we're trained to sleep alone, to be independent, take care of ourselves, only to then be told that we should throw ourselves into romance, hunt for a husband, and only relax when we have that ring on our finger - that we're nothing without a partner or spouse (after being trained to sleep alone, and be alone). Meh. I've really gone off the idea of a relationship, with the way I've been treated for being single, been treated by men over the last six years or so, after reaching my mid-thirties, and the way others treated me versus my engaged-then-married sister. Things have changed a bit now, but the hurt that some dish out, over the significant others, is insane. I never told my sister to ditch her husband, who tried to cheat with me - I figured it was her life, her decision. But then to be torn apart and called a liar? Her one concern was him, and getting married. He's still her only concern. I've always thought it's fracking crazy, or crazy-making. IP: Logged |
Ayelet Moderator Posts: 2820 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 28, 2018 12:13 AM
Hi Teasel. Friendships are important to me too. I'm sorry you went through this with your sister. Too bad. I think she was threatened very deeply, if that is how she reacted. I hope she will come to her senses, eventually. I hope, if I ever find true romantic love, I will not neglect my very true friends.IP: Logged |
TaurusVenusGirl Knowflake Posts: 538 From: Heavens Above Registered: Aug 2016
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posted November 29, 2018 01:56 AM
Your sister is a mad woman for not believing you!!! And keeping him! Some women, not me, think that having a man and being married is the most important thing in life! I personally dont get it. I too have always been alone and I wonder now, as Im in my 40's, could I even cope with being in a relationship. I had a friend, she was a lot like me, always single. Anyway this one time she got married, only lasted for 7 months, but she said every woman who she knew in the past treated her so differently after she got married. She said it was like something changed in all of them and they instantly warmed to her and gave her a level of respect she had never experienced before from them. Not sure if it was because she was now a Mrs, OR they all just felt less threatened by her as she looked like a blonde Angelina Jolie, so her husbands wont sleep with her. Either way, I just say enjoy your life and experiences whatever comes your way. If something was meant to be, it will be. Who knows you might enjoying sharing your bed with someone one day! IP: Logged | |